Don't get emotionally attached in the first 6 mo. of dating

I must confess: after decades of SM, I fall victim of having a very difficult time of showing restraint in the first 6 days, 6 hrs. of not showing my need for physical ,emotional intimacy!

Such a learning experience, life lesson!!

I'm sure this is just as applicable for women.

I love the way he words it! " placing yourself in the position of the adorer role  this will force her in the place of the adored which is generally not the place where women want to be, because it robs them of the emotional experience where women typically seek in romantic relationships.

  A man in the adorer role is less attractive because, if your looking up at her, ... then she's looking down...at you!  Very hard for a woman to love, let alone respect, a man she is forced to look down on. Emotionally investing to soon , can significantly compromise attraction, and drive a woman right out of your life..


You cant want someone into wanting you more....so just cool your jets!

Finally watching this.

I'd like to emphasize what he says at 0:50  "emotionally invested in a particular woman".

Repeatedly, I see "one woman man" types who seem to scorn the concept of dating multiple ladies.
Nevermind this was common practice in Victorian times considered far more upstanding and romantic than ours.

If you're not to emotionally commit before six months are up, a few things are going on.

1) The woman assumes you are not actually interested and there is someone else. She is your backup plan.
2) You are sleeping with her without the emotional investment and she'll have to conclude #1, but tenfold.
3) You're gay, porn addicted, or testosterone impaired.

On the other hand, if you wish to offer her your heart in addition to your body, you can, as long as she's not the only one. 
You can explain any shorter than six months is a decision period and if she wants to slow things down, you'd understand.
Some ladies see a man who has multiple offers as ten times more attractive. It's neurotic and self-destructive as hell, but appears to be true. It's how cads are born.
You can choose to be a cad, or you can be the prize they dream about and end up actually being that prize.
If she reveals something disturbing in that six month trial period, you'll be the cad to her, if not one in reality, but that is the kind of price the presenter is making.

When he speaks of tearing yourself in two, choosing between your head and your ..."heart", this is the insurance policy that helps a lot. When you choose between your defective date and nobody...defective date seems okay/tolerable. If you're dating more than one, you will not be up against that wall and allow your "heart" to talk you into deep commitment to a train wreck.
We've heard stories about brides that stopped physical intimacy even before the vows. Were these guys facing the same dynamic while dating? It's all or nothing? May as well ride out the ship I'm already aboard?

What he describes, the poker face. Not demonstrating how terrific you think she is becomes natural if you are considering the value of more than one relationship and investing time in both, actively collecting data. The comparison thinking will disallow fixation on either. The time split between multiple candidates will produce unavailability and enhanced interest. Someone with a lot going on has more to share. It's the opposite of co-dependency where everything is already known and there's not much to talk about and neither partner can be interesting to each other, as loved or important as they may be.

Splitting your attention will also encourage the recommendation of not thinking about either of them obsessively. It should be easier to think about both prospects and football or your work because you are already multi-tasking, incapable of tunnel vision.

I love the part about don't trust anyone with your heart that you wouldn't loan $2000 to. ("Trust with your money")