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Post by worksforme2 on Jul 2, 2016 21:37:52 GMT -5
My divorce was finally completed 2 weeks ago following a 1 yr. mandatory separation, a 1 month notification and opportunity for spousal response period, 1 month delay because she never responded so the court took no action, 3 wks. for it to come up on the court calendar, and another week to record in the clerk's records. So roughly 15 months from start to finish. And then.....wait for it, wait for it......my X and I had sex!!!! And it was her idea.....Needless to say I am in somewhat of a conundrum as I don't really know what to make of it. But honestly, pumping a load into her after so long a time was quite enjoyable. It was only a few days before I was up for it again (sorry about the pun) and a week or so later I proposed a transfer of my little swimmers to her once again. She wasn't interested, so Deja Vue' all over again. By this I mean that when married she only wanted sex every 90 days or so, quarterly would be a good description. But as we talked afterward I got the clear impression this was not going to be a 1 time event, that it would be repeated in the future. I'm wondering if she is still on the quarterly schedule? Mentally it now feels like I have become a FWB for her when she is "in the mood". So am I a "ho" or am I just living right if I go from being a close friend and X to a FWB with my X? This is very confusing.
I apologize for this being so disjointed in the telling. I have just almost finished sucking a bottle of Duplin "Bald Head Red" down my neck. A NC wine from the coastal area where Bald Head Island is well known.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2016 21:45:17 GMT -5
Ok. Wait. worksforme2. What I mean is. Well, you know. What? |
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 2, 2016 21:54:17 GMT -5
You are not a ho. Enjoy whatever sex comes your way.
Good for you. Don't be confused. I recommend keeping your emotions in check as much as you can.
Just enjoy life and live for the day!
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Post by baza on Jul 2, 2016 21:57:24 GMT -5
What an interesting - and unusual - scenario.
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I suppose that at the core of it all, you are a single bloke, and she is a single chick, if you choose to root each other (or decline to do so) all it means is that you mutually chose to have an opportunistic root.
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I guess the key is, are you running an agenda here ?
Is she ? You do mention that you - "got the clear impression this was not going to be a 1 time event, that it would be repeated in the future". Is that what you want ?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2016 22:00:33 GMT -5
All I have to say is DONT GET HER PREGNANT!!!
Also, are you the guy I dislike b/c he won't touch my jokey dating profile with a 10 ft pole, lol?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2016 22:02:25 GMT -5
All I have to say is DONT GET HER PREGNANT!!! Also, are you the guy I dislike b/c he won't touch my jokey dating profile with a 10 ft pole, lol? I know a guy that did that. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2016 22:07:09 GMT -5
All I have to say is DONT GET HER PREGNANT!!! Also, are you the guy I dislike b/c he won't touch my jokey dating profile with a 10 ft pole, lol? I know a guy that did that. Yeah, I think I heard of 1 or 2 on EP iliasm. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2016 22:10:43 GMT -5
I know a guy that did that. Yeah, I think I heard of 1 or 2 on EP iliasm. I knew a guy in real life. It was weird to say the least. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2016 22:18:10 GMT -5
Also, sleeping with your ex does not a ho make. Sleeping with several exes... well that's a different story.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2016 22:24:45 GMT -5
worksforme2, you're not a ho, but if you can't shield your rocket, keep it in your pocket. STIs/STDs do not have an age limit. Time to saddle up and ride the big range, buckaroo!
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Post by DryCreek on Jul 2, 2016 23:51:56 GMT -5
worksforme2, depending on your disposition with her, I'd be inclined to take the "What have I got to lose?" angle, and whip out your "bedroom bucket list". You only want sex quarterly? My rules now.
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Post by DryCreek on Jul 2, 2016 23:54:18 GMT -5
Also, sleeping with your ex does not a ho make. Sleeping with several exes... well that's a different story. Separately? Or just at the same time? ;-) Wishful thinking. I don't have enough exes to make the odds viable. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 0:11:39 GMT -5
Also, sleeping with your ex does not a ho make. Sleeping with several exes... well that's a different story. Separately? Or just at the same time? ;-) Wishful thinking. I don't have enough exes to make the odds viable. Errr, ummm, yeah... |
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Post by unmatched on Jul 3, 2016 0:18:28 GMT -5
I think post breakup sex is actually quite common. You are both feeling a bit vulnerable, a bit lonely, and there is a familiar place to go and get some comfort and take the edge off. If you both want it, go for it, but don't have any expectations and make sure you have some hard boundaries in your head so you aren't tempted to get sucked back in. Because that is almost as common as post breakup sex and you DON'T want to find yourself tempted to go there.
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Post by lwoetin on Jul 3, 2016 4:35:20 GMT -5
My divorce was finally completed 2 weeks ago following a 1 yr. mandatory separation, a 1 month notification and opportunity for spousal response period, 1 month delay because she never responded so the court took no action, 3 wks. for it to come up on the court calendar, and another week to record in the clerk's records. So roughly 15 months from start to finish. And then.....wait for it, wait for it......my X and I had sex!!!! And it was her idea.....Needless to say I am in somewhat of a conundrum as I don't really know what to make of it. But honestly, pumping a load into her after so long a time was quite enjoyable. It was only a few days before I was up for it again (sorry about the pun) and a week or so later I proposed a transfer of my little swimmers to her once again. She wasn't interested, so Deja Vue' all over again. By this I mean that when married she only wanted sex every 90 days or so, quarterly would be a good description. But as we talked afterward I got the clear impression this was not going to be a 1 time event, that it would be repeated in the future. I'm wondering if she is still on the quarterly schedule? Mentally it now feels like I have become a FWB for her when she is "in the mood". So am I a "ho" or am I just living right if I go from being a close friend and X to a FWB with my X? This is very confusing. I apologize for this being so disjointed in the telling. I have just almost finished sucking a bottle of Duplin "Bald Head Red" down my neck. A NC wine from the coastal area where Bald Head Island is well known. It's good that you are still friends after the divorce. Maybe she wants to keep you that way and hence you got some X-sex. Don't you have to do it with multiple partners quite often to be a ho? When you get to that stage, let's revisit. But i would be up for enjoyable sex as often as possible. |
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