Co-habitating?

m76 Full Member Posts: 416	Co-habitating? Oct 30, 2023 7:24:40 GMT -5 via mobile mirrororchid and cmac like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by m76 on Oct 30, 2023 7:24:40 GMT -5 Does anyone here have any experience separating but staying with your ex in the same house?

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Co-habitating? Oct 30, 2023 7:42:43 GMT -5 ggold, toughtiger, and 1 more like this

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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 30, 2023 7:42:43 GMT -5

A # of the members have done this, includung me. NC requires a yr. of seperation before filing for a divorce. My now X and I lived together during most of that year while she looked for another home. I helped her select the townhouse she eventually bought. It wasn't a bad experience. We remained civil the whole time and we are still civil today. But we are more like aquantances now than former spouses.

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Co-habitating? Oct 30, 2023 19:17:57 GMT -5 worksforme2, h, and 1 more like this

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Post by mirrororchid on Oct 30, 2023 19:17:57 GMT -5

I've thought it would be a very good plan for co-parents if you can alter the home into separate living areas the kids can migrate back and forth to.

Assuming you've been able to afford the home before, you can afford the apartment you carve out of it.

You know the neighborhood, the kids stay in their own school, there's no shuttling kids to and fro.

Your commute is no worse than before.

The stability may counteract the drama of a divorce. Supposedly you shouldn't change more than one major thing in your life at a time. This plan would fit pretty well.
Set up the two apartments in the one home. Let the new living arrangements settle in, then date/divorce.

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