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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 7, 2024 7:52:58 GMT -5
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Post by toughtiger on Mar 9, 2024 23:12:23 GMT -5
I feel this guy is a bit off.... first of all because even if at first you both are in sync .... people change as witnessed here at first all is working then slowly it all breaks down....
the comparison of if the kitchen is closed they will eat elsewhere..... seems like a threat and does not help the disconnect.
i think we need to get to the basics of being honest with each other and work through times when the libido does not match. my issues really went downhill because of things outside the bedroom not because a drive versus a mood thing.
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Post by m76 on Mar 9, 2024 23:33:58 GMT -5
I feel this guy is a bit off.... first of all because even if at first you both are in sync .... people change as witnessed here at first all is working then slowly it all breaks down.... the comparison of if the kitchen is closed they will eat elsewhere..... seems like a threat and does not help the disconnect. i think we need to get to the basics of being honest with each other and work through times when the libido does not match. my issues really went downhill because of things outside the bedroom not because a drive versus a mood thing. I've started to not like a lot of this guys videos. Maybe i'm wrong but his approach feels like manipulation with him controlling everything.
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Post by lonelyhubby on Mar 10, 2024 11:01:14 GMT -5
A lot of what drove my Wife's withholding was based on a lot of mood issues, coupled with anger towards me - couple that with Perimenopause setting in hard and libido went away and it worked as a combination effect. A lot of times the "kitchen is closed" just because it is a conscious decision to do so. I think that's what he is getting at
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Post by greatcoastal on Mar 12, 2024 21:09:31 GMT -5
I feel this guy is a bit off.... first of all because even if at first you both are in sync .... people change as witnessed here at first all is working then slowly it all breaks down.... the comparison of if the kitchen is closed they will eat elsewhere..... seems like a threat and does not help the disconnect. i think we need to get to the basics of being honest with each other and work through times when the libido does not match. my issues really went downhill because of things outside the bedroom not because a drive versus a mood thing. I've started to not like a lot of this guys videos. Maybe i'm wrong but his approach feels like manipulation with him controlling everything. I'm starting to receive only negative feedback for what I find to be helpful advice. So, from now on i will leave space for others to post whatever articles they want to share,and share my choice of articles on other forums and with friends.
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Post by ironhamster on Mar 31, 2024 17:08:47 GMT -5
I actually do like this guy. He has some great insights.
This, in essence, is the "right of first refusal," and it can apply to a woman just as easily as a man. While I think it is reasonable, my ex considered it a reason to end the marriage and walk away with cash and prizes.
Negotiating these things up front works in a normal relationship, as it sets everyone's expectations up for meeting their partner's needs. I have cautions about marriage, though, since courts do throw out prenuptial agreements.
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