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Post by bballgirl on Oct 10, 2016 10:00:34 GMT -5
At what point did you start using the term STBX?
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Post by bballgirl on Oct 10, 2016 10:02:11 GMT -5
I started using it in a post I made on EP last September after I told him I was planning to divorce him.
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Post by greatcoastal on Oct 10, 2016 10:49:38 GMT -5
I started using it in a post I made on EP last September after I told him I was planning to divorce him. Same here! After we had the fast food dinner announcement, then the talk with the family. I don't use it many other places though. Most of the time it's either, she, her or her first name. Refuser, and manipulative controller, came before STBX did. Something that is strived for in my Divorce Recovery class is calling your spouse " ex" after the divorce. Ex husband or ex wife, not husband or wife. I find myself telling the kids, your mom, or using her first name a lot more. |
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Post by GeekGoddess on Oct 10, 2016 14:38:21 GMT -5
I didn't use it until I had the letter written (to inform him of my decision & plans). The lawyer had been retained but hadn't filed yet. A few days later, the paperwork was initiated. 6 months (or 7) later, I was divorced. A few months after that, we finished the sale of our property.
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Post by baza on Oct 10, 2016 21:18:52 GMT -5
STBX is not a term I used very often, if at all.
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I used to use the term - "Financial Partner" while we were still nominally married.
Then, I switched over to "ex missus" when we split.
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The "soon to be" part of soon to be ex implies that legal action is underway and a finishing date is known.
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I think, personally, that the term "STBX" gets thrown around pretty loosely in here at times.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2016 0:54:18 GMT -5
STBX is not a term I used very often, if at all. - I used to use the term - "Financial Partner" while we were still nominally married. Then, I switched over to "ex missus" when we split. - The "soon to be" part of soon to be ex implies that legal action is underway and a finishing date is known. - I think, personally, that the term "STBX" gets thrown around pretty loosely in here at times. Even once legal proceedings have begun, we've seen enough horror stories of vindictive or leg clinging spouses to know that it still may not be soon. |
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Post by itsjustus on Oct 15, 2016 23:37:34 GMT -5
Different question....
How long....have you been saying STBX?
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Post by bballgirl on Oct 16, 2016 8:05:52 GMT -5
Different question.... How long....have you been saying STBX? Good point!! I said it four and a half months. Mostly written form on EP. The tough part was remembering to call him my ex and not husband. That took about a month to get used to. |
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Post by Pinkberry on Oct 25, 2016 22:58:53 GMT -5
When I started making moves that were specifically geared towards getting out, I started using that term with a few of my close friends. Around ILIASM, I continued to refer to him as ADBX.
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Post by DryCreek on Oct 26, 2016 1:08:56 GMT -5
When I started making moves that were specifically geared towards getting out, I started using that term with a few of my close friends. Around ILIASM, I continued to refer to him as ADBX. A friend on EP just shortened it to DB... it became our nickname for him. |
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Post by JonDoe on Oct 26, 2016 21:39:25 GMT -5
When I started making moves that were specifically geared towards getting out, I started using that term with a few of my close friends. Around ILIASM, I continued to refer to him as ADBX. What is ADBX? Adult Diaper Boy eX? |
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Post by bballgirl on Oct 27, 2016 7:13:59 GMT -5
When I started making moves that were specifically geared towards getting out, I started using that term with a few of my close friends. Around ILIASM, I continued to refer to him as ADBX. What is ADBX? Adult Diaper Boy eX? DB is douchebag not sure about the A, maybe asexual or just ass. |
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Post by DryCreek on Oct 27, 2016 10:38:40 GMT -5
ADBX = Asshole Douchebag Ex. When simply 'douchebag' is just too generous. It sounds like Fiery's ex definitely qualifies. Maybe for a few more adjectives too. |
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Post by itsmytime2be on Oct 27, 2016 15:53:39 GMT -5
As soon as we decided to divorce. I started using it on EP first, then my writing. In the real world he's just X-Asshole.
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Post by Pinkberry on Oct 29, 2016 5:01:14 GMT -5
ADBX = Asshole Douchebag Ex. When simply 'douchebag' is just too generous. It sounds like Fiery 's ex definitely qualifies. Maybe for a few more adjectives too. Yep, thanks to the stylings of Lady A at the old ILIASM. |
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