silent treatment and childish actions
Dec 14, 2023 15:53:30 GMT -5
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Post by Missingout on Dec 14, 2023 15:53:30 GMT -5
i went back to work and trying to gain more financial cushion.... he managed to do less then before .....
first weekend i asked what to shop for in food as i do not have all day to cook any longer .... NO help ... NO suggestions....
i told him my boss told me about a restaurant .........he decides we need to go.... as we left the restaurant he said "it was a good thing he found this place."... he never heard of it until i mentioned the comment from MY boss. everything i mention he wants to again come up with something better or claim credit.
i told him i needed to shop for some things.... one was socks ................i got a 15 minute lecture about the brand and type He buys and how they are much more superior... flashed my breasts at him told him i am NOT a dude and do not need old man socks. marched outside to fix an area of gutter that was leaking while he sat on couch and online shopped for god only know what .......he spends hours online at Amazon ... nothing shows up at house.
"irreconcilable differences" is the legal term for it.
On one hand it's " why chasing". Then on the other hand it's learning how to set boundaries and enforce them ,as you continue to press forward with a new partner in the future.
PS: Don't be buying socks and underwear for an adult! let him do his own damn shopping for 'basics', let him choose what he wants,and/or let him go without, like raising a child. Start detaching yourself more and more. Set boundaries.
Exactly where I'm finding myself.. As I look at my past with my wife I see the pattern you speak of. Things that she controlled and I am no longer letting her do this to me. She asked for an apology last night for me going to a bar this past Sunday to watch football with my friends. Which I don't hang out at bars very often but it has always upset her if I do. In the past I used to feel guilty but now I will be going as often as I feel with no apologies. She is seeing my transformation and she doesn't like it . Always asked if she would like to join me but she is a hermit and always says no. Very invigorating in deed.
