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Post by daffodilone on Aug 1, 2016 21:02:02 GMT -5
Hi folks!
Just a quick note to let you know, all is not lost. At least for me it isn't. Though not perfect (yet), it will be soon. For now, he's back in baby's arms!!!!
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Post by DryCreek on Aug 1, 2016 21:35:30 GMT -5
Hi folks! Just a quick note to let you know, all is not lost. At least for me it isn't. Though not perfect (yet), it will be soon. For now, he's back in baby's arms!!!! Well, this sounds like positive news! But we don't have much of your story here... what's your backstory, and what changed things for you? |
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Post by lwoetin on Aug 1, 2016 23:44:31 GMT -5
Wonderful news, daffodilone. I was watching The Risen with my wife tonight. Talk about resurrection. Best wishes to you and your h. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2016 0:52:08 GMT -5
Hi folks! Just a quick note to let you know, all is not lost. At least for me it isn't. Though not perfect (yet), it will be soon. For now, he's back in baby's arms!!!! I'm hoping things keep getting better and better! |
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Post by daffodilone on Aug 8, 2016 20:35:23 GMT -5
My back story goes back to 08 or 09. Whenever my father in law died. Because that's when my sexlife died too. Apparently it's not acceptable to answer your cell phone at 6:00 in the morning while driving to work and receiving the news that he'd died and saying 'oh shit! Do you want me to come home? H said no, so I said okay. See you tonight. I was cut off from that day.
Fast forward through all these years and a dear friend pointed out to me that maybe I should have at least pretended to grieve. I put on my best face and resurrected fil. Said all the things I probably should have said years ago. Admittedly I didn't want to. I've buried my share of people I loved, and was never understood, because my h never knew what it was like. Until he had to bury his own father. At least then he found out what it felt like.
Maybe I was just too stupid to give up. I don't know. We have two daughters. One who has put me through things no mother should ever have to deal with. And things her father will never hear from me.
My younger brother is engaged in a 'in your face' full out affair. He has my complete support. And always will.
I told my h. That will be me, unless things change in a hurry. And they did.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2016 6:26:18 GMT -5
My back story goes back to 08 or 09. Whenever my father in law died. Because that's when my sexlife died too. Apparently it's not acceptable to answer your cell phone at 6:00 in the morning while driving to work and receiving the news that he'd died and saying 'oh shit! Do you want me to come home? H said no, so I said okay. See you tonight. I was cut off from that day. Fast forward through all these years and a dear friend pointed out to me that maybe I should have at least pretended to grieve. I put on my best face and resurrected fil. Said all the things I probably should have said years ago. Admittedly I didn't want to. I've buried my share of people I loved, and was never understood, because my h never knew what it was like. Until he had to bury his own father. At least then he found out what it felt like. Maybe I was just too stupid to give up. I don't know. We have two daughters. One who has put me through things no mother should ever have to deal with. And things her father will never hear from me. My younger brother is engaged in a 'in your face' full out affair. He has my complete support. And always will. I told my h. That will be me, unless things change in a hurry. And they did. Another case that shows if you want anything to change, there has to be consequences for failure. If the focus is on how much you can do to make your refuser happy, you're rewarding them for refusing. If you say (and mean it) if x then y will happen, you're more likely to see some change. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2016 15:41:47 GMT -5
My younger brother is engaged in a 'in your face' full out affair. He has my complete support. And always will. I told my h. That will be me, unless things change in a hurry. And they did. I am so glad he listened to you. My refusing cheater would have had a screaming fit. |
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