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Post by sweetplumeria on Nov 19, 2023 2:19:38 GMT -5
I have a friend that I met on the old EP site. So we have been friends a long time. She was recently telling me about a funny conversation with her boyfriend where she had been picking out his mom's presents but the boyfriend's wife wouldn't have anything to do with it and the boyfriend's sister was jealous about how good of gifts he was choosing. So in jest I told my friend that maybe I should date her so she could help pick out gifts for my mom. I was joking but her reply seemed rather serious. She said that I should move in with my boyfriend and that we could be a threesome and that they could both be intimate with me. She didn't want to be intimate with him she wanted her boyfriend who is married. I had no idea how to answer this text from her because it was so laid out I got the feeling she wasn't joking. When you open yourself up to possibility you never know what's going to happen. I have no intention of doing that but it was kind of fascinating. I will be seeing her spring of next year so I might have to make an edit to this post LOL. Love you all let's keep it interesting!
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Post by Missingout on Nov 19, 2023 5:00:29 GMT -5
I have a friend that I met on the old EP site. So we have been friends a long time. She was recently telling me about a funny conversation with her boyfriend where she had been picking out his mom's presents but the boyfriend's wife wouldn't have anything to do with it and the boyfriend's sister was jealous about how good of gifts he was choosing. So in jest I told my friend that maybe I should date her so she could help pick out gifts for my mom. I was joking but her reply seemed rather serious. She said that I should move in with my boyfriend and that we could be a threesome and that they could both be intimate with me. She didn't want to be intimate with him she wanted her boyfriend who is married. I had no idea how to answer this text from her because it was so laid out I got the feeling she wasn't joking. When you open yourself up to possibility you never know what's going to happen. I have no intention of doing that but it was kind of fascinating. I will be seeing her spring of next year so I might have to make an edit to this post LOL. Love you all let's keep it interesting! Hmmm definitely would be interesting to hear about. I’m sure it would be a Hot story I hope to read about… luckiest man alive right there..definitely open to the possibility 😉 |
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Post by greatcoastal on Nov 19, 2023 10:46:23 GMT -5
I do find it " interesting" that people can sexually be 'intimate' with many different people at the same time, and not end up feeling to spread out,thin, over giving of your personal self to many others like that?
Young women ( in the ages of 18-25) who put there selves on Onlyfans have a high body count, will find themselves un-datable and not wanted by a man in there later 30's. They've shown that the're not wife/relationship material, and see sex as as a performance with little intimate connection.
I think for those of us who went through decades of yearning for that connection with one person, it's better and safer to stick with giving yourself "emotionally and physically" to one at a time. Words and actions that show trust, communication, vulnerability, support, honesty, commitment, maturity, and interdependence, revolve around a bonding with that 'one' person.
I'm also 'counselled' by others to " keep it light and fluffy", "friends first, then see where it goes", " don't put all your eggs in one basket".
The percentage of failure among open marriages, people with multiple partners, goes way higher than those who don't. ( I'll have to look up those statistics.)
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Post by toughtiger on Nov 19, 2023 12:14:19 GMT -5
I do find it " interesting" that people can sexually be 'intimate' with many different people at the same time, and not end up feeling to spread out,thin, over giving of your personal self to many others like that? Young women ( in the ages of 18-25) who put there selves on Onlyfans have a high body count, will find themselves un-datable and not wanted by a man in there later 30's. They've shown that the're not wife/relationship material, and see sex as as a performance with little intimate connection. I think for those of us who went through decades of yearning for that connection with one person, it's better and safer to stick with giving yourself "emotionally and physically" to one at a time. Words and actions that show trust, communication, vulnerability, support, honesty, commitment, maturity, and interdependence, revolve around a bonding with that 'one' person. I'm also 'counselled' by others to " keep it light and fluffy", "friends first, then see where it goes", " don't put all your eggs in one basket". The percentage of failure among open marriages, people with multiple partners, goes way higher than those who don't. ( I'll have to look up those statistics.) I think some try to separate sex from an intimate close relationship and then wonder why they are not fulfilled. i wonder what those who do these things will think about when they are older and no one sees them as marrying types. But i also found out that being only with my spouse .. i may have missed out on much better .... i wanted to outsource but my online friend lives far away but i do not see taking up some available options because i have developed a bond with online friend more serious about not cheating on him then i am about on my spouse. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 19, 2023 13:27:15 GMT -5
