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Post by rdp62 on Mar 29, 2020 13:23:48 GMT -5
Padgemi I am glad you are doing better. Living with those thoughts is torture. I understand.
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Post by rdp62 on Mar 26, 2020 15:12:02 GMT -5
I am so sorry and I am sure you are worth so much more than how you are being treated. This is emotional abuse and beyond sexless.
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Post by rdp62 on Mar 21, 2020 9:01:33 GMT -5
I became very close with a person online I guess would be called an emotional affair that helped us both through an incredibly difficult time that lasted for about six months. I found that emotional intimacy makes up for a lot of physical intimacy. We talked about physically getting together but for a few reasons it wasn't the best for both of us mostly her and I couldn't be that selfish, I wanted her to be happier than be with me . I also found that heart break never gets easier
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Post by rdp62 on Mar 21, 2020 8:41:55 GMT -5
I would think this might start some life is too short to be unhappy need to make a change thinking.
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Post by rdp62 on Mar 20, 2020 11:44:11 GMT -5
Effect of being isolated with spouse for a few weeks I think would have a major effect positive or negative.
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Post by rdp62 on Mar 20, 2020 9:04:14 GMT -5
When people face their mortality they also face some crucial questions about how they’ve spent their lives. These questions will arise when people you know get and die from the virus or when death levels in your country or area cause you to reevaluate your life. This isn’t going to make any refusers do a 360. It may cause some of the refused to finally decide its worth it to permanently stay or leave. It also may be too late. I think will lead to a lot of decisions
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Post by rdp62 on Mar 20, 2020 8:24:38 GMT -5
Does anybody think the virus will have an effect on our situations good or bad?
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Post by rdp62 on Mar 9, 2020 12:37:48 GMT -5
Yes this
Across time, this gets to be damaging to both of you in different ways.
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Post by rdp62 on Mar 8, 2020 17:40:42 GMT -5
Rdp62 ..... have you ever cared about someone you have never met or even seen? I have ...I have to admit I cared about several women on forums like this one but I never said much about my personal feelings. I just thought, "whgat was good for the individual" and replied in that manner. Caring is what is considering what is best for who you care about 🙂
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Post by rdp62 on Mar 8, 2020 17:31:10 GMT -5
Rdp62 ..... have you ever cared about someone you have never met or even seen? I have ...I have to admit I cared about several women on forums like this one but I never said much about my personal feelings. I just thought, "whgat was good for the individual" and replied in that manner. Caring is what is considering what is best for who you care about 🙂
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Post by rdp62 on Mar 8, 2020 16:04:24 GMT -5
Has never been about age or even looks to an extent I think everyone is attractive in some way. Have you ever noticed some people get more attractive or not the more you know them? The internet is a little test like have you ever cared about someone you have never met or even seen? I have ...
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Post by rdp62 on Mar 8, 2020 10:04:09 GMT -5
Hi Same experience with Twitter have met some wonderful people also on ptsd.supportgroups.com literally life savers. Talking with people that understand helps the most. Trying to hide it only works for so long. I am glad you found support
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Post by rdp62 on Mar 7, 2020 16:11:51 GMT -5
... marriage triggered all mental hell to break loose ... This is exactly what Mrs. P will NEVER accept any responsibility for. In fact, as triggers go, the ante has been upped. BIG TIME. Fortunately, I have meds now. And a “hired gun.” (divorce attorney) How about Mrs. rdp62? If you are trying to salvage the marriage, will she own her finger’s position on the trigger, before it gets pulled again? The short version is when times were bad she was drinking a lot like every day preferred drinking more than anything. she was diagnosed with breast cancer about a year ago was caught in time but had to have a double mastectomy. About the same time she was diagnosed stopped drinking a lot so mentally situation improved but sex was out of the question. I have been so focused on recovery and trying to keep stable until now haven't been able to think if much else. I attempted suicide two years ago it was that bad. Finally thinking of life again. To answer your question though I don't think she feels much if any responsibility then or now a good reason why I am back. To the question why don't I just leave is until relatively recently being alone wouldn't have been survivable because of mental state
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Post by rdp62 on Mar 7, 2020 14:10:32 GMT -5
I was on here about 3 years ago when marriage started getting very difficult. Pre existing c-ptsd and bipolar, marriage triggered all mental hell to break loose why stopped visiting here depressions became overwhelming. I was lucky to survive I would not have on my own. It has taken two years of therapy and meds to recover get to the point of dealing with marriage again. Amazingly enough it might survive also. I can't say enough how much talking with others has helped as much as therapy and meds. Any questions about dealing with depression glad to help
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Post by rdp62 on Mar 7, 2020 13:56:06 GMT -5
I expect a lot of us sexless causes depression, serious depression.
Lost Connections Depression and unusual solutions book highly recommend goes into how bad lonliness is for depression I think lack of intimacy a form of lonliness
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