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Post by rdp62 on Mar 7, 2020 13:56:06 GMT -5
I expect a lot of us sexless causes depression, serious depression.
Lost Connections Depression and unusual solutions book highly recommend goes into how bad lonliness is for depression I think lack of intimacy a form of lonliness
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Post by rdp62 on Mar 7, 2020 14:10:32 GMT -5
I was on here about 3 years ago when marriage started getting very difficult. Pre existing c-ptsd and bipolar, marriage triggered all mental hell to break loose why stopped visiting here depressions became overwhelming. I was lucky to survive I would not have on my own. It has taken two years of therapy and meds to recover get to the point of dealing with marriage again. Amazingly enough it might survive also. I can't say enough how much talking with others has helped as much as therapy and meds. Any questions about dealing with depression glad to help
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Post by rdp62 on Mar 7, 2020 16:11:51 GMT -5
... marriage triggered all mental hell to break loose ... This is exactly what Mrs. P will NEVER accept any responsibility for. In fact, as triggers go, the ante has been upped. BIG TIME. Fortunately, I have meds now. And a “hired gun.” (divorce attorney) How about Mrs. rdp62? If you are trying to salvage the marriage, will she own her finger’s position on the trigger, before it gets pulled again? The short version is when times were bad she was drinking a lot like every day preferred drinking more than anything. she was diagnosed with breast cancer about a year ago was caught in time but had to have a double mastectomy. About the same time she was diagnosed stopped drinking a lot so mentally situation improved but sex was out of the question. I have been so focused on recovery and trying to keep stable until now haven't been able to think if much else. I attempted suicide two years ago it was that bad. Finally thinking of life again. To answer your question though I don't think she feels much if any responsibility then or now a good reason why I am back. To the question why don't I just leave is until relatively recently being alone wouldn't have been survivable because of mental state
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Post by baza on Mar 7, 2020 18:15:41 GMT -5
I expect a lot of us sexless causes depression, serious depression. Lost Connections Depression and unusual solutions book highly recommend goes into how bad lonliness is for depression I think lack of intimacy a form of lonliness The evidence in this very group, is that "sexless causes depression, serious depression" is largely true. And, remaining in such an environment prolongs it. I think that - if you set out deliberately to trash someone's self esteem and start them down the road to mental health problems - then you couldn't go past putting them in an ILIASM environment to achieve that aim.
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Post by rdp62 on Mar 8, 2020 10:04:09 GMT -5
Hi Same experience with Twitter have met some wonderful people also on ptsd.supportgroups.com literally life savers. Talking with people that understand helps the most. Trying to hide it only works for so long. I am glad you found support
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Post by carl on Mar 9, 2020 15:58:39 GMT -5
I must say that refusing sex to somebody at the cost of their mental health seems inhuman. But I would like to suggest a question. Do you think it is the lack of sex or more the fact that you are being treated so unkindly. It’s hard to differentiate the two things. If you were completely single with no ties but also no sex perhaps you would feel better than when your freedom has been taken away by a partner who refuses sex but exists as a partner. Maybe sexlessness doesn’t cause depression but lack of freedom certainly does.
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Post by baza on Mar 9, 2020 16:23:13 GMT -5
Lots of newbies arrive here saying - "everything is great bar the sex" Then, proceed to tell a story of a dysfunctional relationship, with a number of issues present, not just the sex. I think Brother carl is on the right track. Usually, it is a number of issues in a relationship that drives it into the ditch - and sex is usually *one* of them. To focus solely on the sexual aspects is to miss the wider picture, and it is the wider picture, and the assorted individual issues present, that you have to deal with.
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