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Post by Rhapsodee on Sept 26, 2016 13:21:32 GMT -5
How about a MINI Cooper? I love mine! I wanted one! I even designed it. I'm making it the next car we test drive. A friend of mine traded in his BMW for one and loves it. |
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Post by wewbwb on Sept 26, 2016 13:32:07 GMT -5
I just do not understand the underlying concept here. If it is your car then tell him to fuck off and get what you want. Buy the car you drive now if that is what you want. It is your car and his desires do not mean shit. Residual is too high? Negotiate! For the record, my W picks out the car she wants or needs. My role in the process is to look for potential advantages of one model versus another and to deliver a heartfelt "bullshit" if the salesperson tries to overcharge. Go look at some muscle cars, make him twitch. Sometimes, for whatever reason we take my car. If I'm driving he starts "back seat driving". I slow down to pull over and ask him if he wants to drive. He says no, and crosses his arms and humphs and sighs the entire time. If he drive my car he messes with all my settings and complains about every aspect of the driving experience. He tells me how much better such and such car would have been. It's worse if it's a car I chose.  |
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Post by cagedtiger on Sept 26, 2016 14:24:37 GMT -5
Ugh, this is reminding of driving with my wife. She has a Toyota Camry- underpowered 4-banger, slushy transmission that can never make up it's mind, numb, vague steering, mushy brakes- I hate driving it, especially coming from my 6-speed TSX (with engine, brake, and suspension upgrades done by the previous owner). In my (lead footed) opinion, to get up to highway speeds in a timely manner when merging onto a freeway is pretty important, and if I apply throttle in a way that causes the transmission to kick down a gear or two to hunt for a sweet spot in the engine's nonexistent torque curve, I'm instantly getting yelled at: "stop doing that, it's not good for the engine to strain that hard!"
There's a metaphor in there somewhere for our respective attitudes on most things in life, I think...
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Post by Dan on Sept 26, 2016 15:22:03 GMT -5
The lease on my car expired. Now we have to go out car shopping. I ask "Why can't we just buy this car". He replies "The technology is outdated and the residual is too high. It's not worth it". Here is a script for you: Dear hubby,
I have decided that -- when it comes to my spouse -- his mentality is outdated and the emotional maintenance is too high.
It's not worth it to keep this model.
I plan to upgrade at my earliest convenience.
Don't worry: I'll take lots of test drives before I pick the next model and get rid of my current one.
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Post by wewbwb on Sept 26, 2016 15:22:32 GMT -5
How about a MINI Cooper? I love mine! I wanted one! I even designed it. I'm making it the next car we test drive. A friend of mine traded in his BMW for one and loves it. Get the supercharged "S" version.  |
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Post by Dan on Sept 26, 2016 15:42:16 GMT -5
The lease on my car expired. Now we have to go out car shopping. I ask "Why can't we just buy this car". : A serious question: What is just stopping you from going out an buying a car... on your own, without him? March in to the dealership, sign the lease-conversion, and just drive away? Or: just go pick out a used car that you want? Bargain the best you can (without him), get instant credit approval, then sign and drive (without him)? I know, I know... a HUGE amount of marital discord will ensue. It would be a stick in his eye. But he already has a sizable one up his butt, what is another small one in the eye? --- On a different note: my wife is AWESOME at bargaining down used car prices. I mean, she has NO shame. She does her homework, reads every Consumer Reports "used car edition", checks the Kelly Blue Book value... then when the salesman asks "so what will it take to get you to buy this $18000 car" (and when they ask, they are usually looking at me), she'll SHAMELESSLY and with a straight face says "$11000". The salesman is SHOCKED at the low-ball, and SHOCKED that I'm letting "the wife" do the talking at this phase in the negotiation. And the haggling goes from there. It is a marvel to watch: him squirm, and her do her work. We've gotten SERIOUSLY good deals on our cars that way. Sadly, it is one of the few things I TRULY admire about my wife! |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Sept 26, 2016 16:27:11 GMT -5
Dan. I have no idea why I haven't done that. It just hasn't occurred to me. I did make an offer on our house and sign the papers while he was out of town. He survived that.
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Post by jim44444 on Sept 26, 2016 21:00:24 GMT -5
Dan . I have no idea why I haven't done that. It just hasn't occurred to me. I did make an offer on our house and sign the papers while he was out of town. He survived that. Do it. Buy your car. |
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Post by solodriver on Sept 26, 2016 23:53:04 GMT -5
I just do not understand the underlying concept here. If it is your car then tell him to fuck off and get what you want. Buy the car you drive now if that is what you want. It is your car and his desires do not mean shit. Residual is too high? Negotiate! For the record, my W picks out the car she wants or needs. My role in the process is to look for potential advantages of one model versus another and to deliver a heartfelt "bullshit" if the salesperson tries to overcharge. Go look at some muscle cars, make him twitch. Sometimes, for whatever reason we take my car. If I'm driving he starts "back seat driving". I slow down to pull over and ask him if he wants to drive. He says no, and crosses his arms and humphs and sighs the entire time. If he drive my car he messes with all my settings and complains about every aspect of the driving experience. He tells me how much better such and such car would have been. It's worse if it's a car I chose. That's why I'm now Solo Driver. My wife starts complaining as soon as she gets in the car. Says the car is too low for her to sit in. Then she starts "right seat driving". When I ask her if she wants to drive she says No because she doesn't feel comfortable driving it. She then just "brakes" if she thinks I'm not slowing down or see the car in front of me. Mind you, we've never had an accident the whole time we've been married.
