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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2017 19:05:13 GMT -5
My spouse still looks good and looks after herself. She dress very nicely. When we go out out she will put on a nice pair of heels and skirt to show her legs and actually does get attention and looks. I also will dress up (I thought I had better point that out haha) The point is this can be a bit of mind f@@k because she dresses sexy but is not interested in sex (and I know I will get the comment shes getting it somewhere else) but my point is these are things that confuse me and I think a lot of us here are just downright confused.
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Post by shamwow on Mar 27, 2017 19:32:22 GMT -5
My spouse still looks good and looks after herself. She dress very nicely. When we go out out she will put on a nice pair of heels and skirt to show her legs and actually does get attention and looks. I also will dress up (I thought I had better point that out haha) The point is this can be a bit of mind f@@k because she dresses sexy but is not interested in sex (and I know I will get the comment shes getting it somewhere else) but my point is these are things that confuse me and I think a lot of us here are just downright confused. I think you would be truly confused if you were the one wearing the heels and skirt.... |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2017 19:36:16 GMT -5
My spouse still looks good and looks after herself. She dress very nicely. When we go out out she will put on a nice pair of heels and skirt to show her legs and actually does get attention and looks. I also will dress up (I thought I had better point that out haha) The point is this can be a bit of mind f@@k because she dresses sexy but is not interested in sex (and I know I will get the comment shes getting it somewhere else) but my point is these are things that confuse me and I think a lot of us here are just downright confused. I think you would be truly confused if you were the one wearing the heels and skirt.... It's called a kilt .... haha |
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Post by bballgirl on Mar 27, 2017 20:25:55 GMT -5
Well women do like to look pretty. We are wired that way.
Shoes, clothes, shopping, makeup, salons have nothing to do with sex.
I know it's confusing and I'm sorry you are in this situation.
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Post by nancyb on Mar 27, 2017 20:40:04 GMT -5
My spouse still looks good and looks after herself. She dress very nicely. When we go out out she will put on a nice pair of heels and skirt to show her legs and actually does get attention and looks. I also will dress up (I thought I had better point that out haha) The point is this can be a bit of mind f@@k because she dresses sexy but is not interested in sex (and I know I will get the comment shes getting it somewhere else) but my point is these are things that confuse me and I think a lot of us here are just downright confused. My x is a very handsome man. He always looked and smelled good when we went out. Other women told me how lucky I was to be married to him and all the time it was a 14 year sexless marriage. I used to scream inside myself. So fast forward to today. We are almost divorced and I still am physically attracted to him. It doesn't matter that he's a eunuch. I have no answers. The why's don't matter however it has done a real good number on my head my friend. Confusion reigns supreme. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2017 20:46:07 GMT -5
My spouse still looks good and looks after herself. She dress very nicely. When we go out out she will put on a nice pair of heels and skirt to show her legs and actually does get attention and looks. I also will dress up (I thought I had better point that out haha) The point is this can be a bit of mind f@@k because she dresses sexy but is not interested in sex (and I know I will get the comment shes getting it somewhere else) but my point is these are things that confuse me and I think a lot of us here are just downright confused. My x is a very handsome man. He always looked and smelled good when we went out. Other women told me how lucky I was to be married to him and all the time it was a 14 year sexless marriage. I used to scream inside myself. So fast forward to today. We are almost divorced and I still am physically attracted to him. It doesn't matter that he's a eunuch. I have no answers. The why's don't matter however it has done a real good number on my head my friend. Confusion reigns supreme. that's it Nancy I am such a straight forward (blunt) realist and it drives me crazy this confuses me. And reading so many stories here everyone should start with, WTF? |
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Post by Copernicus on Mar 27, 2017 20:59:23 GMT -5
Well women do like to look pretty. We are wired that way. Whoever did the wiring on my wife didn't pass their exams! Haven't seen her in a skirt or dress for nearly two years. Only wears make-up if she's going out to see friends. Can't remember the last time she actually made any effort on her appearance if she wasn't going anywhere. I feel sad for her, that he doesn't place any value on herself. I don't expect her to look good for me (those days are long gone), but I don'y understand why she doesn't do it for herself. |
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Post by allworkandnoplay on Mar 27, 2017 21:01:29 GMT -5
Maybe the confusion is because it is really not "for you". It for the outward show of it all. My W tells me she *has* to do all of this "because it is expected" for women. I totally get the double standard that women are held to in our society - and it is not fair - but I can totally see your point in how frustrating it is when you still find her attractive and there is nothing you can do about it.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2017 21:18:15 GMT -5
Maybe the confusion is because it is really not "for you". It for the outward show of it all. My W tells me she *has* to do all of this "because it is expected" for women. I totally get the double standard that women are held to in our society - and it is not fair - but I can totally see your point in how frustrating it is when you still find her attractive and there is nothing you can do about it. Sorry "allwork" I had to laugh your wife told you she "has" to dress this way .... when I point out my wife looks great... translate: she knows I'm horny she has used that excuse to close me down too. |
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Post by baza on Mar 27, 2017 21:30:29 GMT -5
Perhaps Brother @thecelt you are looking for things that are not necessarily there.
