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Post by solodriver on Sept 27, 2016 20:37:41 GMT -5
Sometimes, for whatever reason we take my car. If I'm driving he starts "back seat driving". I slow down to pull over and ask him if he wants to drive. He says no, and crosses his arms and humphs and sighs the entire time. If he drive my car he messes with all my settings and complains about every aspect of the driving experience. He tells me how much better such and such car would have been. It's worse if it's a car I chose. Your H is an asshole. There, I said it. Hey Smartkat,
I won't be the least offended if you say my wife's an asshole.
There I said it
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Post by eternaloptimism on Sept 27, 2016 23:45:02 GMT -5
Well I win this one gang. My knob head doesn't even have a licence. I spend every day on the road. He still thinks he knows how to drive better than me. What a spanner!
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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 28, 2016 6:33:20 GMT -5
The lease on my car expired. Now we have to go out car shopping. I ask "Why can't we just buy this car". He replies "The technology is outdated and the residual is too high. It's not worth it". I am going through the same thing. Please look at this as a golden opportunity to fill your needs, to use your judgement, to make mistakes, and learn from them. It's transportation. If someone likes you for the car you drive, well....what does that say about them. If you like it, if you like how it looks, that's what matters. This relates very much to making choices, and getting over the fog (Fear, Obligation, Guilt). You have proven that you can do this many times daily and in the past. Ask a friend, do research on line, go visit a dealer or two, without him. Let him grumble, it just verifies the correctness of your decision. I am traveling today to look at two used cars, with a friend/neighbor. I also discovered, (the hard,embarrassing way) that my truck for the last 14 yrs is in my wife's name. Another game changer. |
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Post by bballgirl on Sept 28, 2016 6:46:52 GMT -5
The lease on my car expired. Now we have to go out car shopping. I ask "Why can't we just buy this car". He replies "The technology is outdated and the residual is too high. It's not worth it". I am going through the same thing. Please look at this as a golden opportunity to fill your needs, to use your judgement, to make mistakes, and learn from them. It's transportation. If someone likes you for the car you drive, well....what does that say about them. If you like it, if you like how it looks, that's what matters. This relates very much to making choices, and getting over the fog (Fear, Obligation, Guilt). You have proven that you can do this many times daily and in the past. Ask a friend, do research on line, go visit a dealer or two, without him. Let him grumble, it just verifies the correctness of your decision. I am traveling today to look at two used cars, with a friend/neighbor. I also discovered, (the hard,embarrassing way) that my truck for the last 14 yrs is in my wife's name. Another game changer. I was curious how the truck being in her name is a game changer? If it was acquired while you were married isn't it half yours regardless. And if she stole the keys so you couldn't drive it, she'd be getting her tires slashed on her car and the truck. But that's me! |
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Post by cagedtiger on Sept 28, 2016 7:07:20 GMT -5
Well I win this one gang. My knob head doesn't even have a licence. I spend every day on the road. He still thinks he knows how to drive better than me. What a spanner! Has he ever had a license, or has he always been that lame? |
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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 28, 2016 7:31:12 GMT -5
I am going through the same thing. Please look at this as a golden opportunity to fill your needs, to use your judgement, to make mistakes, and learn from them. It's transportation. If someone likes you for the car you drive, well....what does that say about them. If you like it, if you like how it looks, that's what matters. This relates very much to making choices, and getting over the fog (Fear, Obligation, Guilt). You have proven that you can do this many times daily and in the past. Ask a friend, do research on line, go visit a dealer or two, without him. Let him grumble, it just verifies the correctness of your decision. I am traveling today to look at two used cars, with a friend/neighbor. I also discovered, (the hard,embarrassing way) that my truck for the last 14 yrs is in my wife's name. Another game changer. I was curious how the truck being in her name is a game changer? If it was acquired while you were married isn't it half yours regardless. And if she stole the keys so you couldn't drive it, she'd be getting her tires slashed on her car and the truck. But that's me! The truck is considered joint property. She has to sign off for the truck she refuses. The truck has many things wrong with it, it has negative value. What would have been a win win situation, will not happen. She wants to be in control. She can not realize that she is taking from the big pot that will be divided anyways. The fact that I am going out and bying another vehicle without her control annoys the hell out of her. The tags belong to her as well. She can keep them. Its all money that would not have to come out of the pot. There is no communication, on her part or compromise. She is upset because I will not start spending the half of our savings that my attorney tells me not to touch for daily expenses, car repair, AC repair for the house, etc... |
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Post by eternaloptimism on Sept 28, 2016 7:36:12 GMT -5
Well I win this one gang. My knob head doesn't even have a licence. I spend every day on the road. He still thinks he knows how to drive better than me. What a spanner! Has he ever had a license, or has he always been that lame? Always that lame Tiger! |
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Post by bballgirl on Sept 28, 2016 8:15:45 GMT -5
