Quick peck at bedtime, quick Peck when he leaves for work. That's it.
I think I speak for most of us when I say, I hate the peck. The safe on the way out the door peck. Would it kill these people to just once plant a big, passionate kiss on their life partner....look them in the eye after the kiss and say, "God, I love you."
But there is no love. A kiss and a lie is worse, I think.
Please forgive any typos or poor sentence structure. As I often say, you can have it perfect or you can have it now. Here, I choose now.
My wife gave up on real kissing many, many years ago. She seems to like it about as much as she like sex (which is to say, not at all).
However, she did continue to insist on a peck on the lips. I always saw that as some kind of control thing. Convince herself, and others, that we have some kind of normal marriage. I decided not to play that game. I realize it's passive-aggressive and childish on my part, but a drowning man grabs any piece of debris he can to stay afloat.
I surprised myself recently. There was some sort of family gathering and I had to kiss my wife (can't remember the exact circumstances). Without even thinking about it, I air kissed her on the cheek - like I would kiss my sister or another relative. It was strange, but that's now the new normal.
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petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
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Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5