First day on this group

Put children into that equation, and that really stirs up the pot! As they get older, more independent, you begin to feel less wanted and needed.  I have read hundreds of articles on marriage, ( another part of the phase many of us go through, doing tons of research, while our spouse sees nothing wrong with themselves) they all warn about putting your spouse on the back burner ( on a stove that doesn't work) and children become a top priority.

stand up for yourself, take ground, find your joy!

You can't wear a white suit into a coal mine, not touch anything, and expect to come out clean!