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Post by Deleted on Mar 31, 2016 9:22:21 GMT -5
Yesterday I felt like Life just slapped me upside the head. I woke up in the morning with dozens and dozens of floaters in my left eye. I've had one or two on the periphery before, normal aging stuff, but now it's difficult to see through all the little squiggles and blobs. I called my optometrist and they freaked. I ended up having to go see an ophthalmologist - the vitreous fluid in my eye is separating from the retina (also a normal aging thing - it just causes issues in some people), which is what is causing all the floaters. They will go away in time, but there is still a possibility of a retinal tear so I'm not allowed to lift anything heavy and do anything that will "vibrate your head very much" ( I swear he actually said this). So - no lifting, no running, nothing that causes physical exertion. I'm supposed to rest and take it easy.
I am half in the house and half in my new apartment. There is still so much to sort, move, clean and now I can't lift anything. Or I can - if I want to risk tearing my retina and ending up in surgery or losing my sight in my left eye. There's a lovely choice for you. All my life, my answer to most every problem is to put my head down and work as hard as I can. I don't know any other way to function - what do I do when hard work isn't the answer?
And why the hell does this have to happen right now? When I'm so desperate to get into my own space where he can't get at me. I know it's just another roadblock to work around, another challenge to be overcome, blah, blah, blah. What I want right now is for things to go easily and smoothly. Just for a day or two. I'm heading into a court battle and I just don't need this on top of everything else.
Ok, whining and venting done. Back to problem solving.
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Post by bballgirl on Mar 31, 2016 16:19:22 GMT -5
Just a setback. I'll be thinking and praying
for you. Big hug honey!!
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Post by misssunnybunny on Mar 31, 2016 17:07:03 GMT -5
Hope all gets better so you can continue getting into your own place. These things manage to pop up when we are under stress. Whining and venting can be helpful! =)
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Post by sand5280 on Mar 31, 2016 17:12:34 GMT -5
There is still a possibility of a retinal tear... I'm supposed to rest and take it easy... I am half in the house and half in my new apartment. I know well the life of working through anything presented to you. But this is your eyesight at the moment. It's not like a sore leg or a big cut in your hand. I too will work as hard as I can, but there is a limit to what people like us can do, although we find it difficult to recognize or accept that limitation. Rest and take-it-easy are difficult concepts. Again I will say this is your eyesight. You are half in apartment and half in old house. Considerations now: Is new place equipped sufficiently for you to sleep and eat there, etc. How is your eyesight now, are you confident being alone there with the condition. How much stress is it going to cause with extra time in old house. Can this extra time be used for further packing, which does not involve physical strain. You have more considerations I'm sure. This is a big event which you have anticipated. We have all been pretty excited for you. But I repeat once more, your eyesight. I do not wish to sway your decision, don't listen to my foolish advice: If I were ok with the conditions listed (for myself), and there was to be no heavy moving or lifting as doctor says, and I could "rest," I would sleep on a rug unrolled on the floor, eat corn flakes out of the box, and use phone book pages for TP. But please be safe. |
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Post by unmatched on Mar 31, 2016 17:56:51 GMT -5
Ditto - this is your eyesight. Don't fuck with it!
Can you get a temp in? For a hundred bucks or two you could get some guy to come and pack boxes and lug them around for you while you sit in the corner drinking coffee and pointing at things. Maybe you could get one of those young ones who wears cutoff jeans and nothing else and you could offer him Diet Coke out of your fridge when he overheats. (Sorry, I think I went off track for a moment there...)
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Post by Deleted on Mar 31, 2016 23:03:02 GMT -5
I am staying in my apartment tonight. My son helped me get enough things over here today that I can stay here and feel comfortable. He actually yelled at me for picking up a bag, even though it was light - Mr. Protective. He's being great! I have been very careful today - as a couple of you mentioned, this is my eyesight. I was so scared yesterday, I was practically immobilized. Tonight I'm calm but tired. Things are a wreck here at the apartment, but I feel remarkably relaxed. It feels wonderful to know that no one can get in here unless I let them in. I'll be able to have my coffee in peace in the morning without being interrupted with a list of things I should be getting done. I'm insanely behind schedule, but at least I have a legitimate excuse, one even my STBX can't argue with!
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Post by unmatched on Apr 1, 2016 17:47:58 GMT -5
It feels wonderful to know that no one can get in here unless I let them in. It's not something I have given any thought to before, but that feels really appealing right now! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 7, 2016 11:45:26 GMT -5
Yesterday I felt like Life just slapped me upside the head. I woke up in the morning with dozens and dozens of floaters in my left eye. I've had one or two on the periphery before, normal aging stuff, but now it's difficult to see through all the little squiggles and blobs. I called my optometrist and they freaked. I ended up having to go see an ophthalmologist - the vitreous fluid in my eye is separating from the retina (also a normal aging thing - it just causes issues in some people), which is what is causing all the floaters. They will go away in time, but there is still a possibility of a retinal tear so I'm not allowed to lift anything heavy and do anything that will "vibrate your head very much" ( I swear he actually said this). So - no lifting, no running, nothing that causes physical exertion. I'm supposed to rest and take it easy. I am half in the house and half in my new apartment. There is still so much to sort, move, clean and now I can't lift anything. Or I can - if I want to risk tearing my retina and ending up in surgery or losing my sight in my left eye. There's a lovely choice for you. All my life, my answer to most every problem is to put my head down and work as hard as I can. I don't know any other way to function - what do I do when hard work isn't the answer? And why the hell does this have to happen right now? When I'm so desperate to get into my own space where he can't get at me. I know it's just another roadblock to work around, another challenge to be overcome, blah, blah, blah. What I want right now is for things to go easily and smoothly. Just for a day or two. I'm heading into a court battle and I just don't need this on top of everything else. Ok, whining and venting done. Back to problem solving. Man, if it doesn't rain it pours. I am so sorry. This is scary stuff. I know because it happened to me. I see all kinds of things in front of my eyes...floaters, clouds, cobwebs, sparkles like Christmas lights. I was told that it's the vitreous gel pulling on the retina, so I'm also high risk for a detachment. I was never told not to lift weights or move my head. I lift weights and work out, and so far I still have my sight, but you should follow your doctor's advice. I "pray" that you remain well during this most stressful time. I left 10-months ago...it was really exhausting...but you will do it. Stay well. Stay safe. Love and hugs. |
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Post by mathdoll on Apr 8, 2016 4:39:08 GMT -5
The idea of staying at your own place is a great one I think. I made my move as a transition rather than a big 'move day'. It took two weeks and that was with a professional removal for big stuff on one day and then my own back and forths. I have some serious health issues that restrict my physical activity and I get tired easily too.
You will soon be in your own place!
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