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Post by Dan on Jul 16, 2016 15:28:43 GMT -5
About ten years ago, I was in a wonderful relationship with a woman who was lonely in her marriage. (This was my "big affair" -- the one time in my outsourcing escapades that I fell in love.) By some extremely rare set of circumstances, I was able to invite her over for an evening at my house. What ensued was the most magical, romantic, sexual night of my life. That night was ten years ago this weekend (give or take a few days). I still recall so many details of that night so vividly. I journaled about it, and have a detailed account of that night. I re-read it from time to time... and it still makes me feel wonderful. She wrote back the next morning. Just a short note... part thank you note, part love note. I printed that out, and I put it in my wallet. (I keep it folded it up tightly, tucked way in a deep fold of my wallet; very little chance it will be accidentally found.) I pull it out and read it once in a blue moon for the smile it gives me. And each time I get a new wallet, moving my ID, credit cards, and this note is sort of a ritual. She decided to end the relationship after about a year, and nearly shut me out of her life completely. This was very, very hurtful. When I would doubt "what we had was real", that is another time I would re-read the note, and it would bring me comfort. I'm not sure if I'm bold enough to share the account of that evening with you; it is SO personal. (It reads like my erotic fiction... but it isn't fiction!) But I will share with you her note to me. After all, there is no finer group of friends I have than you to help me mark this "anniversary". just by being you
thank you, thank you, thank you... for the moonlight, the stars, the candles, the love nest. for thinking about me for trusting me for opening up to me for making me feel good about myself for investing time and energy in me for changing my life just by being you
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2016 15:57:28 GMT -5
For me, the best part of that would have been how it made HER feel... that would allowed me to move on and not let the coulda part control my memory...
Hope that provides some strength to you...
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Post by baza on Jul 16, 2016 20:41:38 GMT -5
Interesting what one finds in ones wallet when transferring the contents to a new one.
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Just out of interest, I just pulled the contents out of mine after reading your post Brother dan, and here's what it contained.
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$170 in notes.
10 cards (credit, library, medicare, ambulance, roadside assist, etc etc).
Drivers licence.
Motorbike Licence.
Passport size photo of Ms enna.
12 business cards.
2 bits of paper, one with the name Jennifer on it and a number (I have no fucking idea who "Jennifer" is !!!) and another one with the name Peter on it and a number, it is my cousins alternate phone number)
2 receipts from a hardware store about 3 years old.
Spare key for motorbike.
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I have just chucked out the detritus I have accrued, and the wallet is about half its' previous size !!!
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Post by wewbwb on Jul 16, 2016 21:07:08 GMT -5
I sounds to me that what you had was very real. You shared and opened up to the right person. And when you do, and know you do, it's like being a teenager all over again. I relate. It is bittersweet to have loved and lost. But I am sure that she changed you just as much as you changed her.
Just remember @dan, you are a better man for having been allowed into her life.
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Post by Caris on Jul 17, 2016 1:35:06 GMT -5
That's beautiful, Dan. I'm so happy you have that note.
So many times, I've derived comfort from re-reading the love messages from my "someone special." I love him very much, and though we will never meet or ever be together, his words of love can still bring a smile to my face, and comfort to my heart after all these years.
That's love, and you had it too. We loved and lost, but we have the memories, and they are golden.
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Post by unkakris on Jul 17, 2016 8:33:25 GMT -5
@dan thank you for sharing that. Simply lovely.
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Post by ggold on Jul 17, 2016 14:47:07 GMT -5
@dan Sigh...
That note would make me smile each time I read it. So heartfelt. You had something so special with her and can cherish the memories. (hugs)
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2016 9:35:09 GMT -5
I'm so glad you had that. In everyone's life, we get a few treasures.
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Post by Rhapsodee on Sept 17, 2016 2:26:19 GMT -5
I have someone I need to write a note like that to. We've had several magical encounters. I was allergic to the candles though. I'm happier with him in my life. I told him so as we were walking on the beach yesterday. He seemed pleased with that.
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Post by GeekGoddess on Sept 17, 2016 7:30:32 GMT -5
Ouch - I gave LoverMan a few different thank yous but I am unsure if he would have saved any of them. In 10 years, I bet I'll still remember a few of the important dates from that though. Sorry for the pangs, dear @dan - but 'tis true that we are each lucky who HAVE such a memory to savor and relish in. Love you, buddy!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 17, 2016 8:14:09 GMT -5
Interesting what one finds in ones wallet when transferring the contents to a new one. - Just out of interest, I just pulled the contents out of mine after reading your post Brother dan, and here's what it contained. - $170 in notes. 10 cards (credit, library, medicare, ambulance, roadside assist, etc etc). Drivers licence. Motorbike Licence. Passport size photo of Ms enna. 12 business cards. 2 bits of paper, one with the name Jennifer on it and a number (I have no fucking idea who "Jennifer" is !!!) and another one with the name Peter on it and a number, it is my cousins alternate phone number) 2 receipts from a hardware store about 3 years old. Spare key for motorbike. - I have just chucked out the detritus I have accrued, and the wallet is about half its' previous size !!! Did you keep "Jennifer?" LOL |
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Post by lwoetin on Sept 17, 2016 9:06:55 GMT -5
@dan, that is a beautiful and touching love note. I never got one!
I'm curious if she ended your relationship after a year because she fixed her lonely marriage?
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Post by solodriver on Sept 18, 2016 0:24:09 GMT -5
I had someone with whom I shared a "magical encounter" many years ago. We only did it once, but we continued to go on dinner dates, movie dates, I would housesit for her when she was out of town and after I had surgery and needed to have someone to watch my recovery before I could be released from the hospital, she did that for me so I could be released, so I stayed at her place with her watching to make sure I recovered properly. The time we shared together was very precious to me and the "magical encounter" I have always remembered in vivid detail. We had professional pictures made before I moved away and I gave one of mine to her and she gave me one of hers with a note on the back.
About five years ago when I was trying to look her up to call her, I was devastated to learn she had died. I printed a copy of her obituary along with the picture that was on it for my scrapbook. I got in my car, went to a quiet place and cried for hours. I was so glad to remember the time we shared together especially the "magical encounter". I was also so glad that I shared with her how much she meant to me the last time we had lunch together.
I put the picture she gave me on my IPhone so I will always have it to remember one wonderful lady and the time we shared.
I guess my moral to all this is please make sure if you have someone special in your life, you let them know today what they mean to you. Tomorrow may be too late.
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