miestas
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Post by miestas on Nov 13, 2023 11:05:38 GMT -5
Kids not communicating. I think modern technology has influenced this. If they don't like someone, they block them on social media. So, they don't think twice about blocking a loved one for whatever frivolous reason. My youngest just turned 21 and took control of her UGMA. I haven't heard back from her for two months. My eldest, same thing, but four years this month. They're independently wealthy now so they don't need to suck up to their father. So, I can speculate. Everyone needs a villain in their lives. Without a real villain, the imagination takes over, with the likely assistance of an influential adult to feed that need. In time, I trust they will wake up to this, but I don't know if it will be before I shuffle off this mortal coil. I hope everyone else's kids are less stubborn. I am so sorry to hear that about your kids. I have had a similar experience with a niece who is constantly brainwashed by her malicious mom (my sister-in-law ) into believing that everybody in her family is a monster. She does this mainly through social media, so I couldn’t agree with you more about social media. For something that was envisioned as a way to bring people together, the unintended consequences were that evil people can now reach out and touch other people’s lives without ever having to leave their home. People can now say and do things to others that they would never consider saying or doing to another human being IRL. I’m too lazy to do the research at the moment but I am willing to bet that beginning with the advent of social media platforms, there is a concomitant rise in mental disease like depression, anxiety, and suicide - especially in kids who have grown up with the pestilence of social media without first establishing their own common sense and feelings of self-worth. (And yes, I am aware of the hypocrisy of stating this on a social media platform 🙂) |
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Missingout
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Post by Missingout on Nov 13, 2023 14:50:48 GMT -5
Kids not communicating. I think modern technology has influenced this. If they don't like someone, they block them on social media. So, they don't think twice about blocking a loved one for whatever frivolous reason. My youngest just turned 21 and took control of her UGMA. I haven't heard back from her for two months. My eldest, same thing, but four years this month. They're independently wealthy now so they don't need to suck up to their father. So, I can speculate. Everyone needs a villain in their lives. Without a real villain, the imagination takes over, with the likely assistance of an influential adult to feed that need. In time, I trust they will wake up to this, but I don't know if it will be before I shuffle off this mortal coil. I hope everyone else's kids are less stubborn. |
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Missingout
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Post by Missingout on Nov 13, 2023 14:57:49 GMT -5
Ironhamster hang in there brother. Just love them unconditionally and reach out and let them know you’re thinking of them. They will come around
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miestas
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Post by miestas on Nov 13, 2023 16:16:55 GMT -5
Ironhamster hang in there brother. Just love them unconditionally and reach out and let them know you’re thinking of them. They will come around I agree with that. One of my daughters left home a couple years ago because we laid down the law about her drug use (supplied by the aforementioned POS sister-in-law). Didn’t hear from her for 2 years. She refused all contact, but I kept trying: invites to family events, holidays, birthdays, etc. Always sent messages through other people that the door was and always would be open. This year she contacted me out of the blue. Didn’t need anything, just wanted to reconnect. Just don’t give up. You are their dad and that is a powerful thing. They will always remember that. |
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Post by ironhamster on Nov 14, 2023 3:26:36 GMT -5
Ironhamster hang in there brother. Just love them unconditionally and reach out and let them know you’re thinking of them. They will come around I am reminded of Ronald Reagan. His biological children didn't want any part of his legacy. Late in life, when he was diagnosed with Alzheimers, he wrote a touching letter to his estranged biological daughter, explaining his impending demise and begging her to reunite with him before he faded away. She never saw him again. We only know of this letter because she sold it for drug money. I am relieved that I am not famous and such a letter from me could not be sold for much of anything. |
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Post by deadzone75 on Nov 15, 2023 1:22:00 GMT -5
Please don't throw the phrase PTSD around so lightly. It is a debilitating, sometimes life-threatening, serious mental affliction. Similarly, people make light of conditions like OCD and depression. Please don't assume someone who suggests they or others may have PTSD is suggesting it lightly. Some members here have suffered worse than others, longer than others, and may have not been able to cope as well as others. |
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