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Post by rejected101 on Jan 4, 2017 16:39:38 GMT -5
I was reading through Facebook earlier and eureka! It struck me like someone had turned on a light switch. Why doesn't Facebook add (in the 'about' section) your sexual frequency preferences. It would go a long way to stopping these massive libido mismatch's going on.
All jokes aside it probably wouldn't. I know that much because my wife would never have been honest about it as she would have known that her choice in potential partners would have all but disappeared. Say nothing and continue with the big con.
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Post by bballgirl on Jan 4, 2017 16:44:54 GMT -5
Exactly it would just be considered a social media bait and switch.
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Post by novembercomingfire on Jan 4, 2017 20:52:27 GMT -5
Well, no incentive for being honest about being sex averse or sex hostile ...
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Post by rejected101 on Jan 4, 2017 20:55:57 GMT -5
Well, no incentive for being honest about being sex averse or sex hostile ... Nope but might be nice for some of these people to be open from the start instead of selling perspective new partners a lie. |
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Post by novembercomingfire on Jan 4, 2017 21:01:24 GMT -5
Well, no incentive for being honest about being sex averse or sex hostile ... Nope but might be nice for some of these people to be open from the start instead of selling perspective new partners a lie. Agreed, but that isn't the kind of honesty that such folk could stomach. And to be sure, i am one who fell for the hoodwink before marriage. i was also far too trusting that things would somehow get better. |
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Post by rejected101 on Jan 4, 2017 21:02:54 GMT -5
Nope but might be nice for some of these people to be open from the start instead of selling perspective new partners a lie. Agreed, but that isn't the kind of honesty that such folk could stomach. And to be sure, i am one who fell for the hoodwink before marriage. i was also far too trusting that things would somehow get better. Snap. |
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Post by baza on Jan 4, 2017 21:05:17 GMT -5
Thing is, if you have been spun a line of bullshit, and you swallowed it - or tacitly accepted it - or begrudgingly accepted it, then you are equally complicit in the situation.
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Post by novembercomingfire on Jan 4, 2017 21:08:30 GMT -5
Thing is, if you have been spun a line of bullshit, and you swallowed it - or tacitly accepted it - or begrudgingly accepted it, then you are equally complicit in the situation. I'll see your "tacitly and/or begrudgingly accepted it" and raise you "capitulated to it in the most selfloathing way possible" ... |
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Post by baza on Jan 4, 2017 21:29:32 GMT -5
Yep.
That is a perfectly legitimate view to take too Brother novembercomingfire.
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Post by novembercomingfire on Jan 4, 2017 21:33:30 GMT -5
Yep. That is a perfectly legitimate view to take too Brother novembercomingfire. It pretty well sucks, actually, but i own it. All of it. |
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Post by brian on Jan 4, 2017 22:55:14 GMT -5
You have to think about things from their perspective... sex is a tool used to get what you want. They would use lots of sex to get you to commit to a marriage. They would use sex to have children. They use the allure of sex to get you to do things for them... usually without actually delivering. Aside from those specific times, they really don't want to have sex, so once they have the marriage, and have the kids, sex has no tangible value to them and should therefore be removed from their lives.
What they cannot seem to fathom though, is that they are destroying the marriage this way, but are too selfish to see refusal as a cause for so many things.
All this reminds me of something I heard years ago... probably fictional and most likely part of a joke, but it's relevant here:
A couple was celebrating their 75th wedding anniversary and was asked what their secret was for such a long-lasting relationship. The woman answered, "It's easy! In order to keep your man happy and faithful, you need to keep his belly full and his balls empty."
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Post by solodriver on Jan 5, 2017 5:54:17 GMT -5
Nope but might be nice for some of these people to be open from the start instead of selling perspective new partners a lie. Agreed, but that isn't the kind of honesty that such folk could stomach. And to be sure, i am one who fell for the hoodwink before marriage. i was also far too trusting that things would somehow get better. I was too trusting that things would stay the same AFTER we got married. And STUPID me fell for that one TWICE!
I guess shame on me!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 5, 2017 11:10:01 GMT -5
I was reading through Facebook earlier and eureka! It struck me like someone had turned on a light switch. Why doesn't Facebook add (in the 'about' section) your sexual frequency preferences. It would go a long way to stopping these massive libido mismatch's going on. All jokes aside it probably wouldn't. I know that much because my wife would never have been honest about it as she would have known that her choice in potential partners would have all but disappeared. Say nothing and continue with the big con. Unfortunately, people think that their preferences are normal. So they would just say average or above average when there is no objective measurement. Or they know that no one would want someone with no libido, so they just lie. But yes, it is a big con. Then in marriage, the refuser says, "I had no idea sex was important to you! I thought you just loved me for me!" |
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Post by rejected101 on Jan 5, 2017 11:18:07 GMT -5
I was reading through Facebook earlier and eureka! It struck me like someone had turned on a light switch. Why doesn't Facebook add (in the 'about' section) your sexual frequency preferences. It would go a long way to stopping these massive libido mismatch's going on. All jokes aside it probably wouldn't. I know that much because my wife would never have been honest about it as she would have known that her choice in potential partners would have all but disappeared. Say nothing and continue with the big con. Unfortunately, people think that their preferences are normal. So they would just say average or above average when there is no objective measurement. Or they know that no one would want someone with no libido, so they just lie. But yes, it is a big con. Then in marriage, the refuser says, "I had no idea sex was important to you! I thought you just loved me for me!" I've heard that one before! "I thought you wanted to be with me for me". Almost putting a really negative spin on the fact that you want a physical relationship too! |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 5, 2017 11:22:13 GMT -5
Unfortunately, people think that their preferences are normal. So they would just say average or above average when there is no objective measurement. Or they know that no one would want someone with no libido, so they just lie. But yes, it is a big con. Then in marriage, the refuser says, "I had no idea sex was important to you! I thought you just loved me for me!" I've heard that one before! "I thought you wanted to be with me for me". Almost putting a really negative spin on the fact that you want a physical relationship too! I have written a lot about it on my blog. The address is below if you want to read it. |
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