Post by shamwow on Apr 1, 2023 8:30:22 GMT -5
So just for the hell of it, I asked Chat-GPT the following question:
Why do people who do not like sex marry other people who do like sex resulting in a sexless marriage
Here is it's answer:
There are many possible reasons why people who do not like sex may marry someone who does like sex, resulting in a sexless marriage. Here are a few possible explanations:
- Pressure from society or family: Some people may feel pressure to get married, even if they don't have a strong desire for sex or physical intimacy. They may believe that getting married is the "normal" or "expected" thing to do, or they may feel pressure from their family or culture to marry.
- Lack of understanding or communication: Sometimes, people enter into marriages without fully understanding their own sexual desires or without communicating clearly with their partner about their needs and preferences. This can lead to a situation where one partner wants sex and the other does not, resulting in a sexless marriage.
- Belief that sex is not important: Some people may believe that sex is not an important part of a relationship or that it is something that can be easily sacrificed for the sake of other aspects of the relationship, such as companionship or financial security.
- Fear of being alone: For some people, the idea of being single or alone is more frightening than the idea of being in a sexless marriage. They may feel that they need a partner for emotional support or companionship, even if they are not interested in sex.
- Religious or cultural beliefs: In some religions or cultures, sex is viewed as a taboo or sinful activity, and some individuals may avoid it altogether or limit it to procreation within marriage.
It's important to note that a sexless marriage can be challenging for both partners, and it's important for couples to communicate openly and honestly about their needs and desires. If one partner does not enjoy sex or is not interested in it, it's important to work together to find a solution that works for both partners, whether that involves seeking therapy or counseling, exploring alternative forms of intimacy, or finding other ways to connect emotionally and physically.
Post by shamwow on Apr 1, 2023 8:36:18 GMT -5
So next I posed the following question:
What are my options in a sexless marriage if I am the high libido partner?
Being in a sexless marriage can be frustrating and difficult, especially if you are the high libido partner. Here are some options you may want to consider:
Communicate with your partner: The first step is to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your needs and desires. It's important to approach the conversation in a non-judgmental way and to listen to your partner's perspective as well. Work together to find a solution that works for both of you.
Seek therapy or counseling: If communication alone is not enough, you may want to consider seeking therapy or counseling. A therapist or counselor can help you and your partner explore the underlying issues that may be contributing to the sexless marriage and find ways to improve your sexual relationship.
Explore alternative forms of intimacy: If your partner is not interested in sex, you may want to explore other forms of intimacy that you both enjoy. This could include things like cuddling, kissing, or massages.
Take care of your own needs: While it's important to work on your sexual relationship with your partner, it's also important to take care of your own needs. This could include exploring solo sex, finding other outlets for physical intimacy (such as exercise or dancing), or seeking out platonic relationships that provide emotional connection.
Consider ending the relationship: Ultimately, if you feel that your needs are not being met and the situation is not improving, you may need to consider ending the relationship. This is a difficult decision, and it's important to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist to help you navigate this process.
Remember that every relationship is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution to a sexless marriage. It's important to find a solution that works for both you and your partner, and to prioritize communication, respect, and empathy throughout the process.
AI says it's OK to stay and work on it or leave. But I don't see the cheat option...
Post by shamwow on Apr 1, 2023 8:45:49 GMT -5
So I decided to get a bit more direct and asked this:
Is it OK to cheat if I'm in a sexless marriage?
No, it is not okay to cheat if you are in a sexless marriage. Cheating violates the trust and commitment that you have made to your partner and can cause significant emotional harm to both your partner and yourself.
If you are feeling unfulfilled in your sexual relationship, it's important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your needs and desires, and to work together to find a solution that works for both of you. This may involve seeking therapy or counseling, exploring alternative forms of intimacy, or finding other ways to connect emotionally and physically.
If you find that your needs are not being met and the situation is not improving, it may be necessary to re-evaluate your relationship and make difficult decisions about the future. However, cheating is not a healthy or ethical way to address the issue, and can cause significant damage to your relationship and to yourself.
