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ggold Senior Members Posts: 864 Age Range: 51-55	This quote..... Jul 1, 2016 10:43:18 GMT -5 Dan, Isabellas39, and 12 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by ggold on Jul 1, 2016 10:43:18 GMT -5 Thinking of us in this community. I am trying...I really am!

Caris Senior Members Posts: 970	This quote..... Jul 1, 2016 10:55:02 GMT -5 via mobile tamara68, Fiery, and 1 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Caris on Jul 1, 2016 10:55:02 GMT -5 I wouldn't say letting go of what I couldn't change made me happy, in fact, it made me very sad. It was just the right thing to do.

ggold Senior Members Posts: 864 Age Range: 51-55	This quote..... Jul 1, 2016 10:59:52 GMT -5 via mobile Caris likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by ggold on Jul 1, 2016 10:59:52 GMT -5 Jul 1, 2016 10:55:02 GMT -5 Caris said: I wouldn't say letting go of what I couldn't change made me happy, in fact, it made me very sad. It was just the right thing to do. So sorry. I get that. :-(

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Post by bballgirl on Jul 1, 2016 11:00:56 GMT -5

That is so true.
With acceptance came a sense of peace.
I no longer wanted my husband sexually either so I sort of understood his point of view and realized he loved me the best he could but I deserved better.
I really didn't want to outsource anymore however I have no regrets because it helped me to realize what normal sex should look like as well as just the shared conversations, texts, etc. that lead up to it.
In the end realizing that PEOPLE DON''T CHANGE and that not only had to do with the sex issues but also the control and gambling issues was like a light switch turned on. I spent too many years trying to get him to change.
What happened in the end was I no longer wanted him and I knew that I would never change in those regards so there was only one choice for me in order to be happy and not have to outsource.

Deleted Deleted Member Posts: 0	This quote..... Jul 1, 2016 14:30:22 GMT -5 warmways, Isabellas39, and 7 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2016 14:30:22 GMT -5 I love it ggold! Here are a couple that really spoke to me this week. Hugs!

ggold Senior Members Posts: 864 Age Range: 51-55	This quote..... Jul 1, 2016 14:43:17 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by ggold on Jul 1, 2016 14:43:17 GMT -5 Love them!!!!
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Deleted Deleted Member Posts: 0	This quote..... Jul 1, 2016 15:38:49 GMT -5 bballgirl, ggold, and 1 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by Deleted on Jul 1, 2016 15:38:49 GMT -5 Part of the Serenity Prayer, isn't it? That would be a life's work, IMHO. No easy feat. But inspiring no less.

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