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Post by worksforme2 on Jul 12, 2016 11:58:28 GMT -5
Juan Ponce de Léon was on the right coast but in the wrong state. I believe the water or possibly the vegetables grown in my local must act as a natural elixir or miracle food when it comes to ageing. Every time I look at the photos of the age 60 and above ladies at POF I am amazed at how youthful is their appearance. Most of them don't appear to be a day over 40, and many look to be in their 20's and 30's. It really is quite amazing. Unfortunately if one believes the most common complaint about POF it also causes them to have little or no interest in answering the emails sent to them from male admirers. Coincidentally, I have found that to be often the case for me.
Of coarse the elixir doesn't work the same for men. I suppose it must be the testosterone. The water or food that acts as a youthful tonic for the ladies turns mature males into hunting and fishing affection ado's who prefer their pictures in front of a bass boat or dead deer. It often causes the males to grow abnormally long beards and to exaggerate their height. It also seems to act as a natural libido boost for some causing them to seek the shortest route to copulation with the aforesaid youthful appearing females. This brings about considerable stress for the females as copulation seems to rank very low on their priority or check lists when considering males.
Seeing the same clientele at the dating site for months on end leads me to believe that very little dating actually takes place in this demographic.
Disclaimer: These are only observations and I have no empirical evidence to substantiate their validity other than pictures and profiles, conversations with a limited # of both male and female frequenters at POF, along with the complaints people post about the site or it's members.
Additional Disclaimer: The waters and vegetables may or may not work as described for all females or males as I have seen photos where there seemed to be no evidence the preservation of a youthful appearance in females or beards and bass boats for males.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2016 14:08:46 GMT -5
I suspect you are seeing very well edited, photos taken at flattering angles, with any number of filters and effects applied worksforme2. |
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 12, 2016 15:02:31 GMT -5
I'm on POF down here in Fl. I joined in March been out with ten different men.
Mostly first dates. A few second dates. It seems to me that the men I have gone out with really only want one thing and it's sex (which for me that's the easy part) but they don't want to invest their time to persue a woman, zero romance, they write that they want their partner in crime - their best friend but they have a smogashboard of women at their fingertips. So they will fuck you until the next best one comes along. Plus I think a lot of men just want fun until the newness wears off and they need something different to get excited.
I have not given any man the opportunity to get tired of me. Some I met and we mutually didn't text each other after the first date. Date #2 - smooth talker, nut job still sends me messages - I ignore them. Date #10- Starbucks guy: a man that I met for coffee, then slept with a few days later, sex was good especially for being together the first time. I think he just wants a FWB thing. I already have that with my AP and we are extremely compatible and comfortable together. So I will be messaging #10 and let him know that I'm looking for a man that wants to do things outside of the bedroom as well as inside the bedroom and I don't think we are looking for the same thing. Having my AP really helps me stay on point with not being with a man because I need sex.
As far as what I hear from the men - they say there are a lot of crazy nut job women out there looking for baby daddy's. One man told me #8 -it seems like the women that have a good personality are lousy in bed, the women that are great in bed are crazy. All I said was true. I couldn't think of something witty to say but I should have said that I think I have a great personality and I'm good in bed. That was a one and done. No big deal.
Online dating is like finding a needle in a haystack.
