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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2019 12:38:47 GMT -5
Here is your question for the day: Are you putting parts of your life on hold? If so, why? Yes, most of the things I would normally want to be doing. We're in the process of moving and building a home so that's been 100% time consuming. Hopefully a year from now things will be settled.
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Post by saarinista on Apr 18, 2019 18:06:13 GMT -5
Don't laugh, but I've been putting off getting my engagement ring reset.
It no longer fits on my finger since I broke my hands/wrists last summer, and a couple of the side stones fell out anyway, so it's time to do some thing like get a new setting.
I know that sounds silly, but that ring is the one super materialistic thing I have right now and I'm just messed up enough that I want a rock on my finger as long as I'm in this marriage. 😜 It makes me feel better about myself. Yep, even though I think materialism is one of society's greatest ills, I still want to wear that diamond. It IS beautiful and not just a sign of being married or socially acceptable, so I can rationalize.
It also reminds me that once upon a time, I was earning enough money that we could buy it, which may bolster my self esteem for my job search, another thing I've put on hold for far too long.
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Post by sadkat on Apr 18, 2019 19:05:52 GMT -5
saarinista- I can totally relate to the ring dilemma. I love bling and my wedding set is one of my favorites. I’ve yet to take it off but know that day is coming soon! Good luck with your job search. It is rough having to put yourself out there looking for employment. I hope you find a job soon!
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Post by angeleyes65 on Apr 18, 2019 19:15:20 GMT -5
@saarinsta I'm certainly not judging you! I never had a REALLY expensive ring and as my marriage fell apart so did my ring. I quit wearing it. But I found a diamond ring at christmas one year that I really liked so he bought it for my present. I lost weight and moved it to the next finger when I left I moved it to my other hand. I'm still wearing it.
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Post by saarinista on Apr 18, 2019 20:45:32 GMT -5
Thanks, ladies, for not judging. 😐.
FWIW, I wore a tiny diamond which was what my husband could afford at the time until well after we got married. But I was doing nonprofit fundraising at that time and couldn't help feeling like the millionaires I was soliciting for donations might be looking at my tiny ring and judging me. And they probably were. Because people are like that. I may be idealistic but I'm not stupid.
And I'm not too proud to admit that I have enough of an ego that I wanted to know that my husband loved me enough to put a bigger rock on my finger. And at that time, I might add, we were having sex so you know I didn't think things were going to go like this.
I only go into all this because I guess I have a real thing about women who harangue guys for stuff they really can't afford. Too many people get married for the bling and the big wedding.
Also, I got my bigger ring at a real wholesale Market. And it's not like it's that huge; it's just respectable sized and also I never did get a wedding ring. At the time I got the bigger engagement ring after we were married it was so much bigger then the tiny one I had at first but my ego had to adjust. Then I started thinking what kind of wedding ring do I really want and I started looking and then I lost my job and I was like well, this is no time to buy a wedding ring! hell, we're we're already married and we're already married.Geeze!
So as you can see, it's been a bit of a bumpy ride. My wife is bass-ackwards and off-kilter and I need something shiny on my hand to stare at sometimes LOL. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.😩😜🙄
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Post by Handy on Apr 18, 2019 21:32:25 GMT -5
Saarinista I'm not too proud to admit that I have enough of an ego that I wanted to know that my husband loved me enough to put a bigger rock on my fingerSaarinista, I am not a jewelry person so I understand some women equating the size of the stone/s in a ring equating how much a man loves a woman but I don't see it that way. I know I can't make some one happy by giving them what "I" think is valuable. I know I should offer or give what other person values, BUT, it doesn't always work out or happen that way. My personal thoughts on the "size of the ring or the wedding-honeymoon" is a ring, a trip OR a place to live, some decent furniture, and clean clothes without extra work, which is more valuable in the long run? I am talking about being married young when a person's income is low when they are starting a career and newly married.
Like I said, jewelry is a mystery to me and what ever makes you feel good Is OK.
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Post by sadkat on Apr 19, 2019 9:12:25 GMT -5
Question for today:
What bad habit would you like to break?
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 19, 2019 9:27:24 GMT -5
Marrying the wrong woman.
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Post by sadkat on Apr 19, 2019 10:56:59 GMT -5
Marrying the wrong woman. That’s a bad decision, not a bad habit. Try again!
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Post by lessingham on Apr 19, 2019 12:12:20 GMT -5
My cowardice, always picking the choice of least confrontation
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Post by DryCreek on Apr 19, 2019 13:17:00 GMT -5
What bad habit would you like to break? Procrastinating. I keep putting it off.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 19, 2019 13:28:59 GMT -5
Marrying the wrong woman. That’s a bad decision, not a bad habit. Try again! I did it twice, so it's starting to read like habit.
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Post by Handy on Apr 19, 2019 14:22:40 GMT -5
Bad habit, maybe a temperament style. Looking for paths that work for several people at a minimum of my expense.
I know this so I usually advance with caution. I don't trust enough to get lucky or think the answers I have are always going to be correct.
Maybe this is not a bad habit.
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Post by sadkat on Apr 19, 2019 15:00:12 GMT -5
That’s a bad decision, not a bad habit. Try again! I did it twice, so it's starting to read like habit. Lol! Doing something twice does not a habit make. Lordy- I hope you’re not going to make a habit of marrying the wrong person! That could get quite expensive!!
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Post by sadkat on Apr 19, 2019 15:03:33 GMT -5
Bad habit, maybe a temperament style. Looking for paths that work for several people at a minimum of my expense. I know this so I usually advance with caution. I don't trust enough to get lucky or think the answers I have are always going to be correct. Maybe this is not a bad habit. The definition of habit: “behavior pattern acquired by frequent repetition or physiologic exposure that shows itself in regularity or increased facility of performance.”
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