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Post by petrushka on Feb 8, 2021 4:58:21 GMT -5
Handy, get out your dictionary and look up "piss-take". Oh, and "irony" and "sarcasm". I have a black sense of humour.
b.t.w. I am well aware of hypoxia and hyperoxia.
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Post by petrushka on Feb 8, 2021 0:38:55 GMT -5
Watch out, next thing you know those Democrats will abolish oxygen.
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Post by petrushka on Feb 6, 2021 0:29:08 GMT -5
Once upon a time the USA was proud of having defeated Hitler and the Nazis (you didn't, it was actually the Russians, but never mind). And these days, anti-fascism appears to have become a dirty word for some Americans. How the wheel turns.
I know I am not going to change any minds here, but in a way my heart weeps. Some of you have gone so deeply down the rabbit hole ....
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Post by petrushka on Feb 5, 2021 22:46:48 GMT -5
What's the KoolAid taste like?
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Post by petrushka on Feb 5, 2021 22:38:09 GMT -5
Working on a relationship is not a one (wo)man job; it takes two to be engaged and working together, in the same direction. I don't read much togetherness between the lines of your long post, flyingsolo .
It seems to me that you already have come to one conclusion, quoted loosely, "I don't want to live like this for another 7 years".
Add A to B, and what does that give you?
I have been in that exact same situation twice -- "I don't want to go on living like this" -- and my solution was clear in my mind: pull the plug. Both times it took me a long time to get over it, get past it emotionally, but I thought it was better than being miserable for decades and maybe pulling the plug on myself.
Personally, I think in your emotional situation/current state it is easy to fall into an emotional relationship with someone outside who shows some empathy, some warmth. In my experience I would say "enjoy it, but don't get dependent on it." It may come to nothing. But take from it whatever warmth and happiness you can while it lasts. Who knows, it may come to more.
Seeing what others have said, I can only agree - make sure you can still pay the bills if it gets nasty. Maybe it won't, but if, as you say, your wife tends to blame you for everything and is blind to what you have done to make things right, it's probably better
to play safe and put an ace in the hole just in case. You are not the only one who may decide to serve papers.
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Post by petrushka on Jan 31, 2021 13:49:52 GMT -5
As far as I know nobody in NZ has been vaccinated at this point in time. It is not clear what the heck was actually going on with the alarming case of that woman: none of her contacts have tested positive. She is considered 'recovered'. We're keeping a weather eye out. Why not vaccinated? Supply?
What I read is, they want to wait and see how the vaccines pan out in other countries.
Govt bought several million doses of different vaccines, and want to share them with the Polynesian countries. But it looks like they are hanging on to the lot just yet.
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Post by petrushka on Jan 31, 2021 4:35:14 GMT -5
As far as I know nobody in NZ has been vaccinated at this point in time.
It is not clear what the heck was actually going on with the alarming case of that woman: none of her contacts have tested positive. She is considered 'recovered'.
We're keeping a weather eye out.
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Post by petrushka on Jan 31, 2021 4:28:57 GMT -5
My knee needs joint fluid at all times😃
It is my firm opinion that the human knee is the best evidence for the fallacy of the "intelligent design theory".
*1 - not that it is a theory, since it has no underpinnings at all, but:
*2 - no omniscient, omnipotent deity would've made such a bodge job of it.
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Post by petrushka on Jan 27, 2021 3:13:55 GMT -5
Heh, I don't have, and haven't had for ~25 years now, a FWB because there is no greener grass in sight. {le sigh} My demands that a FWB must meet are: tastes similar enough that we can have talks about politics, spirituality (even if we're both raging agnostics), films, books, food ... Someone who is a polar opposite may have my respect, but probably won't ever be a close friend; especially not a friend I want to make love to/with. So call me picky.
Really sorry for your sakes, jerri , {{{big comforting teddy bear hug from afar}}}
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Post by petrushka on Jan 26, 2021 16:26:55 GMT -5
Indeed, don’t be like your refuser spouse and go “not tonight”! Get a login - it’s completely anonymous unlike you’re as unafraid as me - and post your thoughts here and there, or tell a little of your own story. It’s cathartic and may even help you get a clearer picture of your situation simply by putting it into words, putting it ‘on paper’. {{big hug}} for jerri for this initiative
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Post by petrushka on Jan 24, 2021 2:14:08 GMT -5
So, today we heard that the coronavirus got out of quarantine in NZ. The woman who developed the infection had been tested twice, found negative, released after 2 weeks and got sick a week later.
She's been in my town since. Govt. is working on tracing her locations, and contacts. More anon.
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Post by petrushka on Jan 23, 2021 23:30:15 GMT -5
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Post by petrushka on Jan 20, 2021 5:48:13 GMT -5
Remember "50 ways to leave your lover"?
Here's the alternative version ...
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Post by petrushka on Jan 19, 2021 23:22:44 GMT -5
Here is something to think about: www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-55661782The upshot of it lies in the very last sentence of the article, as expressed by one of the survivors of this concentration camp, and about the female guards there who helped torture, and kill, and abuse the prisoners. I ask Selma if she thinks the guards were diabolical monsters. "I think they were ordinary women doing diabolical things. I think it's possible with loads of people, even in England. I think that can happen anywhere. It can happen here if it's allowed."
I have read in other places where torturers and concentration camp guards were described as "good, caring fathers and husbands" ... who would then put on their uniform and go and torture and kill innocent people.
Ordinary people will do diabolical things. All it takes is the right kind of programming and delusional thinking. "the Jews are trying to run our country down, we need to make Germany Great Again." That was Hitler's line. "The muslims are taking over our country, they are out-breeding us". (substitute Mexicans if you like) "The EU are trying to stuff our economy with red tape and worker and consumer protection laws".
The thing is to stay vigilant, and not to let them get away with it, or the most atrocious diabolical things can happen.
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Post by petrushka on Jan 14, 2021 3:48:12 GMT -5
jerri a trained therapist does not let the lies go. By the same token, they do not 'call them out'. Their skill lies in asking questions that make the [patient] realize motivations and actions that they were not necessarily aware of when they did whatever they did, or said whatever they said. You question. You try to make them more self aware through questions. You never tell them what to do, and you never call them out directly. You ask questions that make them think of possible approaches to their problems for themselves. Everybody knows that if they think of something themselves, they are much more likely go put effort into it than if someone tells them what to do (except maybe genuine submissives).
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