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Post by deadzone75 on Jun 9, 2024 22:34:08 GMT -5
My X used to have to drink to prepare for sex, too. Like, an entire bottle of wine. Eventually I couldn't stand the sight of her getting boozed up, knowing that if she wasn't pouring alcohol down her throat, she'd have no interest in the once/twice per year that we did have sex. On our last anniversary, I completely ignored her for the entire night because she was drunk before 7pm. An added bonus was that she would also watch some shitty soft porn movie like Basic Instinct or Sliver while she was drinking, I guess to really get primed. How pathetic.
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Post by ironhamster on Jun 15, 2024 6:28:53 GMT -5
My ex would also get drunk on the rare nights she scheduled sex for us. I assumed she thought this was something I considered sexy, but I finally confronted her about how unloved I felt, as if she would have to get drunk to find me tolerable. In her case, though, that was exactly what the deal was. And, in time, I found it was never me that was the problem.
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Post by toughtiger on Jun 30, 2024 23:14:10 GMT -5
This is just Sad ..... honestly i can say i have been drunk a few times before sex but it was a mutual drunk...
if someone does on purpose it is sad because in my eyes... that is devoid of any true feelings to need to be drunk or stimulated by outsides things like sexy movie/ or porn type things... it is just about dislike or hate of sex.
It is NOT about the spouse.... because when there is real feelings you can overlook weight gain and thinning hair wrinkles or what some of us worry about it being.
All the superficial things do not matter...you see the person you love.
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Post by sundayblue0071 on Jul 4, 2024 22:56:10 GMT -5
My X used to have to drink to prepare for sex, too. Like, an entire bottle of wine. Eventually I couldn't stand the sight of her getting boozed up, knowing that if she wasn't pouring alcohol down her throat, she'd have no interest in the once/twice per year that we did have sex. On our last anniversary, I completely ignored her for the entire night because she was drunk before 7pm. An added bonus was that she would also watch some shitty soft porn movie like Basic Instinct or Sliver while she was drinking, I guess to really get primed. How pathetic.
At this stage, I believe I have to get stoned in order to have sex with my wife. I just can't have it not intoxicated on something. I drink alcohol infrequently and it's just not my drug of choice. MJ, on the other hand, has always been my drug of choice and even though I don't nearly smoke as much as I'd like to, I know it's the only way I could see myself having sex with my wife.
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Post by deadzone75 on Jul 5, 2024 22:04:09 GMT -5
My X used to have to drink to prepare for sex, too. Like, an entire bottle of wine. Eventually I couldn't stand the sight of her getting boozed up, knowing that if she wasn't pouring alcohol down her throat, she'd have no interest in the once/twice per year that we did have sex. On our last anniversary, I completely ignored her for the entire night because she was drunk before 7pm. An added bonus was that she would also watch some shitty soft porn movie like Basic Instinct or Sliver while she was drinking, I guess to really get primed. How pathetic.
At this stage, I believe I have to get stoned in order to have sex with my wife. I just can't have it not intoxicated on something. I drink alcohol infrequently and it's just not my drug of choice. MJ, on the other hand, has always been my drug of choice and even though I don't nearly smoke as much as I'd like to, I know it's the only way I could see myself having sex with my wife.
Same. And I might have been able to tolerate things better if I had stayed in Washington State. I drink maybe 2-3 beers a year. Not fun to always be sober in a SM. |
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Post by mirrororchid on Jul 9, 2024 4:08:48 GMT -5
I'd like to mention the subpopulation of people who use alcohol because they "want to want to". They want to be sexual and aren't unless they beat down their inhibitions with sedative. Some refusers do not like their refusal and this is a loving act to want to be sexual, even if they need help. Psychedlics appear to be useful: www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14681994.2022.2044466Wish it had specified which agent was used. |
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