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Post by cagedtiger on Sept 15, 2016 10:25:01 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2016 10:51:41 GMT -5
One more line: "...OK let's get it on." |
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Post by bballgirl on Sept 15, 2016 12:07:17 GMT -5
Then go out for pizza!  |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2016 12:10:58 GMT -5
I have never had the above conversation....
"What can I do to make you happy?"
(Girl unrolls list, most expensive at top)
Every answer to this question involves me spending money....funny how that works....
If she asked that question....my response would not have monetary implications.
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Post by eternaloptimism on Sept 15, 2016 13:25:14 GMT -5
One more line: "...OK let's get it on." Or simply "Let's fuck". Ya? |
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Post by eternaloptimism on Sept 15, 2016 13:26:21 GMT -5
I have never had the above conversation.... "What can I do to make you happy?" (Girl unrolls list, most expensive at top) Every answer to this question involves me spending money....funny how that works.... If she asked that question....my response would not have monetary implications. You know you're asking the wrong girl x |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2016 15:19:52 GMT -5
I have never had the above conversation.... "What can I do to make you happy?" (Girl unrolls list, most expensive at top) Every answer to this question involves me spending money....funny how that works.... If she asked that question....my response would not have monetary implications. You know you're asking the wrong girl x It's the only answer I have gotten from any girl I was involved with.... |
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Post by GeekGoddess on Sept 15, 2016 15:59:51 GMT -5
You know you're asking the wrong girl x It's the only answer I have gotten from any girl I was involved with.... You picked the wrong girls. Or maybe they picked you but you've accepted that? Hm. Maybe your acceptance of that sort of treatment is something that could be shaped or changed by the future? That is - if you aren't willing to stop spending money on her, maybe you could share with her what emotions it brings up. Maybe you could share that it makes you feel like a wallet not a partner. Maybe. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2016 16:07:34 GMT -5
It's the only answer I have gotten from any girl I was involved with.... You picked the wrong girls. Or maybe they picked you but you've accepted that? Hm. Maybe your acceptance of that sort of treatment is something that could be shaped or changed by the future? That is - if you aren't willing to stop spending money on her, maybe you could share with her what emotions it brings up. Maybe you could share that it makes you feel like a wallet not a partner. Maybe. Kinda hard to do with the W....makes me look like a Grinch since I make double what she does.... |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2016 16:50:47 GMT -5
Then go out for pizza! Great idea! |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2016 17:04:20 GMT -5
What a lovely gif cagedtiger. Thank you for sharing it. Sometimes we just need to be reminded to simplify and refocus on what is really important. Hugs. |
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Post by GeekGoddess on Sept 15, 2016 18:02:18 GMT -5
You picked the wrong girls. Or maybe they picked you but you've accepted that? Hm. Maybe your acceptance of that sort of treatment is something that could be shaped or changed by the future? That is - if you aren't willing to stop spending money on her, maybe you could share with her what emotions it brings up. Maybe you could share that it makes you feel like a wallet not a partner. Maybe. Kinda hard to do with the W....makes me look like a Grinch since I make double what she does.... Expressing your feelings makes you a Grinch? No, I don't think you are getting my meaning. I don't mean don't spend the money. I just mean that if it makes you feel like an ATM, I would buy her what she wants AND share the way it makes me feel. If you do not feel disrepected by this, that's fine - it was just that the tone of your previous comments did make it seem like you didn't like it. That you wanted to be more than a wallet. I would make the purchase anyway AND tell her how it makes you FEEL. There are no right or wrong emotions. You are free to feel anything. It's more authentic to express it also. But - you seem satisfied in your deep dark pit so I should probably just leave you alone. I don't mean to be picking on you. So I will stop. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 15, 2016 19:13:17 GMT -5
