Being sexless is as bad as emotionless.

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greatcoastal Senior Members Thanks for the Birthday wishes! Dinner with a friend tonight and B.D dance with the ladies! Posts: 6,727 Age Range: 56-60	Being sexless is as bad as emotionless. Aug 21, 2022 21:27:36 GMT -5 h likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by greatcoastal on Aug 21, 2022 21:27:36 GMT -5 www.drpsychmom.com/2021/05/07/being-in-a-sexless-marriage-is-as-bad-as-being-in-an-emotionless-one-and-your-therapist-should-agree/
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Being sexless is as bad as emotionless. Aug 22, 2022 7:37:50 GMT -5 greatcoastal likes this

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Post by mirrororchid on Aug 22, 2022 7:37:50 GMT -5

Aug 21, 2022 21:27:36 GMT -5 greatcoastal said:

www.drpsychmom.com/2021/05/07/being-in-a-sexless-marriage-is-as-bad-as-being-in-an-emotionless-one-and-your-therapist-should-agree/

WARNING: This article's links are a wondrous rabbit hole. Do not click until you have a few hours to burn.

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Being sexless is as bad as emotionless. Aug 24, 2022 18:49:14 GMT -5

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Post by greatcoastal on Aug 24, 2022 18:49:14 GMT -5

Aug 22, 2022 7:37:50 GMT -5 mirrororchid said:

Aug 21, 2022 21:27:36 GMT -5 greatcoastal said:

www.drpsychmom.com/2021/05/07/being-in-a-sexless-marriage-is-as-bad-as-being-in-an-emotionless-one-and-your-therapist-should-agree/

WARNING: This article's links are a wondrous rabbit hole. Do not click until you have a few hours to burn.

Thanks, GreatCoastal.
This may be my favorite share of yours ever.

YES!! I spent a lot of time reading many of the links,and I agree and appreciate the author's writings and perspective!

Stars can't shine without darkness.

DryCreek Senior Members Life’s too short to live without passion! Posts: 3,519 Age Range: 51-55	Being sexless is as bad as emotionless. Aug 24, 2022 21:09:26 GMT -5 via mobile greatcoastal likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by DryCreek on Aug 24, 2022 21:09:26 GMT -5 +1 for this author. She seems to have good “horse sense”. (I would say “common sense”, but that’s jumped the tracks lately.) DC
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ironhamster Senior Members 25 year SM veteran. Happily Divorced. Posts: 2,634	Being sexless is as bad as emotionless. Aug 27, 2022 2:06:22 GMT -5 via mobile DryCreek, h, and 1 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by ironhamster on Aug 27, 2022 2:06:22 GMT -5 Whoever left the comment as ILIASM.ORG, your post is pure genius. I hope it is read by everyone that reads the article.

h Senior Members Forum Benefactor Working on step one. Posts: 2,455 Age Range: 36-40	Being sexless is as bad as emotionless. Sept 1, 2022 6:35:01 GMT -5 greatcoastal likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by h on Sept 1, 2022 6:35:01 GMT -5 I love her articles
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Being sexless is as bad as emotionless. Sept 1, 2022 11:19:26 GMT -5 DryCreek, greatcoastal, and 1 more like this

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Post by h on Sept 1, 2022 11:19:26 GMT -5

Aug 27, 2022 2:06:22 GMT -5 ironhamster said:

Whoever left the comment as ILIASM.ORG, your post is pure genius. I hope it is read by everyone that reads the article.

I see the same person commented under the same name on other articles too.

www.drpsychmom.com/2022/08/19/try-daily-sex-to-reinvigorate-your-marriage/

Last Edit: Sept 1, 2022 11:20:09 GMT -5 by h: Added link

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Being sexless is as bad as emotionless. Sept 2, 2022 6:08:46 GMT -5 greatcoastal and h like this

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Post by mirrororchid on Sept 2, 2022 6:08:46 GMT -5

Sept 1, 2022 11:19:26 GMT -5 h said:

Aug 27, 2022 2:06:22 GMT -5 ironhamster said:

Whoever left the comment as ILIASM.ORG, your post is pure genius. I hope it is read by everyone that reads the article.

I see the same person commented under the same name on other articles too.

www.drpsychmom.com/2022/08/19/try-daily-sex-to-reinvigorate-your-marriage/

Another winner by Psych Mom.
My wife and I have half of a low-end sex life, but my gawd, what a difference from the shitshow we were before.

So much of the misery was the dreadful mystery of how long it would be before my wife was "in the mood" again. The unknown drought ahead took joy away immediately. I mean, some was there....still had the gushing oxytocin going. Loved every moment, but it was so counterproductive to taint the bliss with that kernel of truth....it was likely at least two months before it'd happen again, but could be more. Occasionally much more.

Our sex life today would have many men climbing the walls with frustration. Our frequency is low. Quite low. But it is reliable. She knows lengthy droughts cause damage and she's paying attention. I have confidence in her. The fact she's aware and investing in something I find critical is a gesture of love that's instrumental.

The sexlessness is bad, but if it's temporary, or there's good reason for the dry spell, perhaps not lethal to the relationship. Indifference is the poison, for me.

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