Post by mirrororchid on Jan 24, 2023 19:58:10 GMT -5
Okay, that was weird.
Mrs. Mirrororchid and daughter are watching "Manifest". Episode 2.
I come in, near the beginning, but didn't see episode 1.
The premise, I think, is a plane vanishes in midair. Lands five years later.
One plotline is the woman who got herself a boyfriend in the intervening years and now is all torn up, not wanting to leave her beau, but not wantiing to leave blameless husband.
Oh, the torment! The drama! Cruel, cruel world!
Anyone reading my posts at ILIASM knows why I snickered at her angst.
She's gotta sit these two down and tell 'em what's what and how it's gonna be.
My daughter inquired why I was amused and I explained the hapless wife had just been put in a ridiculously impossible situation. She shouldn't have to choose.
My wife, knowing I dated and also aware I was in a polyamorous hinge in my late twenties suddenly blurts out how I expect her to allow an opened marriage.
Vivian explains the distinction of the bizarre situation, but Mrs. M.O. doesn't let it go at that and tells our daughter that I dated.
Daughter is thunderstruck.
I asked out loud if there were any other parts of our history that someone would like to explain.
The subject got dropped right quick.
I'm pretty sure my wife knew why I was insisting on opening the marriage cuz within a month she reset hard and it's lasted three years. No, she knows damn well why I was getting a second lover and it didn't make her look too rosy, so... sleeping dogs were let to lie.
Later that night, I was able to tell my daughter that one date ended with a handshake, the other in a hug (initiated by the lady). That was it.
Asked if I meant it to be more, I said yes, but her mother had fixed the deal breaker she'd given me.
Told two wrongs don't make a right, she pointed out. After a moment of thought, I said, if someone hits you with brass knuckles, then you steal the brass knuckles, is the second crime as bad? Do you see how the second crime could be entirely reasonable?
"Well, if it's to protect yourself." she wavered.
"Pretty much." I said.
She said she didn't understand and I said that was likely for the best.
Later come to find out that she and her beau are not formally exclusive and its not impossible they may be open someday.
Later, that weekend, Mrs. MirrorOrchid initiates and we have some marital bliss together.
I'm unsure she's angry, exactly.
Just kind of a weird place to be.
On the major plus side, the secret is gone. My daughter knows we struggled and recovered. It went about as well as I could hope.
Mrs. Mirrororchid and daughter are watching "Manifest". Episode 2.
I come in, near the beginning, but didn't see episode 1.
The premise, I think, is a plane vanishes in midair. Lands five years later.
One plotline is the woman who got herself a boyfriend in the intervening years and now is all torn up, not wanting to leave her beau, but not wantiing to leave blameless husband.
Oh, the torment! The drama! Cruel, cruel world!
Anyone reading my posts at ILIASM knows why I snickered at her angst.
She's gotta sit these two down and tell 'em what's what and how it's gonna be.
My daughter inquired why I was amused and I explained the hapless wife had just been put in a ridiculously impossible situation. She shouldn't have to choose.
My wife, knowing I dated and also aware I was in a polyamorous hinge in my late twenties suddenly blurts out how I expect her to allow an opened marriage.
Vivian explains the distinction of the bizarre situation, but Mrs. M.O. doesn't let it go at that and tells our daughter that I dated.
Daughter is thunderstruck.
I asked out loud if there were any other parts of our history that someone would like to explain.
The subject got dropped right quick.
I'm pretty sure my wife knew why I was insisting on opening the marriage cuz within a month she reset hard and it's lasted three years. No, she knows damn well why I was getting a second lover and it didn't make her look too rosy, so... sleeping dogs were let to lie.
Later that night, I was able to tell my daughter that one date ended with a handshake, the other in a hug (initiated by the lady). That was it.
Asked if I meant it to be more, I said yes, but her mother had fixed the deal breaker she'd given me.
Told two wrongs don't make a right, she pointed out. After a moment of thought, I said, if someone hits you with brass knuckles, then you steal the brass knuckles, is the second crime as bad? Do you see how the second crime could be entirely reasonable?
"Well, if it's to protect yourself." she wavered.
"Pretty much." I said.
She said she didn't understand and I said that was likely for the best.
Later come to find out that she and her beau are not formally exclusive and its not impossible they may be open someday.
Later, that weekend, Mrs. MirrorOrchid initiates and we have some marital bliss together.
I'm unsure she's angry, exactly.
Just kind of a weird place to be.
On the major plus side, the secret is gone. My daughter knows we struggled and recovered. It went about as well as I could hope.
