Thank you, (deeply) for your concern! bballgirl and I do live in the same state, with the same laws. All I can guess is that different attorneys take different approaches to solving conflicts.
1) Me leaving the house and the children for a month would be abandonment. Once papers are served there are restrictions on moving children.
2) What was supposed to be a quick collaborative law divorce, has intentionally been drawn out by my STBX. She has the right to keep changing attorneys. She has the right to make things look, and end up worse for herself and the children. It takes longer for the final decisions to happen.
The more this occurs, the more moving of funds (present and past)(large amounts, 25% of our total assets, not just 1% or 2% here and there) is uncovered, and the more this whole case looks more in my favor.
3) Nothing has been decided about the sale of the house. I want it sold or my half purchased by my STBX. Lots of prep needs to be done to sell this home. It's back to the MONEY. She would let that drag on and on. I am advised to stay, she can move out.
4) Mediation was a waste of time. My STBX hired a new attorney, last moment. Things are going to be way over-litigated.
5) My STBX continues to violate the laws that were placed upon her. My attorney is very aware of this. These things will be brought to light when it is time to ask the judge for a speedy trial to end this vile situation. But even that won't happen until the end of Feb.
All part of taking risks and stepping into the unknown. All a new learning experience for me.
