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Post by pfviento on Jan 7, 2017 15:28:03 GMT -5
I jokingly compare it to the terrorism alert level or fire hazard warning. Today the threat level is elevated. (Travel).
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Post by beachguy on Jan 8, 2017 18:56:43 GMT -5
...Remember, there is a Mrs cagedtiger also. Is it so unthinkable that he takes her feelings into consideration? After all she is the woman he married. You are NOT - none of are - privy to ALL the information. Actually I was taking her feelings and needs into consideration. Let's step back and look at the big picture, as presented by cagedtiger. Over a month ago he made it pretty clear he was leaving. His wife went into a total emotional breakdown, even trashing his house. There does not appear to be any change- she is still, according to his reports, and to be very blunt, a basket case. He can leave his marriage in this state of Limbo Hell for years if he wants, but in my experience she won't ever come to terms with the end of her marriage. When that day comes she will have a very bad day. But as time goes on that bad day will be progressively worse. The delay is arguably a form of torture for her, because she already knows the end game is coming. And I say that because my STBX was more or less in that state for a decade, as I kept moving the clock back. In the end, every day that went by saw her less and less able to deal with the inevitable separation. In retrospect I think I made a very bad decision by delaying. I could be very wrong and maybe she's different than my STBX. But I think he's living in a VERY dangerous situation here. And as she declines even further his mental health will suffer too. Of course, I could be all wrong. Maybe she's just a manipulative controller that is faking an emotional breakdown as a form of extreme emotional blackmail. I know a guy that did that to his wife to sucker her back in a few weeks after she left. Much drama, had his kid call 911, a ride to the hospital in an ambulance. He is an emotionally abusive controller. He even enlisted the aid of his mother and their kids to gang up on her. As soon as she came back he had a miraculous recovery. In his hospital room she went over the list of her needs that needed to be met. He just ignored her, he had her back, on his terms, and that is all he cared about. I don't know what happened after that because he cut off all forms of her outside communication, including her private cell phone.
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