We got to the point where the only contact we had was him occasionally giving me a quick peck on the FOREHEAD. Like I was a child. That’s all he could bring himself to do. It was horrible.
While you get the peck on the FOREHEAD, do you get the forward lean? That's the move that earns credit for affection, and yet it is the defensive move against hands around the waist. It's a classic.
Oh absolutely. No option for me to touch him even if I wanted to (which I didn’t towards the end anyway).
And I told him at one point that I hated when he kissed me on the forehead because it made me feel like he was treating me like a child. He stopped and went back to pecks on the cheek for a month or two and then right back to it. At that point I decided all I would offer him again was my forehead because: fuck him.
Nope, no kissing here either save for the dry peck on the cheek which really belongs in the context of greeting your granny. Kissing is the thing I used to miss the most, and have been known to ask for ‘being kissed like a woman’ for my birthday in lieu of a gift. (You guessed it- fell on deaf ears). In common with many posters above I have now moved to a point where this level of intimacy now feels pretty unwelcome with H as I continue to distance myself emotionally in preparation for my new life. This does not mean that I am off kissing, not at all. I do hope that before I die I get to once again experience the undiluted joy of an enthusiastic making out session, preferably including a roaming hand up my jumper too. It doesn’t seem so much to ask.
The ex-wife used to give me a peck before bed every night, but after many years of rejection and strictly no intimate kissing tolerated by her, I started unconsciously turning my cheek at some point and hadn’t even realized I was doing it until she called me out on it years later, all the while she countinued the routine. At this point an intimate kiss would be wonderful, but I'm sure I'd be at least a bit anxious and awkward after not doing so for decades. I willing to die trying though!
I still remember the first time I French kissed a girl. I was 12, she was 15, and she initiated. It was most the amazing thing at that point in my life! We were in Europe, and it was an amazing few months before she moved back home.
Success is a few simple disciplines, practiced every day, while failure is simply a few errors in judgment, repeated every day. A victim mentality ensures you are always the victim. A victor mentality gives you a fighting chance at survival.
JonDoe At this point an intimate kiss would be wonderful, but I'm sure I'd be at least a bit anxious and awkward after not doing so for decades.
I was thinking about the same way. I suppose gradually working into a hot romantic kiss is one way to approach the activity. Some women will go for it and some won't. Going slowly gives you the opportunity to test the waters.
At your age there should be some takers on hot kissing.
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worksforme2: Tamara answered me yesterday. She and her partner are moving into a house next week. It's probably about as good as is possible. She didn't comment on the situation with her daughter.
Sept 17, 2019 17:46:02 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Thanks for the update; just hope she is happy
Sept 17, 2019 19:49:55 GMT -5
workingonit: Elkclan2 my son's gerbil escaped at the same time as his pet snake. I did not think it was a coincidence!
Sept 17, 2019 20:40:26 GMT -5
hopingforachange: Wow, is been forever since I read the shoutbox.
Sept 17, 2019 21:33:01 GMT -5
hopingforachange: I need to set up another Skype session.
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sme935: Not quite sure if anyone reads it but if there is a female in the Chicago area (40-60 years old) who is interested in chatting with me drop me a message or look at my profile for messenger screenname;
Sept 19, 2019 9:09:33 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Another Skype session would be great!
Sept 21, 2019 10:51:02 GMT -5
elkclan2: Gerbil was recaptured unharmed. Turns out my cat is good at opening gerbil cages, but not good at catching gerbils.
Sept 27, 2019 8:10:33 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Yay! Glad to hear the critter is okay.
Sept 28, 2019 20:44:20 GMT -5
worksforme2: elkclan2....don't feed cat for a couple days, cat will become very proficient at catching gerbil
Sept 29, 2019 14:15:01 GMT -5
javba: Hi folks been gone a minute [several minutes actually] What is the skype we're referencing?
Oct 1, 2019 8:55:44 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: javba, once in a while someone sets up a group Skype chat, so we can see each other and chat. I have a Skype account with my user name from here for them. One hasn't happened in a long time...
Oct 6, 2019 9:55:29 GMT -5
wewbwb: I'm pretty sure that it was seeing my ass.
Oct 6, 2019 15:21:29 GMT -5
petrushka: you breed donkeys?
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worksforme2: Happy Birthday shamwow….
Oct 11, 2019 9:02:53 GMT -5
worksforme2: I knew it was going to happen..the seasons here have jumped from summer to almost winter..months of hot, dry days and nights then a week later it is rain and temps in the low 40's at night...there goes my regressing effort this year
Oct 17, 2019 7:24:46 GMT -5
worksforme2: whoops..I meant re-grassing...I don't need to do any regressing...
Oct 17, 2019 11:39:34 GMT -5
donp: Help, No sex for 1 year. I think I have lost my mind.
Oct 17, 2019 13:21:05 GMT -5
javba: Agree donp - why would you NOT lose your mind, Rub one out - it helps for about 12 hours :-)
Oct 17, 2019 14:06:18 GMT -5
worksforme2: donp,...you think you have lost your mind... so you aren't positive... think about it some more and then let us know what you decide...
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