So.... When I was in my SM I didn't cheat. I left. You'd think I'd bask in the moral approval from a neural network, but oddly this answer just irritated me. Easy advice from a machine that doesn't feel any emotions.
Those complex emotions are what makes us human. I am kind of chuckling at myself that I'm irritated at the AI for agreeing with the choice I made.
So there you have it from the machine... AI says we have 3 choices: Stay, Leave, or exercise more / get a platonic friend... Lol
Post by ironhamster on Apr 1, 2023 20:45:17 GMT -5
So, I started up a ChatGPT account. My curiosity has been spurred. It took me some iterations to get here, but eventually you can set a logical trap.
Q: If the cause of a sexless marriage cannot be fixed by professional counseling, what should the high libido spouse do to see that their needs are met?
A: If the cause of a sexless marriage cannot be fixed by professional counseling, it is important for the high libido spouse to communicate openly and honestly with their partner about their needs and desires. They may also need to consider whether the lack of sexual intimacy is a dealbreaker for them, and whether they are willing to stay in a relationship that does not meet their sexual needs.
If the high libido spouse is willing to stay in the marriage, they may need to find ways to meet their sexual needs outside of the marriage, such as through self-pleasure or engaging in sexual activity with the partner's consent. It is important to note that engaging in sexual activity outside of the marriage without the partner's consent can be considered infidelity and can have serious consequences for the marriage.
Alternatively, the high libido spouse may need to consider whether an open relationship or a consensual non-monogamous arrangement would be a viable option for them and their partner. However, it is important to note that such arrangements require open communication, honesty, and consent from all parties involved and should only be pursued if all parties are fully aware and consenting.
Ultimately, it is up to the high libido spouse to determine what course of action is best for them and their relationship, but it is important to approach the situation with empathy, understanding, and open communication.
End of ChatGPT response.
So, AI is ok with open relationships, with consent. Some people might have ethical issues with nonmonogamy, but, what happens in the bedroom is nobody's business except the five people involved.
Post by mirrororchid on Apr 3, 2023 6:34:45 GMT -5
Sexless spouses are not celibate with consent. Chat-GPT seems to match the poly community's fetish with permission.
Okay, Chat-GPT. What if the sexless spouse levels the playing field?:
What should a celibate spouse do about their partner unilaterally opening the relationship?
If a spouse is celibate and their partner has unilaterally opened the relationship without their consent, this can be a difficult situation to navigate. It's important for the celibate spouse to take the time to process their feelings and thoughts about the situation and to communicate their needs and boundaries to their partner.
The first step is for the celibate spouse to have a conversation with their partner about how they feel about the decision to open the relationship without their consent. They can express their concerns, fears, and feelings about the situation and ask their partner to listen to them and respect their perspective.
If the celibate spouse is not comfortable with the idea of an open relationship, they should communicate this to their partner and discuss ways to move forward in a way that is respectful to both partners. This could involve seeking the help of a therapist or counselor to work through any underlying issues in the relationship and to explore other options for addressing any dissatisfaction or lack of intimacy.
If the partner continues to push for an open relationship without the celibate spouse's consent, the celibate spouse may need to consider their own boundaries and whether or not the relationship is sustainable. It's important for both partners to be on the same page and to have mutual respect for each other's needs and boundaries in a relationship.
Ultimately, the celibate spouse should prioritize their own needs and well-being in this situation and seek out support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals if needed.
Fair. Though I dare say the celibate partner is pursuing their own needs already, just badly.
Might've been helpful if Chat-GPT had suggested individual therapy to see whether she needs to investigate her peculiar demands of marriage.
Accepting divorce or reconciling the obstacle to intimacy would be good outcomes, but the spouse's distress appears inadequate motivation.
If you cannot accept your spouse anymore, you need to change that, or declare the state of affairs so the marcel can take productive action towards acceptance, supplementation, or departure.