Post by northstarmom on Apr 14, 2019 9:30:52 GMT -5
“What are you busy doing today? Will it matter in a year?”
I’ve worked out (aerobics and arms), attended a half day silent retreat, had lunch with some interesting people, will have tea today with interesting women, and I’ve showered with my post sm partner (hadn’t done that for a couple of years) and made love bent over the bed in front of the mirror, adding some extra zing to the day and sex. strengthing relationships, helping maintain my inner peace and keeping bat wings at bay all are investments into the me of next year.
What I did this weekend I do think in many ways will matter in a year. I broached the porn subject again with my H today AFTER having sex. Usual behavior would be to not rock the boat. Something happened and I felt I had to speak up - my mantra as of late - speak up and say something. I did. Regardless of whether we stay together or part ways, my actions this weekend are setting me up for peace and success and a more true-to-myself life in the future. All positive steps I take for me set me up for a positive and healthy future IMO.
What are you busy doing today? Will it matter in a year?
I was going to doctor appts and house hunting. Hoping the results from the doctors will be good and not matter in 10 years. Hoping the house hunting will matter In 10 years. Think he is putting an offer in tomorrow .
I decided to never invest in a "Real-estate Investment Trust" (REIT) again. The tax forms and entries (over 60) are not worth couple of hundred of dollars to justify over 8 to 12 hours of reading tax instructions (58 pages for form 1065) and re-doing my regular taxes so I can file an amended tax return.
On the plus side, my grand daughter works at McDonald's so I volunteered to take her home. We had a combo meal together after she finished her shift. I drove to the grand daughter residence and also visited with my daughter. Then I drove the grand daughter to her dad's house. Yea, one week with dad and the next week with mom.
I have 2 more days of being a mini-chicken rancher (14 chickens) until my neighbors get home. Chickens remind me of dogs, always looking for a treat and in this case the treat is cracked corn. A super chicken treat is a snack of dehydrated meal worms. Sorry chickens, I all out of that item. Egg count today was 5 eggs. Yesterday's egg count was 7.
Question for today: what personal characteristic do you struggle with the most?
For me, I’m very sensitive- I tend to take things personally and get my feelings hurt easily. I’ve learned to manage it throughout the years but still have to be aware of this tendency when interacting with others.
Acceptance. I need to stop accepting peeps for who they are - counter-intuitive but that leaves not much to change.
Your eyes cannot see, what your mind does not know.
Top priority right now is I over stressed my L knee helping a friend install a light. Standing on a ladder somehow excreted extra stress on my knees. I didn't know it at the time but the next day that one knee was painful. Right now I am not putting any stress on it. I might even skip some of my exercises for a few days. I suppose I re-damaged an old meniscus tear injury, that I let heal over a 6 month period instead of having surgery. It was what my orthopedist advised at the time.
Why? Because my knee really hurts if I don't take it easy. Avoiding pain is a primary human function.
I remember a quote that said " If stupidity was instantly painful, almost no one would make stupid moves/mistakes."
Question for today: What is the top priority in your life right now? Why?
My top priority for now is getting my W into a better paying job. That will be the key to paying off debts and reaching a level of financial security where divorce is feasible. Our income discrepancy is too high right now.
Called the W out for her reset attempt and we're now working on rebuilding something more.
Question for today: What is the top priority in your life right now? Why?
I am tempted to respond in a similar way to the other citing the best interests of my children, as once they are known to be in utero they come first of course. So to answer the question a little differently after the children my priority in life is ........ me! For the first time in an awfully long time I am my priority to reclaim myself from my marriage. My best interests in terms of my time, energy and priorities are beginning to be informed by what I find fun, fulfilling, interesting and meet my current commitments. It’s taking a fair bit of getting used to but is pretty wonderful at times.
I lost myself for quite a while there, and recently I have noticed comments from others (who are often unaware of my change in circumstances) telling me that something seems different... you seem brighter/lighter/ more relaxed .... ? I am finding myself again and it’s pretty great. 😃
@thisisit- that is so great to hear! I’m glad things are working out for you and that you’re finding a level of contentment on the other side. I think it’s very positive that your priority is you right now. After all, you can’t take care of others very well until you’ve taken care of yourself!
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! So glad to hear you had a great day
Jan 19, 2019 16:34:01 GMT -5
worksforme2: anyone hear anything lately from mrslowmaintenance or smartkat?
Jan 24, 2019 18:06:02 GMT -5
petrushka: Just saw the forecast for Mildura at 47C -- I hope you and Ms. Enna are going to be ok Baz. That's getting dangerous.
Jan 24, 2019 20:10:00 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville: I last heard from mrslowmaintenance about a month ago. I have been in regular contact with her for the last year and a half. I feel comfortable in saying that her situation remains unchanged. If you want to know more PM me.
Jan 25, 2019 22:36:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey baza,...I know it's hot and dry down under. N.C. is having record rainfall. I would gladly trade some rain for some sunshine....
Feb 22, 2019 20:28:35 GMT -5
tamara68: Today it's steak and blowjob day! I suppose the steak is for those who don't get a blowjob.
Mar 14, 2019 16:49:49 GMT -5
petrushka: tamara68 Laughing with tears in my eyes. And my steak is going to be semolina gruel, due to some tummy upset :-\
Mar 15, 2019 1:11:10 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: So sad to hear the news from New Zealand. Boston Strong supports Kiwi Strong!!
Mar 15, 2019 7:46:22 GMT -5
petrushka: I was gobsmacked when I heard. This is just not us. In all of 2017 we had 37 murders in the country ..... I think the echo chambers of "social media" have a lot to answer for.
Mar 15, 2019 18:45:45 GMT -5
baza: Feeling for our Brothers and Sisters across the ditch Brother petrushka .
Mar 15, 2019 19:27:50 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: petrushka, I thought I read the headline wrong (this stuff happens here, not in NZ). It is frightening the hate that is being spread; it makes my heart hurt.
Mar 15, 2019 20:46:54 GMT -5
saarinista: All of us, IMHO, should try to be civil and kind as much as possible in person and online. I actively Tweet (civilly) on political matters and am horrified by the rancor & trolling on both sides of the spectrum, which only inflames unstable people.
Mar 19, 2019 23:21:20 GMT -5
saarinista: is anyone else watching March Madness?
Mar 24, 2019 11:44:48 GMT -5
worksforme2: doesn't much look like it...
Mar 27, 2019 12:20:10 GMT -5
saarinista: Well, my team is going to the Final Four! I am beyond thrilled. Basketball is life.
Apr 1, 2019 0:47:14 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Congrats! Yay! I don't know how many people see the shout box, I don't think it shows up not he mobile version of the site. Maybe post something in the Off Topic section and more folks may see it?
Apr 1, 2019 15:38:34 GMT -5
wewbwb: Or, maybe baseball season started . . .
Apr 2, 2019 5:27:34 GMT -5
flashjohn: saarinista, my alma mater, Texas Tech, is also in the final four.
Apr 3, 2019 14:59:01 GMT -5
saarinista: : flashjohn Ruh, roh. Then we have to be mortal enemies for the weekend because I went to MSU!
Apr 4, 2019 16:09:20 GMT -5