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Post by TMD on May 1, 2016 10:44:55 GMT -5
LEXUS46 , what is your advice? Feeling sad reading this thread, knowing I probably wouldn't have listened to the advice. After all, I REALLY didn't believe what pregnancy would do to my body, and the woman telling me was 100% right on all points. anyways, It's hard to fathom that "sex" won't be a part of a relationship. My advice? No amount of commitment is worth sacrificing one's being.
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Post by Deleted on May 1, 2016 11:55:14 GMT -5
A relationship is a give and take, not " love is all about giving" , there is nothing wrong with taking to have your needs met. A person who takes and doesn't give is a parasite. A person who gives and doesn't take is an enabler. These people gravitate to each other like iron to a magnet. They can smell each other, they have radar for each other. |
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Post by bballgirl on May 1, 2016 12:10:48 GMT -5
I would tell myself not to trust him ever.
He is selfish. I would say that most men like to give oral not just receive and he is selfish for being a taker and not a giver. I would tell myself not to be so nice, sweet, empathetic, naive and enabling. All he will do is play on those as weakness and manipulate you. I would tell myself that when he fucks up because he gambled away the Christmas money then threatens to leave and turns it around on you and you're begging him not to leave and saying you're sorry please don't go because it's Christmas and what will the kids and his parents think... Instead you tell him to pack his shit and get the hell out!
That you are done cleaning up his fuck ups!
Oh and tell him he sucks in bed too!!
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Post by warmways on May 1, 2016 12:29:38 GMT -5
Would tell her it's better to be single and thriving than to be married and alone to a selfish, controlling man and that it's foolish to think it'll get better because it probably won't and if it doesn't, it will be a long, long road back to herself and to feeling okay again.
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Post by deleted on May 1, 2016 12:47:09 GMT -5
Don't ever let a man tell you you're demanding for having needs. It's natural. Oh, and don't marry a sexually-repressed Catholic. . Hey! I resemble that remark! It's only because I never get to have sex.  ? |
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Post by Chatter Fox on May 1, 2016 13:16:25 GMT -5
A relationship is a give and take, not " love is all about giving" , there is nothing wrong with taking to have your needs met. A person who takes and doesn't give is a parasite. A person who gives and doesn't take is an enabler. These people gravitate to each other like iron to a magnet. They can smell each other, they have radar for each other. Yes. Agreed 100%. For me as well, this was a lesson I had to earn not learn. I had to earn it through suffering. I had to own it. I had to be used up to the point where i broke before the lesson truly sunk in. Someone could have yelled this stuff to me on a daily basis from age 16 to 25 and it probably would have had little effect beyond annoying me and pissing me off. Some things you just have to live through in order to gain the lesson. Sometimes you just can't be told, you need the real life experience. You need the pain in order to truly grow and learn how to treat yourself right. |
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Post by Deleted on May 1, 2016 17:01:48 GMT -5
Don't get married unless you feel PASSION for each other and take on more lovers in your twenties.
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Post by westsider on May 1, 2016 17:28:48 GMT -5
I would tell myself that I shouldn't settle for so-so sex. That it would not get better.
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Post by DryCreek on May 2, 2016 10:25:36 GMT -5
Be...
Passionate - live life to its fullest. Explore. Experiment. Chase your dreams.
Selfish - don't compromise who you are, what you believe, what you dream.
Intolerant - of people who refuse to be passionate or support your dreams.
Oh, yeah... and the winning Powerball numbers will be...
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Post by DryCreek on May 2, 2016 10:37:19 GMT -5
Some great advice here:
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2016 19:41:36 GMT -5
If you can go back in time and tell your younger self one thing about relationships, what would it be? I'd tell him I'd kill him if I didn't value my own life so much. |
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Post by ggold on May 2, 2016 20:00:35 GMT -5
Message to my younger self about relationships:
Don't rush marriage! Find someone you connect with on all levels. Use your voice! Don't let issues go...communicate, communicate, communicate!!!!!
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Post by angryspartan on May 3, 2016 13:30:40 GMT -5
I would tell myself to tell her what our future would be like if she decided intimacy was not important, and ask her if she's game to live a life like that.
Oh, and powerball......I'd probably lead off the conversation with that first.
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