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Post by unmatched on Apr 30, 2016 18:01:42 GMT -5
I don't know. It took me all those years of missing touch and intimacy to realise just how important they are to me and how painful it is (for me) to live in a relationship without them. Would I have got it back then? I doubt it.
Probably I would say:
1. If you have misgivings about anything in your relationship, be very sure what you are doing before you get married.
2. If your sex life isn't fantastic before you get married, it is going to get a whole lot worse over time.
3. Don't ever try and see the potential in somebody. It is demeaning and disrespectful to them and will eat your relationship from the inside out. You need to be fully happy with your partner exactly as they are right now.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 30, 2016 18:05:19 GMT -5
Don't sell yourself short. You have a lot more to offer than you think you do. You deserve more than you think you do.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 30, 2016 18:08:59 GMT -5
Don't get married before age 30. And don't wait for marriage for sex!
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Post by deleted on Apr 30, 2016 18:10:33 GMT -5
1. Never get married.
2. Get a vasectomy. Immediately!
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Post by deleted on Apr 30, 2016 18:42:48 GMT -5
I would also kick my own younger ass to drive the point home.
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Post by Chatter Fox on Apr 30, 2016 19:29:57 GMT -5
Oh man! Just ONE thing?!!! ...hmmmm... I'd tell myself "no relationship is worth betraying yourself over". There's so much damn history behind that. It perhaps sums up the whole issue I've had in relationships but it runs so deep. I'm not sure the younger version of myself would truly get it. Not to the depths of what the statement means to me today. It would probably be the only thing I could say though if I were limited to delivering only one piece of wisdom to my former self. ...but man, ...would I love to sit down with the 18 year old me and have a looooong man to man talk if I were allowed to just spill my guts.  |
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Post by RumRunner on Apr 30, 2016 19:53:41 GMT -5
If you can go back in time and tell your younger self one thing about relationships, what would it be? I would say, "Self? DON'T DO IT!!!! DON'T YOU EVER GET MARRIED!!!! NOT TO THAT ONE!!! YOU KNOW YOU HAVE DOUBTS SO DON'T DO IT!!!" Of course, I probably wouldn't have listened anyway..... |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 30, 2016 20:15:34 GMT -5
If you can go back in time and tell your younger self one thing about relationships, what would it be? "You always loved Gregorian chants..." |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 30, 2016 20:21:50 GMT -5
I don't know. It took me all those years of missing touch and intimacy to realise just how important they are to me and how painful it is (for me) to live in a relationship without them. Would I have got it back then? I doubt it. Probably I would say: 1. If you have misgivings about anything in your relationship, be very sure what you are doing before you get married. 2. If your sex life isn't fantastic before you get married, it is going to get a whole lot worse over time. 3. Don't ever try and see the potential in somebody. It is demeaning and disrespectful to them and will eat your relationship from the inside out. You need to be fully happy with your partner exactly as they are right now. Hmm you know, you don't hear many people say, yeah sex was just ok when we got married, but now, whoa momma we have to keep a fire extinguisher by the bed to put out the flaming sheets! Another lie of preachers. "Saving yourself for marriage will lead to better sex because you can discover your sexuality together." Uh huh. You better hope you like this sexuality you discover...or don't discover. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 30, 2016 21:10:24 GMT -5
The second half of your life will be sexless so for goodness sake appreciate these beautiful willing YOUNG fresh female bodies and don't drink or get high so much before having sex (so you'll remember it better) and....take lots of photographs of the women you have sex with so what memories you do have don't fade away so easily.
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Post by unmatched on May 1, 2016 1:14:54 GMT -5
I don't know. It took me all those years of missing touch and intimacy to realise just how important they are to me and how painful it is (for me) to live in a relationship without them. Would I have got it back then? I doubt it. Probably I would say: 1. If you have misgivings about anything in your relationship, be very sure what you are doing before you get married. 2. If your sex life isn't fantastic before you get married, it is going to get a whole lot worse over time. 3. Don't ever try and see the potential in somebody. It is demeaning and disrespectful to them and will eat your relationship from the inside out. You need to be fully happy with your partner exactly as they are right now.
One last observation (and a very old saying): Women marry men expecting to change them; men marry women expecting them not to change. Both will be disappointed.
Not true for me at all. I got together with my wife and over the first few years she opened up and changed a lot and I got married fully expecting that process to continue. Instead it went rapidly backwards. |
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Post by greatcoastal on May 1, 2016 6:43:05 GMT -5
A relationship is a give and take, not " love is all about giving" , there is nothing wrong with taking to have your needs met.
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Post by Deleted on May 1, 2016 7:12:24 GMT -5
Don't ever let a man tell you you're demanding for having needs. It's natural. Oh, and don't marry a sexually-repressed Catholic.
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Post by wewbwb on May 1, 2016 7:55:52 GMT -5
Don't think it will get better if.... this or that changes. Don't settle because you think you can see what it "could be" and stop compromising when you are the only one doing it.
Stop being a f-ing romantic. "You stupid stupid man..."
(Bonus points for knowing the quote) ☺
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Post by Deleted on May 1, 2016 9:40:29 GMT -5
dont be so giving, affectionate and loving. The more you give the more woman take. Dont give her the last cookie, eat it yourself. You will never be loved, you wont find a woman equal to your intelligence.
Somehow learn that all relationships are temporary. People are extremely selfish and self centered... so stop expecting them to be loyal.
get a kitty!!
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