unkakris
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Post by unkakris on Jul 30, 2016 22:33:35 GMT -5
I have felt responsible
I have felt responsible for the last 10 years for you
Ever since I confessed my cheating on you I felt guilty
Ever since then I have felt responsible for your happiness
I have felt responsible for your well-being
I have felt responsible for your life
I see now that I have done so
I am beginning to learn that I cannot carry those responsibilities
I'm beginning to see that I should not carry those responsibilities
I am beginning to explore what it means to be responsible for my own happiness
I am beginning to meditate and to take action on what it means to be responsible for my own well-being
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Post by RumRunner on Jul 31, 2016 14:08:15 GMT -5
There comes a time when one must not stay in the past but look to the future. Everything that has happened in the past should be a learning experience and each of us should strive to make ourselves a better person as a result. In the end, each of us are responsible for our own happiness.
The love and care from another human being is a gift, and should be cherished always. There are those that want to give, and those that want to take but true happiness is when there is both.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 31, 2016 14:22:52 GMT -5
I have felt responsible I have felt responsible for the last 10 years for you Ever since I confessed my cheating on you I felt guilty Ever since then I have felt responsible for your happiness I have felt responsible for your well-being I have felt responsible for your life I see now that I have done so I am beginning to learn that I cannot carry those responsibilities I'm beginning to see that I should not carry those responsibilities I am beginning to explore what it means to be responsible for my own happiness I am beginning to meditate and to take action on what it means to be responsible for my own well-being Outside of the line on cheating....I have lived these statements.... What is it in me that is willing to sacrifice everything in my life for someone else's happiness even when they don't acknowledge it?...and yet i continue to do so...with no end in sight.... my time and money.... just to try to keep others happy... And in the end...does it even really work?? |
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Post by snowman12345 on Jul 31, 2016 15:09:22 GMT -5
It is ok to be giving. It is commendable. The thing is, you have to give with no expectations.
Give because it makes you happy to give - if you get something back it is a bonus.
When the giving stops making you happy, then stop.
The only person in the world that is responsible for your happiness is you.
If you are giving because you feel responsible for someone else's happiness - then it will fail.
It is not a contest - keeping score will not change the situation.
"Cheating" results from one or more parts of a relationship being broken or disconnected. I cheat because sex makes me happy, but it makes my W miserable. I can't change that so, that part of my life is my responsibility.
When the time comes, and I can't get it up any more, I'll be in the same boat as my W and I guess we'll just go fishing.
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Post by baza on Jul 31, 2016 18:35:43 GMT -5
At a guess, it seems you are transitioning from "we" thinking in to "me" thinking Brother unkakris.
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In the context of your other stories, this seems to be a very sensible position to take.
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unkakris
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Post by unkakris on Aug 2, 2016 11:44:18 GMT -5
At a guess, it seems you are transitioning from "we" thinking in to "me" thinking Brother unkakris. - In the context of your other stories, this seems to be a very sensible position to take. I am, thank you for recognizing that! |
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