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Post by wanomad on Jun 30, 2016 21:18:10 GMT -5
Did your refuser ever have the "Light Bulb" moment or epiphany that the only reason that they are in a sexless marriage is because the made a conscious decision everyday to avoid it.
I know I give my wife a choice everyday to reject me when I open my arms up and ask can I have a hug or lean in to kiss her on the cheek and she either takes a step back or makes up an excuse not too.
Living in hope that one day it will occur
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Post by baza on Jun 30, 2016 21:58:31 GMT -5
Every day you are fortunate enough to wake up, a new page opens, and you start equal with everyone else again, and the life law of choice and consequence plays out over the day.
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In an ILIASM context, the refusive spouse makes their choice about how they are going to conduct themselves today, and that is entirely their business, as are the consequences of their choice. No-ones responsibility but theirs.
For your part, you make your choices about how you are going to conduct yourself today, and that is entirely down to you, as are the consequences that ensue for your choice. No ones responsibility but yours.
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You choose to stay in your ILIASM shithole today ?
Fine, that is a perfectly legitimate choice, and is entirely your responsibility. It is not your missus responsibility, it's yours. All yours.
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You get to choose again, if you are fortunate enough to wake up tomorrow.
You might choose the same thing tomorrow, you might choose very differently.
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Choice is a bitch.
But no-one gets a pass on it.
No-one gets to 'sit this one out'.
And time keeps ticking away
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