She informed me after we bought her car last year that I wasn't allowed to drive it because I have to adjust the seat and mirrors for me and I never got them readjusted back to exactly the way she likes them. (God knows I tried).
So I now drive Solo everywhere we go. She drives her car and I drive mine. What a happy relationship!
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Post by Rhapsodee on Sept 26, 2016 23:58:06 GMT -5
Sometimes, for whatever reason we take my car. If I'm driving he starts "back seat driving". I slow down to pull over and ask him if he wants to drive. He says no, and crosses his arms and humphs and sighs the entire time. If he drive my car he messes with all my settings and complains about every aspect of the driving experience. He tells me how much better such and such car would have been. It's worse if it's a car I chose. That's why I'm now Solo Driver. My wife starts complaining as soon as she gets in the car. Says the car is too low for her to sit in. Then she starts "right seat driving". When I ask her if she wants to drive she says No because she doesn't feel comfortable driving it. She then just "brakes" if she thinks I'm not slowing down or see the car in front of me. Mind you, we've never had an accident the whole time we've been married.
She informed me after we bought her car last year that I wasn't allowed to drive it because I have to adjust the seat and mirrors for me and I never got them readjusted back to exactly the way she likes them. (God knows I tried).
So I now drive Solo everywhere we go. She drives her car and I drive mine. What a happy relationship!
That's awful! My hub is a very good but aggressive driver. To stay calm, I ride with my eyes closed whenever he's doing his zig zag thing. He asked me, "Don't you trust me?" I replied "Yes, that's why I close my eyes." |
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Post by solodriver on Sept 27, 2016 0:00:54 GMT -5
That's why I'm now Solo Driver. My wife starts complaining as soon as she gets in the car. Says the car is too low for her to sit in. Then she starts "right seat driving". When I ask her if she wants to drive she says No because she doesn't feel comfortable driving it. She then just "brakes" if she thinks I'm not slowing down or see the car in front of me. Mind you, we've never had an accident the whole time we've been married.
She informed me after we bought her car last year that I wasn't allowed to drive it because I have to adjust the seat and mirrors for me and I never got them readjusted back to exactly the way she likes them. (God knows I tried).
So I now drive Solo everywhere we go. She drives her car and I drive mine. What a happy relationship!
That's awful! My hub is a very good but aggressive driver. To stay calm, I ride with my eyes closed whenever he's doing his zig zag thing. He asked me, "Don't you trust me?" I replied "Yes, that's why I close my eyes." LOL, my wife did the same thing out last few trips together. Claimed she was tired and trying to catch a nap.
And I'm not an aggressive driver.
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Post by petrushka on Sept 27, 2016 0:45:36 GMT -5
Sometimes, for whatever reason we take my car. If I'm driving he starts "back seat driving". I slow down to pull over and ask him if he wants to drive. He says no, and crosses his arms and humphs and sighs the entire time. If he drive my car he messes with all my settings and complains about every aspect of the driving experience. He tells me how much better such and such car would have been. It's worse if it's a car I chose. That's why I'm now Solo Driver. My wife starts complaining as soon as she gets in the car. Says the car is too low for her to sit in. Then she starts "right seat driving". When I ask her if she wants to drive she says No because she doesn't feel comfortable driving it. She then just "brakes" if she thinks I'm not slowing down or see the car in front of me. Mind you, we've never had an accident the whole time we've been married.
She informed me after we bought her car last year that I wasn't allowed to drive it because I have to adjust the seat and mirrors for me and I never got them readjusted back to exactly the way she likes them. (God knows I tried).
So I now drive Solo everywhere we go. She drives her car and I drive mine. What a happy relationship!
Memory seats! Easy solution. My wife and I do not quibble over driving, we are both (I think) fairly competent and both love to drive hard and fast. But she's 6" shorter than I am. Memory seats are the perfect answer :-) But .... I don't think it would work in your case. She sounds like 'the optional airbag in the passenger seat'. |
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Post by DryCreek on Sept 27, 2016 8:59:56 GMT -5
My hub is a very good but aggressive driver. To stay calm, I ride with my eyes closed whenever he's doing his zig zag thing. He asked me, "Don't you trust me?" I replied "Yes, that's why I close my eyes." That guy behind him in a very large truck would like to push him off the road for doing this. The rest of us on the road are not his personal obstacle course, nor is our personal safety at his whim. So often after all this, these people end up having made no progress when we all get stopped at the next light. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 27, 2016 9:25:06 GMT -5
I just do not understand the underlying concept here. If it is your car then tell him to fuck off and get what you want. Buy the car you drive now if that is what you want. It is your car and his desires do not mean shit. Residual is too high? Negotiate! For the record, my W picks out the car she wants or needs. My role in the process is to look for potential advantages of one model versus another and to deliver a heartfelt "bullshit" if the salesperson tries to overcharge. Go look at some muscle cars, make him twitch. Sometimes, for whatever reason we take my car. If I'm driving he starts "back seat driving". I slow down to pull over and ask him if he wants to drive. He says no, and crosses his arms and humphs and sighs the entire time. If he drive my car he messes with all my settings and complains about every aspect of the driving experience. He tells me how much better such and such car would have been. It's worse if it's a car I chose. Your H is an asshole. There, I said it. |
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Post by Rhapsodee on Sept 27, 2016 9:54:29 GMT -5
@smartkat, LOL.
I know! He is! He even agrees that he is an Ass Hole. (The capitalization signifies his official title).
Unfortunately, I seem to attract that type.
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