But i also found out that being only with my spouse .. i may have missed out on much better .... i wanted to outsource but my online friend lives far away Get a new friend that lives closer.....There are millions of men who probably would be great partners for you. Remaining sexless because an online friend lives far away makes no sense to me. Unless you are like me and live near a small town in a rural county, there are likely 100's of men who live within driving distance, who would love to court you and make your current (dreams only) into a reality. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 19, 2023 13:40:26 GMT -5
I have a friend that I met on the old EP site. So we have been friends a long time. She was recently telling me about a funny conversation with her boyfriend where she had been picking out his mom's presents but the boyfriend's wife wouldn't have anything to do with it and the boyfriend's sister was jealous about how good of gifts he was choosing. So in jest I told my friend that maybe I should date her so she could help pick out gifts for my mom. I was joking but her reply seemed rather serious. She said that I should move in with my boyfriend and that we could be a threesome and that they could both be intimate with me. She didn't want to be intimate with him she wanted her boyfriend who is married. I had no idea how to answer this text from her because it was so laid out I got the feeling she wasn't joking. When you open yourself up to possibility you never know what's going to happen. I have no intention of doing that but it was kind of fascinating. I will be seeing her spring of next year so I might have to make an edit to this post LOL. Love you all let's keep it interesting! Time to bring out my trusty crisp hundred dollar bill and make a wager..... I am betting that if such a threesome did happen more than once, and if there is some chemistry between your girlfriend and your boyfriend, then at some point when the action is hot and heavy, and the juices are flowing for everyone, your girl friend is very likely to welcome your male friend into her vigina. It's pure speculation on my part. But my past experiences with multiple partners has been that before it's all over, and given enought time and opportunities, everyone is likely to have sex with everone else. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Nov 19, 2023 21:33:53 GMT -5
When you open yourself up to possibility you never know what's going to happen. I have no intention of doing that but it was kind of fascinating. I will be seeing her spring of next year so I might have to make an edit to this post LOL. Love you all let's keep it interesting! Ships don't sink because of the water around them. Ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don't let what's happening around you get inside you and weigh you down! Sounds like your boundaries are being tested? A person who knows their boundaries and shows discipline by sticking to them is very attractive!! And will attract people of the same caliber! |
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Post by sweetplumeria on Nov 20, 2023 1:21:53 GMT -5
WOW! This got spicy!
I didn't think this would get as much traction as it is already. This is fun. So, maybe you need a little backstory. I have known her since EP and I can't remember what year that was maybe one of the elders here can tell us when that one ended in this one began I didn't save my stuff unfortunately, I'm sad about that, anyways. So I've known her since EP and I've known him for the past 5 years and the three of us and her boyfriend once got together and had an experience. The rule was we stay with our own partners and enjoy ourselves. We started out that way and then went to different rooms and enjoyed our partners. I think we have an established trust bond about what we will and won't do. Which is strange to me because that's what I should have in my marriage right?
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Post by mirrororchid on Nov 20, 2023 21:43:47 GMT -5
I cannot help but wonder how many marriages would not have failed if not for the vow of "forsaking all others." [stats appear to indicate anywhere from 10-50% of divorces involve affairs]
How many more marriages would not listlessly plod along on life support, but be actually happy if loving a friend in addition to one's spouse weren't defined as "failure"?
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Post by worksforme2 on Nov 21, 2023 5:52:27 GMT -5
I cannot help but wonder how many marriages would not have failed if not for the vow of "forsaking all others." [stats appear to indicate anywhere from 10-50% of divorces involve affairs] How many more marriages would not listlessly plod along on life support, but be actually happy if loving a friend in addition to one's spouse weren't defined as "failure"? I have to disagree with one of your presumptions above. I personally would not define as failure, the outsourcing of one's sexual wants, wishes or needs to a friend. Not when one's spouse makes the unilaterial decision to end intimacy without so much as a "by your leave". At that point the lustless spouse has lost the right to claim spousal territorial integrity in the marriage. Not when that integrity has been sh*tcanned and tossed out. At that point it becomes a legit fallback position in my book. It's like the Korean war general who was quizzed as to his retreating when surrounded by enemy troops. I'm not retreating he said, I'm attacking in a different direction. |
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