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Post by wewbwb on Sept 22, 2016 6:49:25 GMT -5
LOL. That is too funny! I'm the fixit person in our house. This is what my hub does: He goes and gets a pack of post-its and puts them in front of me with a pen and starts dictating. I know this sounds overbearing but he doesn't do it in a mean way. It's a collaboration. I appreciate that I don't have to go find the materials to make the list. Try it. Next time she tells you about something, in a VERY NICE "I have a great idea" way, get the post-it's and a pen and put them in front of her. If she stabs you with the pen and makes you eat the post-its, I'll send you flowers ROFL, yes so true
My wife wants ME to get the pen and post it note to write down the things she thinks of, while she is on her IPhone, that has a to do list app.
Tell her to email it to you - or text it to you. One advantage of technology is that now when I go to store and ask her if she needs anything that isn't on the list, I make her send me a picture of it so I know I'm getting the right thing in the right size. (I've been scolded because I got the large box of cereal that was on sale making it cheaper than the small box.) Now that being said - it's not always her, or me even that is the issue. Getting her ice cream last night I had to call because Coldstone sizes are: "Like it - Love it" - Orgasm in it" - But wait there's more! They have ANOTHER set of sizes that are "Mine - Ours -Orgy" So I had to translate her obscure description of "You know the small white bowl I have? It's a little bigger than that." Into "We make this up" sizes and hope for the best. Please for us old people - small medium large. It works. It really does..... |
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Post by wewbwb on Sept 22, 2016 6:57:16 GMT -5
must .. remember .. to .. get .. a .. whiteboard For me, by me. Actually, currently lists get made on the back of an envelope. There always seem to be enough bills coming in - although it's all shifting to email 'cause they are too tight to spend money on stamps. Incidentally, wewbwb ,that dialogue really reminds me of communication here when my wife has a p-a streak. Just doesn't want to commit to anything. Will not let on if she wants chicken or beef for dinner, and the 'you don't have to do that right now' thing as well. <grins> Having said that, my w. is the one who always wants to go out and do stuff herself. Only comes to me to find out how it's done when she doesn't know (or if it involves questions of left vs. right or clockwise vs. counterclockwise). But she's a demon with my cordless drills. And the bandsaw. And the air tools. Spanners are a problem (see above). :-D I have the opposite issue (I find it funny) She will try to fix something, fail at it (No fault of hers) leave it out for week on the counter, I'll ignore it until she asks me to "Look at it." I say "Sure." I fix it, than she goes ballistic that "She tried that already! I did exactly what you did!" Why the fuck did it work for you?" Me, being me say "Because it hates you." As a result.... (WAIT FOR IT....) She hasn't touched a tool in years. |
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Post by JonDoe on Dec 8, 2016 8:26:24 GMT -5
My wife loves lists, but everything that goes on her list gets equal priority so long as she is the one that adds it to her lists. Whereas I have prioritized lists, urgent, soon, someday. The someday stuff might get done next week, next month or even longer. It irritates her that the someday stuff on my list isn't getting done on her timeline of "right away".
However, about 6 years ago, I created two electronic lists that we share on our phones mine and hers. I put a boatload of items on my lists and continually add to it and check things off. I only put three things on her list and she hasn't completed a single item, one of which was something I asked her to do at least once a year for nearly 18 years -- buy curtains for my home office. One summer, I nailed beach towels to cover the windows and boy was she pissed, and bought new beach towels, but she still didn't buy the damn curtains. Sure, I could have purchased them myself, but it was the principle of it.
And yes, I've tried putting sex on her list too. As I said, it has to be something she adds to one of her lists to get any attention.
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Post by JonDoe on Dec 8, 2016 8:27:42 GMT -5
Just so I'm clear about this. This isn't about gender roles. I can fix anything. Yes I know it sounds cocky but honestly, in the 30 years of repair, both home and at work, I haven't found the thing I cant repair. If I don't know how already, I'll learn how. And I am proud of the fact I can. So I don't mind doing it. I actually enjoy it. I do mind not knowing I was supposed to fix it and then finding out she mad because I didn't fix it. Same here! |
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Post by wewbwb on Dec 8, 2016 8:55:42 GMT -5
The Frigidaire and I just had a "conversation" about flash lights.
And how they don't work if you put the batteries in wrong.
Me:"They BOTH have to be in the right way."
Her:"Why?"
Me: "...."
Her:"See?"
Me:"No. I don't see. Because the batteries are in wrong and the flashlight don't work."
Her: "Asshole"
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Post by beachguy on Dec 8, 2016 9:17:42 GMT -5
Dunno if this helps, but it works for me / us. I have a good memory, present me with 3 tasks (or things to pick up at the shops) and I go just fine. But that's my limit. If there are 4 things, I will most likely miss one. - So I put up a whiteboard, and as things need doing, I put it on the whiteboard. Yep baza the whiteboard is a wonderful tool. We once had a whiteboard to keep track of those little things that need done. Then one day it fell from its mounting. I reinstalled it but soon it fell again. The W made some sarcastic remark about writing on whiteboard to hang whiteboard so I did. The next day I remounted it with new sticking tabs and erased the note. But alas within a fortnight it again rejected its assigned station in life and clamored to the floor. So I gently picked it up and clearly wrote upon it "Throw the damnable whiteboard in the trash" and the next day I did. That made me feel good to check something off the list. wewbwb, I wonder how many of us, the refused, often jump up to perform some mundane task at the beck and call of our refusers? Do we perform in some unjustified hope that they will be pleased and might favor us with some crumb of intimacy? A few weeks ago the W asked if I would do something that I did not feel like stopping to do at that time. So I said no. She then got huffy and stated how I could not be bothered with a small request to make her happy. So I looked at her and asked "Do you wanna fuck?" End of discussion. I cannot like the last paragraph enough |
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Post by beachguy on Dec 8, 2016 9:21:42 GMT -5
@wewbeb, This all about your wife's obsessive control over you. No more complicated than that.
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