Maybe your missus just likes to - "put on a nice pair of heels and skirt to show her legs" - and there is nothing more than that to it.
Women do NOT always get tizzied up just to impress blokes.
As often as not (IMHO) they will get tizzied up to impress other women.
Or just because they feel like it.
Oftentimes there is no sexual element to this female trait.
Making an assumption that a woman gets tizzied up to send a sexual message to all and sundry and / or you, is not necessarily an accurate assumption.
Personally, I don't think there is any direct link to how your missus dresses and her willingness to fuck you (or anyone else).
The two things are not connected.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2017 21:35:09 GMT -5
Perhaps Brother @thecelt you are looking for things that are not necessarily there. Maybe your missus just likes to - "put on a nice pair of heels and skirt to show her legs" - and there is nothing more than that to it. Women do NOT always get tizzied up just to impress blokes. As often as not (IMHO) they will get tizzied up to impress other women. Or just because they feel like it. Oftentimes there is no sexual element to this female trait. Making an assumption that a woman gets tizzied up to send a sexual message to all and sundry and / or you, is not necessarily an accurate assumption. Personally, I don't think there is any direct link to how your missus dresses and her willingness to fuck you (or anyone else). The two things are not connected. Precisely, you are right that's what I am saying she's doing normal stuff but because of everything else it becomes another mindfuck - doesn't help its spring here and I am horny 24/7 |
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Post by darktippedrose on Mar 28, 2017 0:25:56 GMT -5
My husband wears cologne and showers up for work or to go out to see his friends. But not for me.
I still shave my legs but if I were to rub them on him he'd get disgusted.
I admit, I'm out of shape. and its hard to take care of myself after two bad falls in the snow, and my knee not getting any better.
I want to though.
When I have worn makeup, I did it to make me feel pretty. Wearing nail polish is to make me feel pretty even if no one notices or really cares.
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Post by Carol on Mar 28, 2017 0:53:56 GMT -5
Well women do like to look pretty. We are wired that way. Whoever did the wiring on my wife didn't pass their exams! Haven't seen her in a skirt or dress for nearly two years. Only wears make-up if she's going out to see friends. Can't remember the last time she actually made any effort on her appearance if she wasn't going anywhere. I feel sad for her, that he doesn't place any value on herself. I don't expect her to look good for me (those days are long gone), but I don'y understand why she doesn't do it for herself. I can only speak for myself but I'm pretty much like this too. And I consider myself a cosmetic junkie! I live in and spend most of my money in stores like Ulta and Sephora. Sometimes it is a complete pain in the ass to do, There are times that I'll get all pretty to do errands because I feel like it but more often than not I'll just throw on some yoga pants and a ball cap and I'm out the door. Women have so much demand for their time that things sometimes have to be sacrificed. Plus wearing make up when getting sweaty whether from exercising, cooking, cleaning, etc. is very bad for your skin. I really do not give a rats ass what my husband or anyone else thinks. I never ever do it for any other reason than I want too! It makes ME feel good. I'm thinking you have a very old fashion point of view when it comes to women and beauty..... The days of "putting on a face" like our mothers everyday are gone. |
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Post by kiltedpadre on Mar 28, 2017 1:00:37 GMT -5
I think you would be truly confused if you were the one wearing the heels and skirt.... It's called a kilt .... haha I've worn my kilts with many different accessories, but heels aren't among that list. To each their own though. |
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Post by JMX on Mar 28, 2017 8:12:04 GMT -5
What baza said. I would say about half of my girlfriends dress to impress other women. Another smaller set, just because they are girly and like it and a smaller set (me included when I try) purposely dress to attract men. I know what I am doing when I wear a tight shirt with a plunging neckline. I like catching a man staring at me. I was like this before my SM, and so it remains. |
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