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Post by csl on Dec 28, 2016 10:07:16 GMT -5
Please tell me you saw this... Ain't nobody got time for that is a bit Of an anthem in my house! Okay, now THAT freaks me out. |
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Post by DryCreek on Dec 28, 2016 13:07:17 GMT -5
As I'm scooping the cat's litter box (which was obviously way overdue- she says it's her chore though) before we left for the weekend: "How often do you think that should be scooped? I honestly don't even think to do it if I don't set a reminder for myself." She's had the cat for 10 years now. That sounds like an excuse tactic of someone who *knows* the task should have been done but is trying to play it down. "Oh, was it needing to be done? I would've done it, of course, but I didn't realize it was needed yet." I've lived with similar situations (not W). She sets her threshold just high enough that you get fed up and do it first. The solution is to let her realize her own consequences and deal with the aftermath. Problem is, you don't want to live in a place that smells like a cat box, and where the cat has started using the carpet. She won't own up to her responsibilities until you're gone, if then. With kids you can start removing other privileges until they raise their awareness. Not usually possible with an adult. |
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Post by shamwow on Dec 28, 2016 13:14:53 GMT -5
So some of my wife's family may be spending the night tonight. That's cool since I really like her family.
What I'm not such a fan of is the number of flies in the house. Yesterday, with the help of my son, we took out 375 of them (we counted). We almost made it to the record of 450. The flies are primarily from my daughter's rabbit (she obviously doesn't clean it enough). This doesn't seem to bother my wife or daughter, but drives me bat-shit crazy. Every couple months the flies get out of control and my son and I go on the hunt. We do come up with some pretty creative methods of mass insect murder. I'm going to lay down the law with my daughter. She needs to keep it up, or the rabbit moves to the garage.
My daughter doesn't want to keep the cage as clean as she should. She's 16, and I understand teenage laziness. What I can't understand, though, is how my wife (stay at home mom) can live in the place all day without dealing with it. There are, literally, more flies in our living room than there are at the barn my daughter keeps her goat at.
I was just thinking about this when I saw the "hoarder" photos in this thread.
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Post by eternaloptimism on Dec 28, 2016 13:48:51 GMT -5
So some of my wife's family may be spending the night tonight. That's cool since I really like her family. What I'm not such a fan of is the number of flies in the house. Yesterday, with the help of my son, we took out 375 of them (we counted). We almost made it to the record of 450. The flies are primarily from my daughter's rabbit (she obviously doesn't clean it enough). This doesn't seem to bother my wife or daughter, but drives me bat-shit crazy. Every couple months the flies get out of control and my son and I go on the hunt. We do come up with some pretty creative methods of mass insect murder. I'm going to lay down the law with my daughter. She needs to keep it up, or the rabbit moves to the garage. My daughter doesn't want to keep the cage as clean as she should. She's 16, and I understand teenage laziness. What I can't understand, though, is how my wife (stay at home mom) can live in the place all day without dealing with it. There are, literally, more flies in our living room than there are at the barn my daughter keeps her goat at. I was just thinking about this when I saw the "hoarder" photos in this thread. Oh fuck. That's horrid. I have to say you have more patience than me... bunny would be out! Or in the pot (and I'm a vegetarian ha ha) |
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Post by shamwow on Dec 28, 2016 13:53:09 GMT -5
So some of my wife's family may be spending the night tonight. That's cool since I really like her family. What I'm not such a fan of is the number of flies in the house. Yesterday, with the help of my son, we took out 375 of them (we counted). We almost made it to the record of 450. The flies are primarily from my daughter's rabbit (she obviously doesn't clean it enough). This doesn't seem to bother my wife or daughter, but drives me bat-shit crazy. Every couple months the flies get out of control and my son and I go on the hunt. We do come up with some pretty creative methods of mass insect murder. I'm going to lay down the law with my daughter. She needs to keep it up, or the rabbit moves to the garage. My daughter doesn't want to keep the cage as clean as she should. She's 16, and I understand teenage laziness. What I can't understand, though, is how my wife (stay at home mom) can live in the place all day without dealing with it. There are, literally, more flies in our living room than there are at the barn my daughter keeps her goat at. I was just thinking about this when I saw the "hoarder" photos in this thread. Oh fuck. That's horrid. I have to say you have more patience than me... bunny would be out! Or in the pot (and I'm a vegetarian ha ha) Yeah, yet another thing that is reaching the breaking point. |
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Post by eternaloptimism on Dec 28, 2016 13:58:45 GMT -5
It only takes 1 breaking point shamwow and you'll be out. Chances are it'll be something that appears little and insignificant to other mortals. Just 1. |
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Post by shamwow on Dec 28, 2016 15:41:09 GMT -5
It only takes 1 breaking point shamwow and you'll be out. Chances are it'll be something that appears little and insignificant to other mortals. Just 1. Yeah, it's kind of funny. My "6 year plan" from a year ago turned into a "3 year plan" when I decided I'd rather just go to prison straight out for 6 years. In recent months, I've been trying to figure out how to do a split quicker. I have a feeling that once I have a lawyer selected, all it will take is that one trigger. Until then, though, I am a calm, cool, collected customer. |
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Post by cagedtiger on Dec 28, 2016 15:56:56 GMT -5