Kinda hard to do with the W....makes me look like a Grinch since I make double what she does.... Expressing your feelings makes you a Grinch? No, I don't think you are getting my meaning. I don't mean don't spend the money. I just mean that if it makes you feel like an ATM, I would buy her what she wants AND share the way it makes me feel. If you do not feel disrepected by this, that's fine - it was just that the tone of your previous comments did make it seem like you didn't like it. That you wanted to be more than a wallet. I would make the purchase anyway AND tell her how it makes you FEEL. There are no right or wrong emotions. You are free to feel anything. It's more authentic to express it also. But - you seem satisfied in your deep dark pit so I should probably just leave you alone. I don't mean to be picking on you. So I will stop. I know everyone here things I live in this dark pit, but I am dealing with the realities of my life...I am not here to live in an escapist fantasy. Sure, leaving is one option, but to destroy my W, lose most of what I worked my life for, and most likely end up in the same sexless situation....is not appealing. I came to ep and here to work on improving what I can. I didn't have dates or get laid in HS, or college, or in my 20s....and that was for a reason...you can say all you want about me but to everyone here, I am just an avatar and you don't really know me...many of you project your situation onto mine...or think u can fix my poor sex history, most of you have had a sexlife or have had something more... I never had one and it's unrealistic to think I will become a sex god... I have been dumped for being a bad date... and being bad in bed... my life will never see what most of you have had.... I just try to make things a little better.. and I will take what I will from this board... but maybe I shouldn't...realism isn't allowed. And yes, I should mention to my W that I don't want to feel like a wallet... |
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Post by GeekGoddess on Sept 15, 2016 21:28:59 GMT -5
Expressing your feelings makes you a Grinch? No, I don't think you are getting my meaning. I don't mean don't spend the money. I just mean that if it makes you feel like an ATM, I would buy her what she wants AND share the way it makes me feel. If you do not feel disrepected by this, that's fine - it was just that the tone of your previous comments did make it seem like you didn't like it. That you wanted to be more than a wallet. I would make the purchase anyway AND tell her how it makes you FEEL. There are no right or wrong emotions. You are free to feel anything. It's more authentic to express it also. But - you seem satisfied in your deep dark pit so I should probably just leave you alone. I don't mean to be picking on you. So I will stop. I know everyone here things I live in this dark pit, but I am dealing with the realities of my life...I am not here to live in an escapist fantasy. Sure, leaving is one option, but to destroy my W, lose most of what I worked my life for, and most likely end up in the same sexless situation....is not appealing. I came to ep and here to work on improving what I can. I didn't have dates or get laid in HS, or college, or in my 20s....and that was for a reason...you can say all you want about me but to everyone here, I am just an avatar and you don't really know me...many of you project your situation onto mine...or think u can fix my poor sex history, most of you have had a sexlife or have had something more... I never had one and it's unrealistic to think I will become a sex god... I have been dumped for being a bad date... and being bad in bed... my life will never see what most of you have had.... I just try to make things a little better.. and I will take what I will from this board... but maybe I shouldn't...realism isn't allowed. And yes, I should mention to my W that I don't want to feel like a wallet... Thanks for answering, @roch649 - I realized that I was not being accepting of you and for that, I really do apologize. You are welcome AND VALUED here. Don't let me get to you. I'm pulling for you. Really. I do not show it well, but I do want you to have some modicum of happiness. Good luck, buddy. |
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Post by baza on Sept 15, 2016 21:30:33 GMT -5
If you are "the wallet", then you potentially face an additional risk. Presuppossing that you have checked out how a divorce would shake out for you - and discovered that you would indeed "lose most of what I worked (your) life for" then you'd best hope that your missus doesn't have a realisation that she could drop you like a bad habit, and still be the recipient of a sweet financial split up. - You have checked this out with a lawyer have you  ?? You are not just 'assuming' things are you - Not that getting the appropriate legal advice is likely to make any material difference to what you choose to do with your life, but in the interests of "realism" you might as well know what the factual situation is as far as a divorce goes. |
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