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Post by obobfla on Mar 10, 2017 20:21:48 GMT -5
Got an update. Today we saw an oncologist, who recommended a different strategy. His lab report suggested chemotherapy as opposed to surgery. He said the growths were still new and that the chemo may be able to wipe out the cancer without needing surgery. However, it came with a risk. My wife's heart has a bad mitral valve, so the chemo cannot be too aggressive. But it was better than the alternative of surgery.
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Post by bballgirl on Mar 11, 2017 5:44:31 GMT -5
I'm glad you got some good news. Hang in there are it will all work out.
Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by eternaloptimism on Mar 11, 2017 6:00:04 GMT -5
Got an update. Today we saw an oncologist, who recommended a different strategy. His lab report suggested chemotherapy as opposed to surgery. He said the growths were still new and that the chemo may be able to wipe out the cancer without needing surgery. However, it came with a risk. My wife's heart has a bad mitral valve, so the chemo cannot be too aggressive. But it was better than the alternative of surgery. Yay at least he's willing to try. I imagine surgery can't be ideal either with a heart problem. Fingers crossed over here xxx |
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Post by RexCorvus on Mar 11, 2017 20:24:02 GMT -5
Hi obobfla , I am extremely sorry to hear about your wife. Fucking cancer! I will send her my prayers and healing vibes. I understand what she is going through. I am a 14 year testicular cancer survivor. I was fortunate in that I caught it very early, and it was all contained within one testicle. I “only” had to go through surgery to have the testicle removed and 3 weeks of radiation from my navel to my groin. My oncologist told me that the radiation shouldn’t be bad… That first night I got dreadfully sick to my stomach, like I had never been before nor since. You lose all sense of privacy. I was dropping my pants and being felt up it seemed continuously. Normally a good thing when you’re a member of this board, but the dentist office didn’t understand why I walked in and immediately dropped trou. (LOL, just kidding) You have to maintain a sense of humor about it, but more seriously it was embarrassing. Having to masturbate in a public restroom multiple times to provide immediate sperm samples… ugh. My wife refused to even drive with me and stay in the car when I had those visits. I find that I am still very resentful about her being unable to even sit in the car and wait for me when I had to do this. I tell everyone who asks that “we”, meaning survivors, are the lucky ones. We know how precious each and every day truly is. When I was diagnosed, the grass was never greener, the sky was never bluer, the air was never sweeter. It bring in high focus what is important, which in and of itself fucks with your head. You suddenly want to live every moment as if it were your last, but you can’t do that and be a productive member of society, to be a father, to be a breadwinner. I drew inward and put on a strong face, but inside I was so frightened and mentally a mess. I am grateful she has you to be there and support her. Remember you will need your own support. Be kind to yourself and practice self love. When you need a break, take one. If I can provide any insight or any support please reach out to me. I am always happy to openly share my experience with anyone. We have to be open and communicate about these things so that others can understand. I enjoy joking about testicular cancer. It helps other feel more comfortable. You can’t call me “nuts” maybe a “nut” but not “nuts”. I’m just more aerodynamic that other men. Oh and I can’t get blue “ball s” anymore! RC  |
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Post by nancyb on Mar 11, 2017 20:37:16 GMT -5
obobfla: Just reading this thread tonight. Thoughts and prayers to you and your spouse at this difficult time.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 16, 2017 20:21:22 GMT -5
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Post by obobfla on Mar 17, 2017 13:04:12 GMT -5
Update - my wife started chemo. Today was her first day. Right now, she seems to be tolerating it, but that may change. It is still overwhelming me, but I am hanging in there. Can't wait to get to St. Pete and hang with those of you that are going.
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Post by tamara68 on Mar 20, 2017 6:05:41 GMT -5
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Post by obobfla on Mar 28, 2017 21:25:13 GMT -5
Had the toughest weekend of my life. My wife was so weak after the first round of chemo, that she could barely walk. She needed oxygen practically 24/7. Not only that, her fluid buildup came back, and she was very short of breath. She could not lie flat to sleep. I called her doctor, who told me to bring her into the ER the next day. When we got there, her blood pressure was down to 75/40.
Right now, she is ICU. She will get her lungs drained tomorrow. Her doctors are re-evaluating her treatment and leaning towards a mastectomy as opposed to more chemo. The chemo seemed to be the right treatment at first, as it has been effective dealing with her type of cancer. But the chemo worsened all her other health problems. She is making a slow recovery, but she is not out of the woods yet.
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Post by hopingforachange on Mar 28, 2017 21:36:15 GMT -5
Sorry to hear that. At least she is going thru with the treatment. I recently had to deal with my grandfather during because he didn't want to go to the doctors.
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Post by JMX on Mar 28, 2017 22:02:58 GMT -5
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Post by eternaloptimism on Mar 29, 2017 0:27:04 GMT -5
Shit obobfla. This must be so hard. I'm so sorry. Sending you both love and strength xxx |
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 29, 2017 5:22:44 GMT -5
A very difficult time for your entire family.
Prayers for you, and your families!
Keep us updated.
Are you getting the support you need?
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Post by GeekGoddess on Mar 29, 2017 7:26:16 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear that even at the strength they thought would be ok, this still triggered so many other problems.
She is so lucky to have you supporting her through the challenges- tending to, monitoring, calling & transporting.
Do take care of yourself through this stressful time!
How is your son doing with it? You both need to have help, support, moments of joy to relieve pressure.
Self-care isn't selfish.
My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 29, 2017 9:30:26 GMT -5
Had the toughest weekend of my life. My wife was so weak after the first round of chemo, that she could barely walk. She needed oxygen practically 24/7. Not only that, her fluid buildup came back, and she was very short of breath. She could not lie flat to sleep. I called her doctor, who told me to bring her into the ER the next day. When we got there, her blood pressure was down to 75/40. Right now, she is ICU. She will get her lungs drained tomorrow. Her doctors are re-evaluating her treatment and leaning towards a mastectomy as opposed to more chemo. The chemo seemed to be the right treatment at first, as it has been effective dealing with her type of cancer. But the chemo worsened all her other health problems. She is making a slow recovery, but she is not out of the woods yet. She is so fortunate to have you. |
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