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Post by unmatched on Dec 31, 2016 10:42:51 GMT -5
Of course they do. Some guys would shag a greased knothole. Doesn't mean they want a long term relationship with the plank. And some of us would keep dating the plank long after it was clear that the knothole didn't even exist! |
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Post by shamwow on Dec 31, 2016 10:51:21 GMT -5
Of course they do. Some guys would shag a greased knothole. Doesn't mean they want a long term relationship with the plank. True, but I think the comment was in regard to men finding her attractive. In that case, boners don't lie and she's right. I think what you're saying is that a boner doesn't signify a long-term desire / commitment. I think you're also right. I've had attractive women that the only way I'd be able to get it up is for a hate fucking. I've also had women who were not necessarily as attractive that I could sport wood just casually thinking about them. It just depends on the question being asked. |
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Post by csl on Dec 31, 2016 11:52:20 GMT -5
Of course they do. Some guys would shag a greased knothole. Doesn't mean they want a long term relationship with the plank. And some of us would keep dating the plank long after it was clear that the knothole didn't even exist! That's when Einstein's definition of insanity comes into play: ~Insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result.~ |
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Post by beachguy on Dec 31, 2016 12:40:21 GMT -5
After hearing #1 - I would thank him for his honesty and tell him we are done here. Focus on yourself and the future for the rest of your life and whatever way you want that to look like. Yes, this. And he may be a shit but only 1% of refusers here are honest enough to say that. confused100 just needs to decide what is so valuable in this marriage to stay with a man who admits to wanting to be a roommate for life. Your kids will grow up in a loveless marriage, teaching them that that is normal. Staying for the kids is not necessarily in their benefit. I know, my parents had an SM and I have no doubt that is part of why I accepted mine (SM from the wedding day) |
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Post by beachguy on Dec 31, 2016 12:44:41 GMT -5
You may think your H is awesome now. But you've only been celibate for 2 months, and sexless for a couple years. In 10 years you may not feel that way. You should read about us that have gone decades and see how we feel about our refusing spouses now. And your pattern is headed quickly to total celibacy, if you aren't there yet.
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Post by bballgirl on Dec 31, 2016 12:49:38 GMT -5
You may think your H is awesome now. But you've only been celibate for 2 months, and sexless for a couple years. In 10 years you may not feel that way. You should read about us that have gone decades and see how we feel about our refusing spouses now. And your pattern is headed quickly to total celibacy, if you aren't there yet. [ That's true!! Give it ten more years you will hate him for what he put you through. Of course I still stand by taking some responsibility and enabling his behavior so my ex isn't 100% at fault but I'll say 90%. We actually get along ok now for the sake of the kids. |
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Post by beachguy on Dec 31, 2016 12:51:39 GMT -5
You may think your H is awesome now. But you've only been celibate for 2 months, and sexless for a couple years. In 10 years you may not feel that way. You should read about us that have gone decades and see how we feel about our refusing spouses now. And your pattern is headed quickly to total celibacy, if you aren't there yet. [ That's true!! Give it ten more years you will hate him for what he put you through. Of course I still stand by taking some responsibility and enabling his behavior so my ex isn't 100% at fault but I'll say 90%. We actually get along ok now for the sake of the kids. , your responsibility is that you didn't bail out when you got back from the honeymoon. As with me... |
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Post by bballgirl on Dec 31, 2016 12:57:30 GMT -5
[ That's true!! Give it ten more years you will hate him for what he put you through. Of course I still stand by taking some responsibility and enabling his behavior so my ex isn't 100% at fault but I'll say 90%. We actually get along ok now for the sake of the kids. , your responsibility is that you didn't bail out when you got back from the honeymoon. As with me... I know but I was young, naive, he cheated - I thought no other man would want me. You are right I should have told him to take a hike! |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2016 15:05:44 GMT -5
Of course they do. Some guys would shag a greased knothole. Doesn't mean they want a long term relationship with the plank. And there are men who might be ideal lovers, with whom I would not want a long term relationship. Women no longer think we have to marry a guy just because we would do him. The 1950s are over. |
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