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Post by iceman on Jun 27, 2016 12:11:11 GMT -5
I showed him the journal entry. We had a conversation. Now he's all broken up. He won't let me go....still holding on to hope. He refuses to allow our family to be torn apart. I don't want that either. I don't. He admitted he has a call out to a therapist and he wants to talk to a friend who has recently gotten divorced. I don't know how to get through this. I really don't. :-( I'm sorry to say that after 15+ years it's not going to get better and showing him your journal is not going to be the epiphany for him that you hoped for by showing him it. I can understand the hope that it would be the turning point for him. I used to have those thoughts with my wife. I tried similar things to no avail. His reaction is that of a person in denial. He has understood the situation for a long time and elected to do nothing. He just didn't understand that it would lead to divorce, or hoped that it wouldn't. Now he's scared. Don't blame him. But, if it was going to get better it would have gotten better by now. Therapy is nothing more than his delaying tactic, and he most likely is sincere in his belief that he can change and things will improve. But in the end you most likely will be back into the same situation with just x number more years of your life gone. It's going to be a tough, life-altering experience and I admire your courage for proceeding down the path to an uncertain but happier future. I wish I had the courage ... |
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Post by angryspartan on Jun 27, 2016 12:16:24 GMT -5
I think most you have missed her motives for showing him the journal.
It's to show him the hurt he caused and how long she's dealt with it. I don't think she's hoping for a magical transformation.
Given her past comments, I don't think he could win her back even if he did start being the husband she wants.
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Post by ggold on Jun 27, 2016 14:35:44 GMT -5
You are correct angryspartan. I just wanted to show him that I've been dealing with the hurt for so long. I thought that seeing it in writing would make a bigger impact rather than saying it over and over again. He cannot win me back at this point. Not at all. :-( |
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