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Post by WindSister on Mar 29, 2017 11:48:09 GMT -5
Sorry to hear of your weekend the extra health troubles your Wife is dealing with.... you are still in my thoughts.
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Post by bballgirl on Mar 29, 2017 15:09:12 GMT -5
So sorry to hear about your wife.
Sending prayers for your family
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Post by obobfla on Mar 29, 2017 21:45:46 GMT -5
A very difficult time for your entire family. Prayers for you, and your families! Keep us updated. Are you getting the support you need? My family has been helping a lot. They have gotten my wife a walker, and my sisters are collecting hats and scarves if chemo takes her hair. A friend sat with her when she went through chemo. My boss has been very understanding. My wife's family is not nearby, but they have been staying in touch. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 1, 2017 19:38:46 GMT -5
How is your wife, you ,and the families?
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Post by obobfla on Apr 1, 2017 20:42:54 GMT -5
My wife just had 600 ml drained, so she is breathing better. The problem now is that doctors have found the fluid buildup is due to the fact that her heart is real weak. She needs to have a valve replaced, so heart surgery is next week. Originally, the strategy was to fix the cancer first, then the heart. Now, the heart has to come first. After she recovers from that, she will have a mastectomy, followed up by a different type of chemo to get the cancer. It's a long process.
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 1, 2017 21:06:29 GMT -5
WOW! A long process....an emotionally draining one at that too!!
Is there a risk of death involved in all this? (talk about it only if you want to) it all sounds very life changing!
Prayers that you keep your strength as things change minute by minute, day by day.
Spoken like a giving honorable caring husband! How about yourself? Time, finances, sleep, emotions, thoughts about the future? You've got a lot on your plate, your going to need a buffet cart!
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Post by obobfla on Apr 1, 2017 21:28:40 GMT -5
There is always that risk. She has a lot of health problems. Normally, the cancer could have been dealt with a lumpectomy, keeping both breasts and avoiding chemo. But that comes with radiation therapy, and she can't take radiation. The heart surgery can be problematic, and with her low white cell count infection is always a risk.
What worries me is my wife's fighting spirit. She is pretty stoic, but she hasn't talked about life after her medical troubles. I asked her if she wanted to travel anywhere or do anything. She couldn't think of anything or anywhere. After dealing with my mom, who willed herself through 20 surgeries, 10 years of kidney dialysis, 8 children, and a transplanted kidney, I have found that a fighting spirit really helps. People really live as long as they want to live. My mom did not expect to live to be 70, but she survived until she was 81. My dad's death, gout, and kidney failure finally did her in.
I really don't know if my wife has that love of life to carry her through this.
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Post by smilin61 on Apr 2, 2017 10:44:45 GMT -5
Big hugs, obobfla.
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Post by misssunnybunny on Apr 2, 2017 16:04:56 GMT -5
Oh, gosh, so sorry to hear about all the difficulties. Sending strength and positive thoughts your way. Be sure to take care of yourself as well. {{hugs}}
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Post by TMD on Apr 2, 2017 17:03:04 GMT -5
Wishing you much strength as you support your wife through this process. My cousin had chemo last summer. It's a very intense process. Hoping for best possible outcome.
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Post by itsjustus on Apr 7, 2017 18:07:53 GMT -5
There is always that risk. She has a lot of health problems. Normally, the cancer could have been dealt with a lumpectomy, keeping both breasts and avoiding chemo. But that comes with radiation therapy, and she can't take radiation. The heart surgery can be problematic, and with her low white cell count infection is always a risk. What worries me is my wife's fighting spirit. She is pretty stoic, but she hasn't talked about life after her medical troubles. I asked her if she wanted to travel anywhere or do anything. She couldn't think of anything or anywhere. After dealing with my mom, who willed herself through 20 surgeries, 10 years of kidney dialysis, 8 children, and a transplanted kidney, I have found that a fighting spirit really helps. People really live as long as they want to live. My mom did not expect to live to be 70, but she survived until she was 81. My dad's death, gout, and kidney failure finally did her in. I really don't know if my wife has that love of life to carry her through this. Aww obobfla, I am so sorry to hear about this. So sorry for all that your wife has to go thru. My ex dealt with this, fortunately early and with only a lumpectomy and radiation, but it's so scary, so debilitating. And it's difficult on you, as a spouse, to help find way's to support. You're very right about that fighting spirit being so important. A dear friend of mine, a man full of a love of life, finally gave up during aggressive chemo treatments. Too much pain. Too much sickness. It shocked us all when he said "I'm done" and only a few weeks later, passed. It made me truly see that hope, and a fighting spirit, the will to live, really do matter.
If travel has been her thing, I'd recommend you try to drill thru her treatment induced apathy and get her out traveling, somewhere, anywhere. At times, it's that apathy that keeps a persons imagination tamped down. You may have to be the one who picks the when and where.
I'm thinking of you both and really looking forward to seeing you in St. Pete, even if I have to hunt you down. (  )
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Post by obobfla on Apr 7, 2017 19:05:52 GMT -5
I am hoping to go to St. Pete, but I am also hoping that my wife stays alive. Right now, it is not looking good. Doctors said she needs the mitral valve in her heart replaced, which requires open heart surgery. However, the first cardiac surgeon who looked at her said she was too weak for surgery. But without the valve replacement, she cannot be strong enough to get cancer treatment. So, we are seeking a second opinion.
With the surgery, there is a chance she may not survive it. But without the surgery, it is almost certain that she would die in a matter of months. She is looking stronger, but it's going to take an awful lot of strength for her to get through this.
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Post by Copernicus on Apr 8, 2017 10:32:14 GMT -5
So sorry for you both. Thoughts and prayers are with you as you make decisions and move forward.
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Post by obobfla on Apr 13, 2017 19:18:18 GMT -5
We just got over the first hurdle, but it was a big one. My wife endured six hours of open heart surgery, having two of her four heart valves replaced and a third one repaired. Doctors also gave her a pacemaker and inserted tubes to remove the fluid that had built up around her lungs. She is in ICU recovering, but all her vital signs look good so far. I admit she's probably not having a lot of fun, but she is alive and looking to make a full recovery. Next up is the breast cancer, which willl involve either a mastectomy, chemotherapy, or both. It's a long road, but the journey is off to a good start now.
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Post by bballgirl on Apr 13, 2017 20:35:56 GMT -5
Glad to hear the procedure was a success.
Wishing a speedy recovery for your wife and prayers for your family.
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