The key is know what you want, what your boundaries are and expect nothing. Also ask lots of questions and if something doesn't seem right it probably isn't.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jul 12, 2016 21:28:54 GMT -5
I'm on POF down here in Fl. I joined in March been out with ten different men. Mostly first dates. A few second dates. It seems to me that the men I have gone out with really only want one thing and it's sex (which for me that's the easy part) but they don't want to invest their time to persue a woman, zero romance, they write that they want their partner in crime - their best friend but they have a smogashboard of women at their fingertips. So they will fuck you until the next best one comes along. Plus I think a lot of men just want fun until the newness wears off and they need something different to get excited. I have not given any man the opportunity to get tired of me. Some I met and we mutually didn't text each other after the first date. Date #2 - smooth talker, nut job still sends me messages - I ignore them. Date #10- Starbucks guy: a man that I met for coffee, then slept with a few days later, sex was good especially for being together the first time. I think he just wants a FWB thing. I already have that with my AP and we are extremely compatible and comfortable together. So I will be messaging #10 and let him know that I'm looking for a man that wants to do things outside of the bedroom as well as inside the bedroom and I don't think we are looking for the same thing. Having my AP really helps me stay on point with not being with a man because I need sex. As far as what I hear from the men - they say there are a lot of crazy nut job women out there looking for baby daddy's. One man told me #8 -it seems like the women that have a good personality are lousy in bed, the women that are great in bed are crazy. All I said was true. I couldn't think of something witty to say but I should have said that I think I have a great personality and I'm good in bed. That was a one and done. No big deal. Online dating is like finding a needle in a haystack. The key is know what you want, what your boundaries are and expect nothing. Also ask lots of questions and if something doesn't seem right it probably isn't. There is some age difference between us so I expect we are speaking about different demographics . I have met a couple (1 in particular) ladies that fall into the crazy bin. No one over age 60 looking for a baby daddy. I did get a greeting from an attractive 27yr. old woman of color who likes older white men. You are right when you say to expect nothing. It's hard to phantom when seeing so many really attractive women who spend every Fri. and Sat. at home on the computer at POF. I see them week after week. Clearly they are ignoring or not bothering to reply to emails from men. What do you suppose they could be looking for? |
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Post by worksforme2 on Jul 12, 2016 21:42:23 GMT -5
I suspect you are seeing very well edited, photos taken at flattering angles, with any number of filters and effects applied worksforme2 . I really wrote this just to have some fun but also to clue in others that dating sites are really not what their marketers make them out to be. If the people I've met and the complaints I've read from both sides are valid it seems not a lot of dating is actually getting done. As for the photos they are obviously just photos taken 20 or more yrs. ago when the women were closer to their prime. I have no illusions when it comes to what these women probably look like now. Many have perhaps not aged well and that is why they don't post a recent picture. |
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 12, 2016 21:54:55 GMT -5
I posted very recent photos of myself.
I don't believe in catfishing. Just awful women that do that.
As far as what they are looking for? Lord only knows?!
I was talking on FB tonight with a friend from EP in the ILIASM group in his forties. He's not on this forum. We recently reconnected anyway he finally left his crazy wife. He was in an awful marriage and is doing the separation process his state requires for a divorce. So good news! Another escapee!
Anyway we were talking about dating and he said most women want to keep it casual and just have a FWB relationship. That surprised me.
I would be shocked if I actually meet someone worthwhile on the dating website. However I will keep trying. You can't win the lotto if you don't buy a ticket.
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Post by baza on Jul 12, 2016 22:44:49 GMT -5
This searching for a worthwhile person caper is awfully complicated (and truth be told, I couldn't be arsed with even trying if I were single) and reminds me of the chart that Sister Fiery posted a month or so back
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Fiery's chart shows the dead ends, that go nowhere and can thus be scrubbed as having any chance of turning up a worthwhile person.
It is compiled from a female perspective and holds that there is a pool of blokes out there.
And from that pool you start eliminating groups.
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From the total pool you eliminate all those who don't meet your age criteria.
Then from the remainder, you eliminate all the homosexual content.
From what is left, you eliminate the married blokes (blokes in the latter stages of divorce stay in the pool)
Also scrub those with addictions.
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So at this point you have culled out quite a lot of the original pool, and you are left with a pool of age appropriate single (or about to be) blokes.
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Now you make a further round of cuts, (you'll have to "interview" / "investigate" for this purpose).
Out go the single blokes who have never married by their own choice because they are committment phobes, mummys boys etc.
Out go the single blokes who have never married because they are such duds that women have steered clear of them for good reason.
Out go the widowed blokes who are of a mind that no-one can measure up to their dear departed missus.
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At this point you can also scrub -
The divorced ones who are still carrying a torch for their ex missus - or are still incredibly angry at their former missus.
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Out of what's left, there'll be ones you will eliminate on personal preferences (too tall / short etc) or other reasons that are important to you.
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And there you have it - the available pool of talent for you.
In amongst that group resides "the one".
