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Post by ironhamster on Jan 23, 2023 8:40:20 GMT -5
Ron Sullivan of Peoria, Illinois, I want to offer my apologies to you. I should have warned you about shari, now Shari Sullivan, formerly Shari Reynolds, also of Peoria Illinois, but allowing your marriage to happen was the only way I could get my alimony to end. If you look up my profile, you will find a list of posts, and of threads I have started. Reading through these will give you a better idea of both who I am and who the woman you just married actually is. I will be adding more information soon about Shari's actions, for better or worse. You may wonder why Shari, choosing to not use her Masters degree, can work as a clerk at UPS and still live such a high life. That used to be all me covering that expense. She's still going after more of mine, but, a leopard can't change her spots, and when she is done with me she will turn to you and your family, unless you open your eyes now and take action. Sincerely, Chuck Reynolds Aka IronHamster |
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Post by jim44444 on Jan 23, 2023 12:09:40 GMT -5
Since that ends the alimony it is a win for you. Maybe she will be happier with him. Maybe she learned a lesson.
But that is not your problem.
Your problem is a good one of what to do with the extra $$$$.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 23, 2023 15:58:23 GMT -5
I'm actually surprised that she got married, instead of shacking up while draining you for alimony! ( with one hand in the front of his pants - very short lived- and the other in his wallet) Men are guilty of this too!
Like we read constantly in articles about Narcissist, (onto the next victim/target)
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Post by ironhamster on Jan 23, 2023 17:05:35 GMT -5
Since that ends the alimony it is a win for you. Maybe she will be happier with him. Maybe she learned a lesson. But that is not your problem. Your problem is a good one of what to do with the extra $$$$. It doesn't end the dependency on my hard earned income. Shari Sullivan is still sending her lawyers after more. |
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Post by ironhamster on Jan 23, 2023 17:10:06 GMT -5
I'm actually surprised that she got married, instead of shacking up while draining you for alimony! ( with one hand in the front of his pants - very short lived- and the other in his wallet) Men are guilty of this too! Like we read constantly in articles about Narcissist, (onto the next victim/target) Shari Sullivan is pretty deceptive, but she knows a good deal. She's fighting the end date of the alimony insisting it is the date of the marriage. If Ron Sullivan sold his home before the wedding date, they WERE shacking. The alimony ends upon marriage OR cohabitation, which ever comes first. She's not honest with me, not honest with the courts, and you can bet she's not honest with Ron, either. I let Ron know about this thread. I hope he follows the link and joins in. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Jan 25, 2023 10:36:32 GMT -5
Be careful ironhamster,...if she is half as vindictive as she seems it would be in character for her to go at you for slandering her good name or character assignation.
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Post by ironhamster on Jan 25, 2023 13:11:29 GMT -5
![]() She might, but, I think her lawyer is backing off. Here is his previous response. Number 4, he again goes out of his way to besmirch me in front of the judge. Number 7, he goes on the attack seeking more money. ibb.co/NnfrM6H |
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Post by ironhamster on Jan 25, 2023 13:14:59 GMT -5
![]() ...And here is his latest response. He seems to be confused, strategically, on what I have proposed. He doesn't address any of my details, nor does he acknowledge any of my requests to the court. I've had a lot of frustration with our divorce process, but I am actually looking forward to hearing what the Judge says on February 3. I'm not interested in winning. I just want it over. I feel like this battle is in the final round. Attachments:
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Post by ironhamster on Jan 25, 2023 13:22:00 GMT -5
I should add, if your lawyer tells you that the courts don't want to hear any of the details of how your marriage went sour, find another lawyer.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 26, 2023 13:31:05 GMT -5
I should add, if your lawyer tells you that the courts don't want to hear any of the details of how your marriage went sour, find another lawyer. A lot of attorneys don't want to hear it either. They seem to already know what % you'll get no matter what the circumstances where/are. Then again, they care about their %$$$ in the case. I was also told how much everything depends on " what judge you get" ie: my alimony could be 300% more easily, and for life. So much for fair justice! |
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Post by ironhamster on Jan 26, 2023 15:20:58 GMT -5
My first attorney told me the judge wouldn't want to hear it, but my ex's attorney would make jabs at me. I'm sure the judge looked at it as, here's the helpless faithful housewife and now her powerful husband is abandoning her and her family, but my multi-page pleading breaks down the relationship revealing something completely different. I filed the pleading non-confidentially. I just filed my response to his backpedaling also non-confidentially. I think anybody can read them. I'd like to think anybody can read them. I also hope they are as entertaining to read as they are informative.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 26, 2023 15:27:08 GMT -5
My first attorney told me the judge wouldn't want to hear it, but my ex's attorney would make jabs at me. I'm sure the judge looked at it as, here's the helpless faithful housewife and now her powerful husband is abandoning her and her family, but my multi-page pleading breaks down the relationship revealing something completely different. I filed the pleading non-confidentially. I just filed my response to his backpedaling also non-confidentially. I think anybody can read them. I'd like to think anybody can read them. I also hope they are as entertaining to read as they are informative. My ex must have been advised to hold out until the courthouse steps to give in to anything and get as much as possible without seeing a judge. Maybe seeing a judge ( the right one) is highly in your favor! And the ex and her attorney are well aware of it. |
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Post by tinymouse on Jan 26, 2023 15:51:08 GMT -5
I should add, if your lawyer tells you that the courts don't want to hear any of the details of how your marriage went sour, find another lawyer. Yes and no. Find an attorney who knows what relevant information regarding the breakdown of the marriage the judge needs to hear and what no need to disclose. Judge is not a therapist ao they don't need every detail of why the marriage did not work out, especially in true no fault states. But they do need relevant information that may have an effect in the division of property and spousal support. |
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Post by shamwow on Jan 27, 2023 18:21:14 GMT -5
I should add, if your lawyer tells you that the courts don't want to hear any of the details of how your marriage went sour, find another lawyer. Well with no fault divorce, the reasons for the marriage ending are usually moot. The only exceptions for that are things such as domestic violence and such. I didn't have to pay spousal support since I live in Texas, but I do recall how good it felt when child support ended and I no longer had to give the ex 20k/year. Now I fully find my kids college (both in college now). I'd much rather do that than send money to my ex who used large portions of it on herself. In the end, count yourself lucky, brother, that she remarried. Now it's Ron Sullivan's problem and not yours. One question... Did she contact you to let you know of the change in her marital status (which is required) or did you find out about it on your own? |
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Post by ironhamster on Jan 27, 2023 22:18:01 GMT -5
I will agree, I am happy this is over, but it's really not. I am looking at 750ILCS 5/501(c-1) as an ex post facto law. If they can just add new laws to extract more money in the future, it's never really over in Illinois.
Yes. She contacted me the week after the marriage. However, Ron had a house on the market this summer. If he sold his house, he had to be living somewhere, which is evidence she was cohabitating. The maintenance ends on whichever comes first, and they are withholding information on the cohabitation issue.
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