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Post by eternaloptimism on Dec 20, 2016 11:45:56 GMT -5
CagedTiger: In my days as a visiting nursing I have seen situations worse than yours. In hoarder houses!! Living with that chaos must be atrocious. You have my sincere sympathy. Yeah, "Almost looks like a Hoarder House" was my first thought when I saw these pictures, but I knew that that was not what it was in this case ... That is yet another terrible condition. I seem to recall two cases where a hoarder got squashed and trapped by their stacked 'treasures' collapsing on top of them. There's been a recent case like that here, a couple of hoarder, mainly newspapers, she was bedbound, he was her carer. The papers caught alight somehow, and because there was no way he could get her out of the bed and past all the clutter, he chose to stay with her and they both perished in the fire. My cynical brain immediately thought how could he have been that attached to her...surely they weren't having SEX still were they? I hereby name my inappropriate initial thoughts on things "iliasmitis". It's a disease you don't realise you have until you know you don't want it anymore! No wonder were all a bit skewed in our thinking! I guess they were lucky really. Soulmates until the very end. They loved each other that much. They must have been treating each other right, or something! I didn't read their backstory. |
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Post by nancyb on Dec 20, 2016 19:46:26 GMT -5
EO: I have seen some incredible acts of true love in my practice.  |
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Post by Pinkberry on Dec 22, 2016 6:22:19 GMT -5
The realization that my ex just did not care about me or us freaked me out. For a long time, I wondered why all the time. It's the quintessential question that the refused ask themselves in attempt to sort out the madness. I thought, "If he loves me, why would he..." Fill in any phrase at the end there because it wasn't just about the sex, it was about a complete lack of intimacy, lack of respect, lack of responsibility, setting a poor example for our children, and more. But my exercise in madness always started with the assumption that he loved me. It turns out, he didn't. That is a super shitty thing to realize about your spouse.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 26, 2016 19:09:26 GMT -5
-----The ONE thing about my SM that freaks me out the most?-----
How little I feel I know him after almost 20 years together. The intimacy is just not there, neither physically nor emotionally. Little wonder we're sexless with no connection there.
If there's a next time around for me, every card on the table between us will be face up. We will talk about everything. And I mean everything. If he can't be raw and real with me? If he can't tell me a story (or several) from his life that brings him to tears - in front of me - then he can FUCK OFF!
I want ALL of it from my next man. And he will be self-aware and sensitive and humble enough to know all of it and share all of it.
I'll be seeking the emotional connection first next time. If the fella ain't got time for that, or doesn't know how to do it, he'll not get further with me.
There! I spoke my mind. I'm getting better at that every day.
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Post by shamwow on Dec 26, 2016 19:53:56 GMT -5
-----The ONE thing about my SM that freaks me out the most?----- How little I feel I know him after almost 20 years together. The intimacy is just not there, neither physically nor emotionally. Little wonder we're sexless with no connection there. If there's a next time around for me, every card on the table between us will be face up. We will talk about everything. And I mean everything. If he can't be raw and real with me? If he can't tell me a story (or several) from his life that brings him to tears - in front of me - then he can FUCK OFF! I want ALL of it from my next man. And he will be self-aware and sensitive and humble enough to know all of it and share all of it. I'll be seeking the emotional connection first next time. If the fella ain't got time for that, or doesn't know how to do it, he'll not get further with me. There! I spoke my mind. I'm getting better at that every day. I'm hoping that my next go around will be completely Bullshit free as well. I ain't in my 20s anymore and don't have time for that shit. |
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Post by shamwow on Dec 26, 2016 19:54:40 GMT -5
-----The ONE thing about my SM that freaks me out the most?----- How little I feel I know him after almost 20 years together. The intimacy is just not there, neither physically nor emotionally. Little wonder we're sexless with no connection there. If there's a next time around for me, every card on the table between us will be face up. We will talk about everything. And I mean everything. If he can't be raw and real with me? If he can't tell me a story (or several) from his life that brings him to tears - in front of me - then he can FUCK OFF! I want ALL of it from my next man. And he will be self-aware and sensitive and humble enough to know all of it and share all of it. I'll be seeking the emotional connection first next time. If the fella ain't got time for that, or doesn't know how to do it, he'll not get further with me. There! I spoke my mind. I'm getting better at that every day. I'm hoping that my next go around will be completely Bullshit free as well. I ain't in my 20s anymore and don't have time for that shit. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 26, 2016 20:27:19 GMT -5
Amen shamwow, bullshit-free indeed! |
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Post by ggold on Dec 27, 2016 11:16:07 GMT -5
-----The ONE thing about my SM that freaks me out the most?----- How little I feel I know him after almost 20 years together. The intimacy is just not there, neither physically nor emotionally. Little wonder we're sexless with no connection there. If there's a next time around for me, every card on the table between us will be face up. We will talk about everything. And I mean everything. If he can't be raw and real with me? If he can't tell me a story (or several) from his life that brings him to tears - in front of me - then he can FUCK OFF! I want ALL of it from my next man. And he will be self-aware and sensitive and humble enough to know all of it and share all of it. I'll be seeking the emotional connection first next time. If the fella ain't got time for that, or doesn't know how to do it, he'll not get further with me. There! I spoke my mind. I'm getting better at that every day. WELL SAID @elle !! I feel the EXACT same way!!!!! xo |
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Post by ggold on Dec 27, 2016 11:17:38 GMT -5
-----The ONE thing about my SM that freaks me out the most?----- How little I feel I know him after almost 20 years together. The intimacy is just not there, neither physically nor emotionally. Little wonder we're sexless with no connection there. If there's a next time around for me, every card on the table between us will be face up. We will talk about everything. And I mean everything. If he can't be raw and real with me? If he can't tell me a story (or several) from his life that brings him to tears - in front of me - then he can FUCK OFF! I want ALL of it from my next man. And he will be self-aware and sensitive and humble enough to know all of it and share all of it. I'll be seeking the emotional connection first next time. If the fella ain't got time for that, or doesn't know how to do it, he'll not get further with me. There! I spoke my mind. I'm getting better at that every day. I'm hoping that my next go around will be completely Bullshit free as well. I ain't in my 20s anymore and don't have time for that shit. I hear you!!!! I am getting closer to 50...."ain't nobody got time for that!" |
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Post by cagedtiger on Dec 28, 2016 8:29:48 GMT -5
As I'm scooping the cat's litter box (which was obviously way overdue- she says it's her chore though) before we left for the weekend:
"How often do you think that should be scooped? I honestly don't even think to do it if I don't set a reminder for myself."
She's had the cat for 10 years now.
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Post by JonDoe on Dec 28, 2016 8:45:25 GMT -5
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Post by eternaloptimism on Dec 28, 2016 9:11:04 GMT -5
Oh lord Jesus it's a fire! |
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Post by eternaloptimism on Dec 28, 2016 9:41:20 GMT -5
Please tell me you saw this...
Ain't nobody got time for that is a bit
Of an anthem in my house!
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Post by ggold on Dec 28, 2016 9:50:33 GMT -5
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Post by ggold on Dec 28, 2016 9:51:00 GMT -5
Please tell me you saw this... Ain't nobody got time for that is a bit Of an anthem in my house! Same here!!! |
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