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Post by Isabellas39 on Apr 20, 2016 10:19:00 GMT -5
You're in my thoughts and prayers ...Your strength will help you through this! ~virtual hugs~
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Post by Isabellas39 on Apr 20, 2016 9:06:36 GMT -5
I would take the three wishes, and one of my wishes would get me my dream lover ..
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Post by Isabellas39 on Apr 16, 2016 19:39:29 GMT -5
I agree that this would be a dealbreaker for me.. I don't understand why he would even think it's fair to ask this of you..
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Post by Isabellas39 on Apr 16, 2016 9:20:37 GMT -5
I have to say I get a little tired of people who have left their marriages coming back to a sexless marriage forum and rubbing in our faces in the fact that they are now having sex. (this is something I hated the most about ILIASM) This does nothing to support those of us who are staying on in our marriages (the majority of sexless couples stay together) Everybody is different and your "advice" just makes those of us in long term sexless marriages feel worse in an already bad situation. I want to hear advice from people who are staying on and coping. This attitude drives me batty ! I'm sorry you feel that way, but you do not speak for me, or all who are in sm....The highlight of iliasm for me( someone in a sm) is reading stories from those that have left. Their stories are motivating, and gives me hope that choosing to leave will not result in everything collapsing around me. Would you prefer to hear people just cry over the fact they chose to stay? Would you take advice from people who are unfit if you wanted to get fit? How about get health advice from someone that's always sick instead of a doctor or someone living well? I for one encourage those who have left to stay, and provide a road map for people like me who are fearful of leaving.... Heck, I always learn something from their stories that truly help me in my journey. Thanks to all those that remain after leaving, and provide a light at the end of this miserable as shit tunnel !
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Post by Isabellas39 on Apr 15, 2016 1:32:52 GMT -5
Congratulations !!
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Post by Isabellas39 on Apr 13, 2016 13:09:50 GMT -5
We watch movies and tv shows all time ...... Still sexless !!
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Post by Isabellas39 on Apr 7, 2016 9:05:23 GMT -5
I am a complete carb and sugar addict. I definitely use food for comfort, but in the end it leaves me feeling like crap. I read somewhere that you have to keep promises made to yourself, and based on that I have failed myself for years, I don't know what is wrong with me..I seem to make excuses not to exercise when I know I should, I make excuses so I can eat crap, and I have excuses for why I stay in this freaking sm... I have to just get off my ass and do something that would make me feel better Inside and out. I did this too - eating unhealthy food and too much of it, not exercising when I knew it would make me feel better. I was so miserable in my marriage, had withdrawn from friends and family. I'm not sure what finally made me start to claw my way out of it, but it started with asking a friend to help me start lifting weights. It took some time and a few setbacks, but I started running again and lost the weight. I can't exercise right now because of my eye and I can't even tell you how much I miss it. When I was first getting back into cardio, I made a commitment to myself that I would do 15 minutes of some type of exercise every single day - it didn't matter what kind - a walk, some sit-ups and leg exercises, a bike ride, anything at all. I had more than a few nights of looking at the clock and realizing I was going to have to go for a walk at 10:00 at night because I had let the whole day slip away. It wasn't so hard to do because I had made the time commitment reasonable. Anyway, it helped me get rolling again. That's a great idea and sounds very doable, thank you !!
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Post by Isabellas39 on Apr 6, 2016 9:47:09 GMT -5
Here's one that my best friend sent me after discussing my sm..
“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.” ~ Louise Erdrich
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Post by Isabellas39 on Apr 6, 2016 9:40:09 GMT -5
I have to repeat something often said by Met on EP, if you have to beg,plead,or debate to get the one you love to be intimate with you then they will never love you the way you desire..That is so very true! When you're with someone that desires you, there's no need to have all these tests, or prerequisites for sex...It all seem so damn draining IMO...
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Post by Isabellas39 on Apr 6, 2016 9:09:06 GMT -5
I am a complete carb and sugar addict. I definitely use food for comfort, but in the end it leaves me feeling like crap. I read somewhere that you have to keep promises made to yourself, and based on that I have failed myself for years, I don't know what is wrong with me..I seem to make excuses not to exercise when I know I should, I make excuses so I can eat crap, and I have excuses for why I stay in this freaking sm... I have to just get off my ass and do something that would make me feel better Inside and out.
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Post by Isabellas39 on Mar 26, 2016 10:16:21 GMT -5
Why are you so negative ? I know why I came here, and it has nothing to do with cliques ..
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Post by Isabellas39 on Mar 26, 2016 10:10:39 GMT -5
It's great you stood up for yourself! Are you planning on saying yes to the other guy for a second date ?
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Post by Isabellas39 on Mar 26, 2016 10:05:53 GMT -5
Thank you for sharing ! My husband always has the " this topic again " look whenever I bring the topic up. He acts like this is very normal and expects that I will stay forever like this,after all, I've spent years accepting this nonsense.
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Post by Isabellas39 on Mar 24, 2016 9:48:47 GMT -5
Hi all, Isabellas from Ep ..Thank you so much for finding a new place for us all !
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