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Post by mirrororchid on Jan 22, 2024 7:20:28 GMT -5
I have tried to attract a handful of online f@#ck buddies but it has failed on all attempts. Not because I stopped but because they dropped off without any honest or true reason for stopping. It must be me or guys in general just have no courage to say they're done or why or anything for that matter. This is where my head goes so, shame on me for taking it to heart and mind. ... Is it possible that these men have enjoyed contact with you, and in doing so have gained an understanding of what a normal relationship looks like which provides a stark contrast to their reality, which is hard for them to bear? Might this take time for these men to process and come to terms with a reminder of what normal, healthy communication looks and feels like? I have spoken to several men online, here and elsewhere, who have floated away and then back towards me who have explained this was what was in their thinking. (In my situation these were above board, civilised conversations with no aspect of debauchery. So, emotionally very different to you possibly.) The common denominator was the difficulty these men seemed to experience having healthy communication with a very different woman than their wife. A woman not hell-bent on control, manipulation, blaming and abusing. They loved it all, until it got them thinking about their choices, then it all got really hard, so they pulled a Houdini to make it all easier for them. So, petal, it may well not be anything to do with you, other than you being a normal, healthy, well adjusted women causing more confusion than these men can bear. If you can, please try to be kind to yourself. Interesting alternative, isthisit . Might have been cheaters looking to score but horrified they caught feelings? (same old, same old didn't say they were married, I don't think.) They wouldn't leave their partners for a fling, but someone who makes them feel wanted and appreciated? That's dangerous. I wanted to ask "Is this Tinder?" I thought they floated away because Tinder is a hookup site. All the pleas of "no hookups" on the ladies' profiles don't change it. The snake will bite you because it's a snake. Key would be whether the only guys getting right swiped were good looking. They may be getting lots and lots of swipe rights in return and shut off the communication once they have picked their top four. Meet two, text the other two to keep them warm if one of the two they're actually dating washes out. Tinder, being a place where entangled lives are not the goal? Ghosting is thoroughly unsurprising. Other sites should be less thoughtless, but maybe not by much. People are starting to treat other people the same way they treat a bot. I cannot stop myself from saying "Please" when I ask Bard or ChatGPT to do some research for me. |
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Post by Same old, same old on Jan 22, 2024 7:54:42 GMT -5
Not Tinder. Needed to be more discreet. I felt like these people were of similar mindset but maybe I was wrong. Im going to choose to believe isthisit's reasoning as that at least makes me feel less frustrated.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 22, 2024 9:32:51 GMT -5
Not Tinder. Needed to be more discreet. I felt like these people were of similar mindset but maybe I was wrong. Im going to choose to believe isthisit's reasoning as that at least makes me feel less frustrated. I think perhaps you have enjoyed some recent success in your quest for an online sexual relationship. I am happy for you. My question for you reflects my own feelings about cyber sex. I have had a couple opportunities for this. I turned them down . I felt that for me it would be little better than jacking off to porn . Never got much from that. I always want to feel a woman's body next to me. Do you think online sex will give you what you arelooking for or is it perhaps just an intermediate step to build up your confidence before perhaps looking for the real thing outside the marriage? |
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Post by Same old, same old on Jan 22, 2024 10:16:57 GMT -5
Not Tinder. Needed to be more discreet. I felt like these people were of similar mindset but maybe I was wrong. Im going to choose to believe isthisit's reasoning as that at least makes me feel less frustrated. I think perhaps you have enjoyed some recent success in your quest for an online sexual relationship. I am happy for you. My question for you reflects my own feelings about cyber sex. I have had a couple opportunities for this. I turned them down . I felt that for me it would be little better than jacking off to porn . Never got much from that. I always want to feel a woman's body next to me. Do you think online sex will give you what you arelooking for or is it perhaps just an intermediate step to build up your confidence before perhaps looking for the real thing outside the marriage? I would have to say that I do enjoy the excitement of online sex as I do not feel self confident enough to venture out into a real-life affair at this point. |