As I'm scooping the cat's litter box (which was obviously way overdue- she says it's her chore though) before we left for the weekend: "How often do you think that should be scooped? I honestly don't even think to do it if I don't set a reminder for myself." She's had the cat for 10 years now. That sounds like an excuse tactic of someone who *knows* the task should have been done but is trying to play it down. "Oh, was it needing to be done? I would've done it, of course, but I didn't realize it was needed yet." I've lived with similar situations (not W). She sets her threshold just high enough that you get fed up and do it first. The solution is to let her realize her own consequences and deal with the aftermath. Problem is, you don't want to live in a place that smells like a cat box, and where the cat has started using the carpet. She won't own up to her responsibilities until you're gone, if then. With kids you can start removing other privileges until they raise their awareness. Not usually possible with an adult. I'm not sticking around long enough to institute corrective behavioral treatment on a grown adult. |
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Post by shamwow on Dec 28, 2016 15:58:54 GMT -5
That sounds like an excuse tactic of someone who *knows* the task should have been done but is trying to play it down. "Oh, was it needing to be done? I would've done it, of course, but I didn't realize it was needed yet." I've lived with similar situations (not W). She sets her threshold just high enough that you get fed up and do it first. The solution is to let her realize her own consequences and deal with the aftermath. Problem is, you don't want to live in a place that smells like a cat box, and where the cat has started using the carpet. She won't own up to her responsibilities until you're gone, if then. With kids you can start removing other privileges until they raise their awareness. Not usually possible with an adult. I'm not sticking around long enough to institute corrective behavioral treatment on a grown adult. I dunno...It depends on the treatment. Electroshock comes to mind. So does waterboarding. Of course, you could also electroshock while waterboarding (just be sure to make sure you're not grounded too). |
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Post by JonDoe on Dec 28, 2016 16:00:01 GMT -5
So some of my wife's family may be spending the night tonight. That's cool since I really like her family. What I'm not such a fan of is the number of flies in the house. Yesterday, with the help of my son, we took out 375 of them (we counted). We almost made it to the record of 450. The flies are primarily from my daughter's rabbit (she obviously doesn't clean it enough). This doesn't seem to bother my wife or daughter, but drives me bat-shit crazy. Every couple months the flies get out of control and my son and I go on the hunt. We do come up with some pretty creative methods of mass insect murder. I'm going to lay down the law with my daughter. She needs to keep it up, or the rabbit moves to the garage. My daughter doesn't want to keep the cage as clean as she should. She's 16, and I understand teenage laziness. What I can't understand, though, is how my wife (stay at home mom) can live in the place all day without dealing with it. There are, literally, more flies in our living room than there are at the barn my daughter keeps her goat at. I was just thinking about this when I saw the "hoarder" photos in this thread.  |
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Post by shamwow on Dec 28, 2016 16:02:01 GMT -5
So some of my wife's family may be spending the night tonight. That's cool since I really like her family. What I'm not such a fan of is the number of flies in the house. Yesterday, with the help of my son, we took out 375 of them (we counted). We almost made it to the record of 450. The flies are primarily from my daughter's rabbit (she obviously doesn't clean it enough). This doesn't seem to bother my wife or daughter, but drives me bat-shit crazy. Every couple months the flies get out of control and my son and I go on the hunt. We do come up with some pretty creative methods of mass insect murder. I'm going to lay down the law with my daughter. She needs to keep it up, or the rabbit moves to the garage. My daughter doesn't want to keep the cage as clean as she should. She's 16, and I understand teenage laziness. What I can't understand, though, is how my wife (stay at home mom) can live in the place all day without dealing with it. There are, literally, more flies in our living room than there are at the barn my daughter keeps her goat at. I was just thinking about this when I saw the "hoarder" photos in this thread. Not quite that large, but yup. Took my son and I around 2 hours to get all the ones we can see. Fun for a 12 year old boy. Fucking repulsive for a 44 year old man. |
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Post by cagedtiger on Dec 28, 2016 16:23:32 GMT -5
I'm not sticking around long enough to institute corrective behavioral treatment on a grown adult. I dunno...It depends on the treatment. Electroshock comes to mind. So does waterboarding. Of course, you could also electroshock while waterboarding (just be sure to make sure you're not grounded too). I'd rather spend the energy on improving myself for a future partner that will actually be eager and excited to fuck my brains out. |
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Post by JonDoe on Dec 29, 2016 5:53:24 GMT -5
shamwow Time to lay down the law, either the rabbit or the wife has to go! 
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Post by shamwow on Dec 29, 2016 12:28:28 GMT -5
shamwow Time to lay down the law, either the rabbit or the wife has to go! Law laid down to daughter. I ever see anything like that again, and the bunny gets a nice new hutch and some fresh air. |
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Post by skguy on Dec 30, 2016 23:10:49 GMT -5
I think the thing that freaks me out the most is that from an outsider's perspective I have a great marriage. If I exit, I will be the villain for ending it. Sometimes I feel a bit like Leonidas in 300 when his soldiers were concerned that by meeting with the Persian king, they could kill him. To which he replied (paraphrase) "If they kill me, all of Sparta will go to war. Pray we are so lucky." In my case, I feel the same way about my wife. I pray that she would have a affair so that I won't have to be the bad guy. Is that jacked up thinking, or what? I used to hope I'd catch my H in an affair. I even once had a dream he served me with divorce papers and then I realized if the marriage is going to end then it's up to me to do it. I had the chance once. I had an out. I chose to forgive. I certainly have mixed feelings about my decision. Plus I never did truly forgive. You're probably right about you having to do it yourself. I don't come on here often anymore. But when I do I see all the great people. And I always wish something great for all. |
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