I was curious how the truck being in her name is a game changer? If it was acquired while you were married isn't it half yours regardless. And if she stole the keys so you couldn't drive it, she'd be getting her tires slashed on her car and the truck. But that's me! The truck is considered joint property. She has to sign off for the truck she refuses. The truck has many things wrong with it, it has negative value. What would have been a win win situation, will not happen. She wants to be in control. She can not realize that she is taking from the big pot that will be divided anyways. The fact that I am going out and bying another vehicle without her control annoys the hell out of her. The tags belong to her as well. She can keep them. Its all money that would not have to come out of the pot. There is no communication, on her part or compromise. She is upset because I will not start spending the half of our savings that my attorney tells me not to touch for daily expenses, car repair, AC repair for the house, etc... Good for you! Annoying the heck out of her sounds like fun!! Once you get home with the new vehicle I'd rub her face in it with: "Who wants to go for a ride in daddy's new car?" and take the kids for ice cream. Crap like that! If it has negative equity then she can enjoy the debt. Good for you not letting her control you! |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Sept 28, 2016 9:23:44 GMT -5
The lease on my car expired. Now we have to go out car shopping. I ask "Why can't we just buy this car". He replies "The technology is outdated and the residual is too high. It's not worth it". I am going through the same thing. Please look at this as a golden opportunity to fill your needs, to use your judgement, to make mistakes, and learn from them. It's transportation. If someone likes you for the car you drive, well....what does that say about them. If you like it, if you like how it looks, that's what matters. This relates very much to making choices, and getting over the fog (Fear, Obligation, Guilt). You have proven that you can do this many times daily and in the past. Ask a friend, do research on line, go visit a dealer or two, without him. Let him grumble, it just verifies the correctness of your decision. I am traveling today to look at two used cars, with a friend/neighbor. I also discovered, (the hard,embarrassing way) that my truck for the last 14 yrs is in my wife's name. Another game changer. It's interesting. He's talking about the Ford C-max now, the car I think is most practical. A plug in electric that uses gas to power a generator. That's pretty cool. I have been looking at used Lexus hybrids, an ES or NX. |
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Post by Dan on Sept 28, 2016 10:45:09 GMT -5
I know! He is! He even agrees that he is an Ass Hole. (The capitalization signifies his official title). Unfortunately, I seem to attract that type. Let's see.... "Sapiosexual" means "attracted to or sexually aroused by the intellect"... What would you call "attracted to or sexually aroused by assholes"? Maybe: "Rectophilia"? Or: "Sphinctosexual"? |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Sept 28, 2016 10:56:58 GMT -5
I know! He is! He even agrees that he is an Ass Hole. (The capitalization signifies his official title). Unfortunately, I seem to attract that type. Let's see.... "Sapiosexual" means "attracted to or sexually aroused by the intellect"... What would you call "attracted to or sexually aroused by assholes"? Maybe: "Rectophilia"? Or: "Sphictosexual"? LOL! Intelligent flirting. You are definitely cute. |
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Post by cagedtiger on Sept 28, 2016 13:34:59 GMT -5
All I want, all I've been begging for, is a nice used all wheel drive, turbocharged, manual transmission hatchback or wagon to replace my 12 year old, 175,000 mile college beater that's about to start costing us upwards of $1000 a repair as all the expensive stuff wears out. I've even found examples of exactly what I want when they pop up (they're painfully rare nowadays) for $20000 or less. Nope, we can't afford it. But how much does all that takeout cost every month?
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Post by petrushka on Sept 28, 2016 16:44:16 GMT -5
I know! He is! He even agrees that he is an Ass Hole. (The capitalization signifies his official title). Unfortunately, I seem to attract that type. Let's see.... "Sapiosexual" means "attracted to or sexually aroused by the intellect"... What would you call "attracted to or sexually aroused by assholes"? Maybe: "Rectophilia"? Or: "Sphinctosexual"? It's called 'buggery' or 'being a bugger'.  |
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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 28, 2016 18:53:47 GMT -5
I am going through the same thing. Please look at this as a golden opportunity to fill your needs, to use your judgement, to make mistakes, and learn from them. It's transportation. If someone likes you for the car you drive, well....what does that say about them. If you like it, if you like how it looks, that's what matters. This relates very much to making choices, and getting over the fog (Fear, Obligation, Guilt). You have proven that you can do this many times daily and in the past. Ask a friend, do research on line, go visit a dealer or two, without him. Let him grumble, it just verifies the correctness of your decision. I am traveling today to look at two used cars, with a friend/neighbor. I also discovered, (the hard,embarrassing way) that my truck for the last 14 yrs is in my wife's name. Another game changer. It's interesting. He's talking about the Ford C-max now, the car I think is most practical. A plug in electric that uses gas to power a generator. That's pretty cool. I have been looking at used Lexus hybrids, an ES or NX. Hey, I just got home with my 2015 car. The whole event took waaaay longer than expected, my phone died on me, my son went with me, he was hours late for work, my daughter missed the beginning of her youth group both my other two sons took the other cars for school and work. Yet there sits our aging 2000 Yukon. My wife was home, her father there, no one starved, she made dinner. It reminds me of all those weekend trips,business trips, trips to disney, when I step up to the plate to fill in, sorry rambling a bit there. I thought about you as I made my mistakes, got lost three times, had to decide between two great deals, spend $3000 more and get a car that's 3 years newer,with the new design, or spend less and have money for the next boys car to share? My chest had knots in it for the last three days. yet, imagine......someone who wanted to go with me, to be with me, to help me, to eat out together, cheer me on, hear what my thoughts are, share their ideas, give me positive feedback, and encouragement when needed, and when it was all done say, " I am so proud of you, you handled that so well, You have been staring at my body all day, I have been wanting to rip your clothes off since this morning, it's starting to rain, let's go break in the back seat! Yea......imagine! |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Sept 28, 2016 19:03:41 GMT -5
greatcoastal. Excellent find with your new car! I found some used options that we will look into. When we were looking at the Ford C-Max the salesman demonstrated that the back seats fold flat. I looked at my husband and said "Oh look, on my next road trip I can just bring a sleeping bag and camp in the car". He looked at me with horror so I gave him a smile and he relaxed. He thinks I was kidding....
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