Sexless Marriage

Well... in delightful news, I got some yesterday, so cheers there! He is still working on following up with a doctor on getting tested and is absolutely laying this hang-up at his own feet. He feels that outside of there being a possible hormone imbalance, he is also dealing with depression, which I agree with, and I understand how that particular nuance can rob someone of the motivation needed to do the work. We are not out of the woods yet by any means, but I feel that we are taking a step in the right direction. I also had a rather diabolical thought that I hadn't even considered prior. He feels undesirable, and that has hampered things, and while I express my love through touch (hugs, petting, kisses, etc.) I have not been very intimate when it comes to physical touch (my own hang-up) which I am looking to remedy... going to tease the absolute hell out of him. I think that will get me more comfortable in my own skin and snatch back some power I lost due to having my ego trampled, and it will help solidify in his mind that I do find him desirable. So, yes! Teasing without expecting anything in return while he works on the other two items and fingers crossed. Thank you all for your insight; it was very helpful in getting my thoughts collected and letting me find the right words I needed to address this issue in greater detail.