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Post by wewbwb on Jan 3, 2017 14:46:30 GMT -5
cagedtiger - Move at the pace that is right for you. No two situations are the same and there is a LOT that must be thought of. Do not make a mistake that will cost you financially, emotionally, or spiritually. You cannot "unring" this bell.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2017 15:15:20 GMT -5
Btw, cagedtiger, early last month you said you were leaving but just waiting for a polite time to do so - after the holidays. In the interim your wife has made it abundantly clear that you have no other option. It's January. It's the THIRD of January. When cagedtiger, or anyone else for that matter, leaves their marriage, is no one's business but their own. |
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Post by shamwow on Jan 3, 2017 15:16:24 GMT -5
Back on EP you and I discussed my hour glass analogy. Well when I moved out I bought an hourglass for my bedroom. Your post made me think of that. I think your clock is a great idea! I guess if I ever get into a serious ltr again I won't have a clock on the wall but it will be made clear that when they lose interest in my pussy I will lose interest in them. At this age and I'm less than five years from 50, I don't have time for bullshit. Life for me in my future is all about enjoyment, pleasure and good health habits. Great post beachguy Amen, sister! |
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Post by cagedtiger on Jan 3, 2017 15:16:41 GMT -5
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Post by shamwow on Jan 3, 2017 15:20:05 GMT -5
Btw, cagedtiger , early last month you said you were leaving but just waiting for a polite time to do so - after the holidays. In the interim your wife has made it abundantly clear that you have no other option. It's January. It's the THIRD of January. When cagedtiger, or anyone else for that matter, leaves their marriage, is no one's business but their own. Wouldn't it be interesting if every person in the world enduring a SM were all able to leave their refuser on the same day. That would be a ton of pent-up sexual repression all hitting the streets at the same time. |
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Post by baza on Jan 3, 2017 15:54:54 GMT -5
This concept of the ILIASM doomsday clock puts me very much in mind of Yossarian moving the bombing line beyond Bologna in the book "Catch 22".
A doomsday clock or other apparatus is essentially a simple delaying tactic.
It helps you kid yourself that you ARE going to do something, "tomorrow".
Personally, I ran a wall full of metaphoric doomsday clocks back in the day, and, as they fell due, I readjusted them time after time after time.
I bullshitted myself for years that I was "about to do something".
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Post by bballgirl on Jan 3, 2017 16:17:35 GMT -5
It's the THIRD of January. When cagedtiger, or anyone else for that matter, leaves their marriage, is no one's business but their own. Wouldn't it be interesting if every person in the world enduring a SM were all able to leave their refuser on the same day. That would be a ton of pent-up sexual repression all hitting the streets at the same time. If you plan to initiate this movement, could you give us a heads up on the date so I can buy stock in Hilton and Marriot! Hotel rooms would be booked for days and months! |
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Post by shamwow on Jan 3, 2017 16:23:57 GMT -5
Wouldn't it be interesting if every person in the world enduring a SM were all able to leave their refuser on the same day. That would be a ton of pent-up sexual repression all hitting the streets at the same time. If you plan to initiate this movement, could you give us a heads up on the date so I can buy stock in Hilton and Marriot! Hotel rooms would be booked for days and months! I think that even park benches would probably have a waiting list... |
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Post by beachguy on Jan 3, 2017 16:27:16 GMT -5
Btw, cagedtiger, early last month you said you were leaving but just waiting for a polite time to do so - after the holidays. In the interim your wife has made it abundantly clear that you have no other option. It's January. It's the THIRD of January. When cagedtiger, or anyone else for that matter, leaves their marriage, is no one's business but their own. When I see someone obviously drowning it's hard to resist reminding him he's an arm's reach of the pool ladder. What he does is up to him, of course. There are no life guards in that pool |
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Post by thebaffledking on Jan 3, 2017 16:53:37 GMT -5
The clock is not for your support network, it's for your spouse. At least my version. I think spouses should see the clock ticking as it ticks away to eventual divorce. There is one common denominator here, our spouses are very smug in the idea that they don't have to have sex or intimacy with us, and other than an occasional argument that they always win (by virtue of us not walking out the door right then and there) they suffer no consequences. They are happy, they aren't stressed out like us. They should share that stress equally, and it should grow and grow until the clock strikes midnight and the nuke is fired, as promised. That would go over very, very badly. She still plays the "you're attacking me/ keeping a score on me" card pretty much any time I raise any issues that I'm having with her or in the relationship. Then she shuts down, starts crying, or otherwise brings any real talk to a grinding halt. Ignore her.......she can talk to the clalk........I mean tock to the clock.........OH FUCK, YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN  . Remove yourself from being the Bounty quicker-picker-upper to all her spills! THAT'S THE TRAP!!! |
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Post by bballgirl on Jan 3, 2017 16:54:50 GMT -5
If you plan to initiate this movement, could you give us a heads up on the date so I can buy stock in Hilton and Marriot! Hotel rooms would be booked for days and months! I think that even park benches would probably have a waiting list... Funny!! On second thought car repair places where they do shocks and alignments lol |
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Post by wewbwb on Jan 3, 2017 17:17:38 GMT -5
beachguy - I certainly see that point of view. Divorce is an option. Time tables and schedules do help. However, I do not think that someone - anyone - should be "pushed" into decisions that change lives. Remember, there is a Mrs cagedtiger also. Is it so unthinkable that he takes her feelings into consideration? After all she is the woman he married. You are NOT - none of are - privy to ALL the information. So please resist the urge to be the lifeguard. None of this is one size fits all.
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Post by lyn on Jan 3, 2017 17:43:37 GMT -5
I guess if I ever get into a serious ltr again I won't have a clock on the wall but it will be made clear that when they lose interest in my pussy I will lose interest in them. At this age and I'm less than five years from 50, I don't have time for bullshit. Life for me in my future is all about enjoyment, pleasure and good health habits. Great post beachguy A big AMEN to that @bbgirl! I will be using this➡️ "it will be made clear that when they lose interest in my pussy I will lose interest in them." |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2017 19:38:37 GMT -5
This concept of the ILIASM doomsday clock puts me very much in mind of Yossarian moving the bombing line beyond Bologna in the book "Catch 22". A doomsday clock or other apparatus is essentially a simple delaying tactic. It helps you kid yourself that you ARE going to do something, "tomorrow". Personally, I ran a wall full of metaphoric doomsday clocks back in the day, and, as they fell due, I readjusted them time after time after time. I bullshitted myself for years that I was "about to do something". The same thing happened to me. I kept setting deadlines for myself that I never met. |
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Post by TMD on Jan 4, 2017 1:32:24 GMT -5
Isn't this analogous to quitting anything... smoking, food, alcohol, sexless marriages, whatever?
Eventually you are so f'n sick of staring at whatever it is that is weighing you down, that you quit, or throw clock at the wall, and you move forward with whatever little or courageous courage you have.
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. Remove yourself from being the Bounty quicker-picker-upper to all her spills! THAT'S THE TRAP!!!