He will be single (or just about to be) perhaps divorced, maybe widowed.
He'll share the same core values as you.
And he'll also be real keen to root you silly, and you'll be hoggin' for it just as bad.
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Post by baza on Jul 13, 2016 5:28:07 GMT -5
Piss funny Fiery.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 13, 2016 11:11:45 GMT -5
worksforme2 You obviously have a good knowledge of your competition! I can testify that the late 30's/40's age group also features pictures of many men posing with dead deer and/or holding up catches of fish like proud little boys (this is almost endearing, the dead deer not so much). The fish pictures crack me up because the pose and facial expressions are almost invariably exactly the same.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 13, 2016 11:25:20 GMT -5
I posted very recent photos of myself. I don't believe in catfishing. Just awful women that do that. As far as what they are looking for? Lord only knows?! I was talking on FB tonight with a friend from EP in the ILIASM group in his forties. He's not on this forum. We recently reconnected anyway he finally left his crazy wife. He was in an awful marriage and is doing the separation process his state requires for a divorce. So good news! Another escapee! Anyway we were talking about dating and he said most women want to keep it casual and just have a FWB relationship. That surprised me. I would be shocked if I actually meet someone worthwhile on the dating website. However I will keep trying. You can't win the lotto if you don't buy a ticket. I don't understand people (men and women) who don't post recent, relatively accurate photos. Why would you want to be with someone who would not select you if they saw pictures of what you actually look like? Plus there may be people who would accept the person's appearance either way but will be turned off by the deception. There really is no upside to misleading pictures. I don't think it's just women who do this either. For example I'm guessing a good majority of men wearing hats in every single picture are bald. I have no issues with a bald man, by the way, this is just an example of something that seems common. I'm guessing many of the seemingly commitment-phobic daters would be willing to go for a more serious relationship it their ideal mate came along. In any case I'm glad to be older. Having already been married I am in no rush to do it again anytime soon. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 13, 2016 11:57:28 GMT -5
Thanks for posting this worksforme2 . Out of sheer curiosity, and because I'm single, and because I'm the crazy, analytical thinking kind of gal, I put up an experimental online dating profile. The "oldest" photo was one I took in January, the most recent photo, was one I took in May. Of this year. The selection of my photos was to show different aspects of my lifestyle and how I look like in a normal day. I would be tempted to say that I posted some unflattering photos on purpose. What woman in her right mind would post a selfie taken on a bridge having been out there running for at least one hour? No trace of any make up, swollen, puffy face and sagging tired eyes. If someone would be good enough to meet, he would be surprised (positively) when he met me in real life. This approach would rock my world. It's no secret that my taste in women extends further into the natural than most guys. I tend to be a big fan of sweat, dirt, and strong. |
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Post by Caris on Jul 13, 2016 13:59:46 GMT -5
I'm over 60, and all I have to do to look 40, is put a soft focus on a selfie. No changes, no editing of features, just a soft focus, and 20-years dissapear in an instant.
I've never used them for dating as I don't date, I just wanted to see what the soft focus feature would do. It's amazing, so perhaps these ladies are using this for pics.
A couple of years ago, I had fillers injected into my face, and once the swelling went down, it had knocked 10-15 years off me. They only last 6-12 months, and I've never done them since, but it made me look more like a younger version of myself, (like I was in my 30s & 40s) which made me feel good, so perhaps with fillers and/or a soft focus, they look much younger...and better.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 13, 2016 14:04:42 GMT -5
Caris, you need an avatar. greatcoastal and I are offering two for the price of zero lately. Better hurry while supplies last!
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Post by Caris on Jul 13, 2016 14:20:30 GMT -5
Caris, you need an avatar. greatcoastal and I are offering two for the price of zero lately. Better hurry while supplies last! Okay. I'll take two, unless you want the attack dog back. 😉 |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 13, 2016 14:27:02 GMT -5
Caris , you need an avatar. greatcoastal and I are offering two for the price of zero lately. Better hurry while supplies last! Okay. I'll take two, unless you want the attack dog back. 😉 You'll need to give us something to work with. We're flexible. I'm assuming greatcoastal is game for this, but I'll let him speak for himself. |
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