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Post by snowman12345 on Jun 19, 2016 17:09:16 GMT -5
Some surprise news, MIL has lung cancer and it is far more advanced then we were first led to believe. So she is now at our house on hospice care. She is an incredibly kind and generous person and I have no problem caring for her. I am a healthcare professional and care for end of life patients routinely. I expect she will pass in the next few days. Her family is gathering from far and wide to say good bye, the house is full of kids and laughter. I just hope that when I go I have touched enough lives to make my passing an event like hers. She is still sharp and understands what is happening. This probably my biggest reason for staying - extended family and the love that binds us. Well I have to go. Cooking for 15 or so folks. Enjoy your weekend and Father's Day!
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Post by misssunnybunny on Jun 19, 2016 18:20:14 GMT -5
Sorry to hear this. How wonderful to have the family there for her, and to help care for her. To slightly paraphrase Dylan Thomas, may she go gentle into that good night. Take care.
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 19, 2016 18:21:55 GMT -5
I'm sorry about your MIL.
Make it a celebration of her life.
Happy Father's Day to you Snowman, you're a good guy!
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Post by unmatched on Jun 19, 2016 18:47:38 GMT -5
I am very sorry to hear this. I hope her passing is a loving and connecting experience for all of you together.
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Post by obobfla on Jun 19, 2016 19:07:08 GMT -5
I remember both my parents passing. They both passed in their own beds with most of us around within three months of each other. We had hospice service, so they were as comfortable as possible. I miss them, but I know they went peacefully to a better place.
My mother-in-law is still going strong at 88. She and are are allies in dealing with my wife. I don't know if my wife can handle her passing.
Hope everything goes peacefully, and that you all celebrate her life.
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Post by baza on Jun 19, 2016 19:13:18 GMT -5
I hope you can play a major part in helping your MIL to a dignified and peaceful exit, and also play a significant support role to those around you at this sobering time Brother snowman.
And to accept the support from those around you too.
Thinking of you at this time.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 19, 2016 20:41:25 GMT -5
Snowman, my heart goes out to you and your family. I lost my mom to lung cancer nearly ten years ago. To watch someone so adored slowly and painfully slip away is a grief I would never wish on anyone. Hugs to you, wherever you are.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 20, 2016 2:05:40 GMT -5
This is exactly why I like you, snowman12345. MIL sounds like she's getting everyone ready, including herself. You will be in my thoughts. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 20, 2016 16:24:20 GMT -5
snowman12345, I'm sure you will get through this with grace. It's one of the weirdest and most profound things to do - to see someone through to the end that way. I was a hospice volunteer many years ago, and I love what they do.
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Post by wewbwb on Jun 21, 2016 8:39:42 GMT -5
snowman12345 , I'm sure you will get through this with grace. It's one of the weirdest and most profound things to do - to see someone through to the end that way. I was a hospice volunteer many years ago, and I love what they do. @snow12345 It is a challenge I am sure that you are up to. You will be needed for support and strength and I am sure you will do your best. Both as a caregiver and SIL. I can never be a hospice worker. I am not nearly strong enough to do what they do daily. |
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