We got to the point where the only contact we had was him occasionally giving me a quick peck on the FOREHEAD. Like I was a child. That’s all he could bring himself to do. It was horrible.
While you get the peck on the FOREHEAD, do you get the forward lean? That's the move that earns credit for affection, and yet it is the defensive move against hands around the waist. It's a classic.
Oh absolutely. No option for me to touch him even if I wanted to (which I didn’t towards the end anyway).
And I told him at one point that I hated when he kissed me on the forehead because it made me feel like he was treating me like a child. He stopped and went back to pecks on the cheek for a month or two and then right back to it. At that point I decided all I would offer him again was my forehead because: fuck him.
Nope, no kissing here either save for the dry peck on the cheek which really belongs in the context of greeting your granny. Kissing is the thing I used to miss the most, and have been known to ask for ‘being kissed like a woman’ for my birthday in lieu of a gift. (You guessed it- fell on deaf ears). In common with many posters above I have now moved to a point where this level of intimacy now feels pretty unwelcome with H as I continue to distance myself emotionally in preparation for my new life. This does not mean that I am off kissing, not at all. I do hope that before I die I get to once again experience the undiluted joy of an enthusiastic making out session, preferably including a roaming hand up my jumper too. It doesn’t seem so much to ask.
The ex-wife used to give me a peck before bed every night, but after many years of rejection and strictly no intimate kissing tolerated by her, I started unconsciously turning my cheek at some point and hadn’t even realized I was doing it until she called me out on it years later, all the while she countinued the routine. At this point an intimate kiss would be wonderful, but I'm sure I'd be at least a bit anxious and awkward after not doing so for decades. I willing to die trying though!
I still remember the first time I French kissed a girl. I was 12, she was 15, and she initiated. It was most the amazing thing at that point in my life! We were in Europe, and it was an amazing few months before she moved back home.
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JonDoe At this point an intimate kiss would be wonderful, but I'm sure I'd be at least a bit anxious and awkward after not doing so for decades.
I was thinking about the same way. I suppose gradually working into a hot romantic kiss is one way to approach the activity. Some women will go for it and some won't. Going slowly gives you the opportunity to test the waters.
At your age there should be some takers on hot kissing.
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petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
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