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Post by cc on Jun 25, 2016 0:57:19 GMT -5
My mother is arriving tomorrow for a long visit. This means I will behave and pretend because I don't want the lecture on how perfect H is. She adores him. My mom is also a refuser...gotta stick together... She uses sex to get something. (this pretending will most likely cause him to think all is ok)
H says he will work a lot. Um, ok.....isn't that what you do anyway?
This means he is sleeping in my bed so the guest room is open.
I'm in a bad place so I don't want to do much but curl up, binge watch Netflix, and work on custom orders.
I guess I will keep her extra busy. 😖
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Post by greatcoastal on Jun 25, 2016 20:17:06 GMT -5
When parents come to visit it can be a good time for a " self examination." You know the old saying, " the apple does not fall far from the tree." However this is your mother visiting. You may have gained some insightful wisdom through your tribulations, that would be helpful in learning how to deal with your mother.
Several of us on this sight have stated that our rejecting spouses had a similar problem in there parents marriage. My parents passed away before I could use this. But with my spouse the writing on the wall could not be clearer! Her father lives with us after leaving his controlling spouse.her mother. Who she says, " if I ever act like her please tell me!" The last time in counceling when I called her a " mothers name", she said, "don't call me that." Didn't deny that she was being just like her, didn't argue, debate, discuss, any of it! Truth hurts sometimes!
Back in my early twenties, after living on my own around a whole new influence of different people, I went home to visit my family. This was when I realized my mother cursed..a lot! Getting told by her youngest child ," that she was far to smart to be talking like that, and that's not the kind loving person I know". That put an end to it after years of doing it.
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Post by baza on Jun 26, 2016 6:15:46 GMT -5
Take a dysfunctional marriage.
Pretty hard to cope with.
Add in some more stress - like having a relative stay for a while.
Watch those cracks start to widen under the pressure.
The cracks in your spouse, in you, and in the union.
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A bit of pressure in a relationship is a good thing.
It will show you whether it -
(a) - pulls you together
or
(b) - pulls you further apart.
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Either way you will learn something. Or have what you already know re-confirmed.
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Post by timeforliving2 on Jun 27, 2016 0:25:47 GMT -5
My mother is arriving tomorrow for a long visit. This means I will behave and pretend because I don't want the lecture on how perfect H is. She adores him. *** This means he is sleeping in my bed so the guest room is open. *** cc - Just curious... When did you start sleeping in different bedrooms? TL2 |
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