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Post by isthisit on Jan 29, 2024 18:15:27 GMT -5
Yes, I was surprised at what can be achieved in cyber space. I would never have thought it would be my thing, but always good to keep an open mind. Yet one more silver lining from the mixed blessing that was the covid era. Not as good as the first person experience, but not a bad alternative where circs allow for it.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 29, 2024 19:04:51 GMT -5
Yes, I was surprised at what can be achieved in cyber space. I would never have thought it would be my thing, but always good to keep an open mind. Yet one more silver lining from the mixed blessing that was the covid era. Not as good as the first person experience, but not a bad alternative where circs allow for it. Now I am just interested enough to ask how involved is this online sex? Is it just texting , messaging? Or are we talking about something like a zoom meeting where you can see the other person and what they are doing? I don't know if my imaginaton is creative enough to make this work, but it might be worth considering if a video element is part of the experience. |
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Post by Same old, same old on Jan 29, 2024 19:12:45 GMT -5
Video is definitely involved if mutually agreed to. There are online modes of discreet and confidential sharing of visual material and real-time video chatting. Just be careful to not be fooled by scammers ... if they are only willing to see you or don't want to video chat or let you see them, it could be a scammer. I would definitely get to know and trust your online affair partner before starting up anything video related.
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Post by Missingout on Jan 30, 2024 7:43:00 GMT -5
This seems to be a good first step to ease into to. What platform do you use? Kik?
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Post by Same old, same old on Jan 30, 2024 8:01:06 GMT -5
This seems to be a good first step to ease into to. What platform do you use? Kik? I prefer whatsapp but currently using Kik which I moved to after too much to keep up with on Ashley Madison. I have a longterm "friend" on Messenger |
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 30, 2024 8:10:29 GMT -5
This seems to be a good first step to ease into to. What platform do you use? Kik? I prefer whatsapp but currently using Kik which I moved to after too much to keep up with on Ashley Madison. I have a longterm "friend" on Messenger so you are masterbating online with more than one male ? now it is getting interesting.... |
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Post by Same old, same old on Jan 30, 2024 8:15:21 GMT -5
Well, I'm not always masturbating ... sheesh! Just having great conversation and naughty talk and sharing with a few great guys that make me feel sexy and wanted
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Post by Missingout on Jan 30, 2024 12:18:43 GMT -5
Well, I'm not always masturbating ... sheesh! Just having great conversation and naughty talk and sharing with a few great guys that make me feel sexy and wanted 🤣🤣 Yeah gotta rest end recharge the batteries... Just kidding. Nothing wrong with what you're are doing.. there are plenty of fish out there for you.. have fun and enjoy yourself. You deserve it.. |
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Post by Missingout on Jan 30, 2024 12:21:21 GMT -5
This seems to be a good first step to ease into to. What platform do you use? Kik? I prefer whatsapp but currently using Kik which I moved to after too much to keep up with on Ashley Madison. I have a longterm "friend" on Messenger I downloaded Kik last week and not even sure how it works🤪 I'm lucky to send a picture through texting. The struggle is real... |
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Post by Same old, same old on Jan 30, 2024 13:14:17 GMT -5
I prefer whatsapp but currently using Kik which I moved to after too much to keep up with on Ashley Madison. I have a longterm "friend" on Messenger I downloaded Kik last week and not even sure how it works🤪 I'm lucky to send a picture through texting. The struggle is real... Haha ... I had issues too ... think I have it figured out and then it crashes. See if you can find me ... I am mylfalot on Kik |
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Post by Missingout on Jan 30, 2024 13:40:19 GMT -5
I downloaded Kik last week and not even sure how it works🤪 I'm lucky to send a picture through texting. The struggle is real... Haha ... I had issues too ... think I have it figured out and then it crashes. See if you can find me ... I am mylfalot on Kik Great name!!! |
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